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活出一个没有遗憾的人生，活出一个有目的的人生

Living a life without REGRETS, living a life with PURPOSE

Forbes Magazine (18 Aug, 2012)

“ 25 个人生最大的遗憾。而你的是什么呢？”

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 学习另一个语言 Learning another language

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 学习另一个语言 Learning another language

• 没有约那个男孩 / 女孩出去 Not asking that girl/boy out

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 学习另一个语言 Learning another language

• 没有约那个男孩 / 女孩出去 Not asking that girl/boy out

• 过于埋头于工作而牺牲了家庭和友谊Working so much at the expense of family and friendships

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 担心别人如何看自己 Worrying about what others thought about me so much

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 担心别人如何看自己 Worrying about what others thought about me so much

• 自信心不足 Not having enough confidence in myself

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 担心别人如何看自己 Worrying about what others thought about me so much

• 自信心不足 Not having enough confidence in myself

• 依据父母的想法过生活而不是过自己想要的生活 Living the life that my parents wanted me to live instead of the one I wanted to

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 更多地和家人或朋友去旅游 Gone on more trips with the family/friends

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 更多地和家人或朋友去旅游 Gone on more trips with the family/friends

• 让我的婚姻破裂Letting my marriage break down

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 更多地和家人或朋友去旅游 Gone on more trips with the family/friends

• 让我的婚姻破裂Letting my marriage break down

• 让我的孩子做更多的事情Taught my kids to do stuff more

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 没有和家人或朋友释前嫌 Burying the hatchet with a family member or old friend

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 没有和家人或朋友释前嫌 Burying the hatchet with a family member or old friend

• 年轻时误交损友 Getting involved with the wrong group of friends when I was younger

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 没有和家人或朋友释前嫌 Burying the hatchet with a family member or old friend

• 年轻时误交损友 Getting involved with the wrong group of friends when I was younger

• 弃了自己想要的工作而选择了务实的工作 Choosing the practical job over the one I really wanted

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 花更多时间与孩子相处 Spending more time with the kids

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 花更多时间与孩子相处 Spending more time with the kids

• 当我还有机会时，没有好好照顾自己的健康 Not taking care of my health when I had the chance

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 花更多时间与孩子相处 Spending more time with the kids

• 当我还有机会时，没有好好照顾自己的健康 Not taking care of my health when I had the chance

• 没有探望一位垂死的朋友Not visiting a dying friend before he died

25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

• 成为一位更好的爸爸或妈妈Being a better father or mother

3 个主要人生遗憾的领域 （从 20， 30， 40 到临终）3 main realms of life regrets (from 20, 30, 40… death bed)

3 个主要人生遗憾的领域 （从 20， 30， 40 到临终）3 main realms of life regrets (from 20, 30, 40… death bed)

• 金钱的领域 The realm of Finance

3 个主要人生遗憾的领域 （从 20， 30， 40 到临终）3 main realms of life regrets (from 20, 30, 40… death bed)

• 金钱的领域 The realm of Finance

• 关系的领域 The realm of Relationships

3 个主要人生遗憾的领域 （从 20， 30， 40 到临终）3 main realms of life regrets (from 20, 30, 40… death bed)

• 金钱的领域 The realm of Finance

• 关系的领域 The realm of Relationships

• 品格的领域 The realm of Character

在人生里，我们总是用以下方法来应对 When it comes to life, we tend to approach it in few ways:

在人生里，我们总是用以下方法来应对 When it comes to life, we tend to approach it in few ways:

• 反应 Reaction

在人生里，我们总是用以下方法来应对 When it comes to life, we tend to approach it in few ways:

• 反应 Reaction

• 附和 Conformity

在人生里，我们总是用以下方法来应对 When it comes to life, we tend to approach it in few ways:

• 反应 Reaction

• 附和 Conformity

• 独立 Independence

在这一个系列，我们要有目的地的生活 In this series, we want to approach life with INTENTIONALITY:

