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A Question of Character • Does Joe Ryan really exemplify Leadership? Why? • What would Covey likely say about this situation? Why? • What should be done? Why?

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Page 1: A Question of Character Does Joe Ryan really exemplify Leadership? Why? What would Covey likely say about this situation? Why? What should be done? Why?

A Question of Character

• Does Joe Ryan really exemplify Leadership? Why?

• What would Covey likely say about this situation? Why?

• What should be done? Why?

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For Discussion• How do the self-imposed barriers delineated by Hesselbein relate to

Covey’s habits? What does “elevating (one’s) life by conscious endeavor” have to do with it?

• Bennis says “leadership is the key to realizing the full potential of intellectual capital.” Hesselbein suggests that leadership requires high intelligence. Is it a matter of intellect? What do you think they mean? Would Covey agree?

• What does the shift from