在这一个系列，我们要有目的地的生活 In this series, we want to approach life with INTENTIONALITY:

• 在自我帮助书籍 = 以终为始In self help books = Begin with the end in mind

在这一个系列，我们要有目的地的生活 In this series, we want to approach life with INTENTIONALITY:

• 在自我帮助书籍 = 以终为始In self help books = Begin with the end in mind

• 在工程学里 = 逆向工程 In engineering = Reverse engineering

• 传道书 7:8 = 事情的结局胜于开端In Ecclesiastes 7:8 = “The end of a matter is better than its beginning”

在这一个系列，我们要有目的地的生活 In this series, we want to approach life with INTENTIONALITY:

• 传道书 7:8 = 事情的结局胜于开端In Ecclesiastes 7:8 = “The end of a matter is better than its beginning”

在生活中，如何开始是其次但如何完成是关键Truly in life, it’s not how you start but how you

finish.

在这一个系列，我们要有目的地的生活 In this series, we want to approach life with INTENTIONALITY:

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living• 看见自己想要的未来然后决定我们现在应

该如何生活 Painting a picture of a preferred FUTURE and determining how we should live NOW.

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living• 看见自己想要的未来然后决定我们现在应

该如何生活 Painting a picture of a preferred FUTURE and determining how we should live NOW.

• 向前预期生命和回头活出生命Anticipating life FORWARD and living it BACKWARD

• 为现在做出更好的决定，以免以后有更多的遗憾 Making better decisions NOW and having fewer regrets LATER.

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

• 为现在做出更好的决定，以免以后有更多的遗憾 Making better decisions NOW and having fewer regrets LATER.

• 忍受现在的不舒适和痛苦的改变，以便以后可享受自由和奖励 Enduring uncomfortable or even painful changes NOW and enjoying the freedom and the reward LATER.

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

• 哈巴谷书 2:2“ 耶和华回答我说：“把异象写下，清楚地记在泥板上，使读的人容易明白。”

Habakkuk 2:2 (NKJV)“Write the vision, And make it plain on tablets, That he may run who reads it.”

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:

•如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:

•如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions

•如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:

•如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions

•如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts

•如何获得财务利差 How to gain financial margin

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:

•如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions

•如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts

•如何获得财务利差 How to gain financial margin

•如何拥有稳固的婚姻 How to have a strong marriage life

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:

•如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活 How to build a healthy dating life / parenting

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:

•如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活 How to build a healthy dating life / parenting

•如何避免愤怒 How to keep anger at bay

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:

•如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活 How to build a healthy dating life / parenting

•如何避免愤怒 How to keep anger at bay

•如何避免无法饶恕的陷阱 How to avoid unforgiveness trap

有目的地的生活 Intentional Living

第一部：如何做出更好的决定Part 1: How to make better decisions

决定我们终点的，是我们的决定，而不是我们的欲望

Our Decisions, not our Desiresdetermine our Destinations.

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？ Principles - What is the right thing to do?

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？ Principles - What is the right thing to do?

•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？ Principles - What is the right thing to do?

•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:

– 我对生活是否有明确的优先事物？ Do I have a clear priority in life?

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？ Principles - What is the right thing to do?

•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:

– 我对生活是否有明确的优先事物？ Do I have a clear priority in life?

– 我是否已搜寻了所有的事实 / 研究报告？ Do I gather all the facts / research thoroughly?

1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？ Principles - What is the right thing to do?

•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:

– 我是否已听取各方？Do I listen to all parties?

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？ Principles - What is the right thing to do?

•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:

– 我是否已听取各方？Do I listen to all parties?

– 我是否做了个冲动 / 情绪化的决定？Do I make an impulsive / emotional decision?

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？ Principles - What is the right thing to do?

•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:

– 我是否评估了所有长期与短期的可能性？ Do I weigh all possible outcome, both short and long term?

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？ Principles - What is the right thing to do?

•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:

– 我是否评估了所有长期与短期的可能性？ Do I weigh all possible outcome, both short and long term?

– 我是否违反了任何道德 /神的道德原则？ Do I violate any clear moral / ethical principle of God?

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？ Principles - What is the right thing to do?

•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:

– 我是否做了个共同决定（夫妻）？ Do I make a together decision (for couples)

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？ People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？ People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?

• 明智的忠告 Wise counsel

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？ People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?

• 明智的忠告 Wise counsel•爱你的人 / 为你获得最佳利益的人

People who love you / have best interest for you

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？ People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?

• 明智的忠告 Wise counsel•爱你的人 / 为你获得最佳利益的人

People who love you / have best interest for you

•牵涉在问题或是参与在解决方案里的人People who are part of the problem or part of the solution

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？ People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?

•罗波安 （列王记上 12） - 拒绝了明智的忠告，听取了错误的忠告 Rehoboam (1 King 12) – rejected wise counsel, listened wrong counsel

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？ People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?

•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？ People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?

•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:

–箴言 12:15 愚妄人所行的，在自己眼中看為正直，只有智慧人肯聽勸告。Pro 12:15 - The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？ People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?

•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:

–箴言 15:22 不經商議，計劃必定失敗；謀士眾多，計劃就可成功 Pro 15:22 - Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？ People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?

•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:

–箴言 11:14 沒有智謀，國家敗落；謀士眾多，就能得勝。 Pro 11:14 - Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？ People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?

•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:

– 这些大多数是由所罗门王写的：最有智慧的人寻求明智的忠告 King Solomon wrote most of it – the wisest man seeks wise counsel!

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？ Prayers - What is God saying in this?

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？ Prayers - What is God saying in this?

•在人生中的重大决定For major decision in life:

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？ Prayers - What is God saying in this?

•在人生中的重大决定For major decision in life:

– 别在没有寻求神的情况下做决定 Never decide without seeking God

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？ Prayers - What is God saying in this?

•在人生中的重大决定For major decision in life:

– 别在没有寻求神的情况下做决定 Never decide without seeking God

– 别在不交托给神的情况下做决定Never decide without submitting it to God

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？ Prayers - What is God saying in this?

•神知道最好的，神最爱我们 God knows best, God loves us most.

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？ Prayers - What is God saying in this?

•神知道最好的，神最爱我们 God knows best, God loves us most.

•罗得与亚伯兰（创世纪 13） -罗得的决定基于自然，亚伯兰的决定基于神。 Lot and Abram (Gen 13) – Lot decided based on the natural, Abram decided based on the divine.

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？ Prayers - What is God saying in this?

•箴言 16:3 當把你所作的交託耶和華，你的計劃就必成功 Pro 16:3 - Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？ Prayers - What is God saying in this?

•箴言 16:9 人心計劃自己的道路，他的腳步卻由耶和華指引。 Proverbs 16:9 - In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God

•我该如何反应？ 在下一步，我是否可相信上帝 ? How can I respond to this? Can I trust God in the next step?

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God

•旧约： 大卫在每一场战争中都寻问耶和华OT - David inquire of the Lord at every battle

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God

•新约：保罗在圣灵的带领下改变已经决定好的旅途 NT - Paul changes his planned journey as HS leads

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God•箴言 19:21 人心裡的謀算很多，唯有耶和華的計劃能實現。 Pro 19:21 - Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God•罗马书 8:28 我們知道，為了愛神的人，就是按他旨意蒙召的人的益處，萬事都一同效力。 Rom 8:28 - 28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose

4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

决定我们终点的，是我们的决定，而不是我们的欲望

Our Decisions, not our Desiresdetermine our Destinations.

反思 Take away reflections:

反思 Take away reflections:• 在过去，你是如何做决定的？

How did you make decisions in the past?

反思 Take away reflections:• 在过去，你是如何做决定的？

How did you make decisions in the past?

• 继续前行时，你会如何做出决定？How are you going to make decisions moving forward?

第一部：如何做出更好的决定Part 1: How to make better decisions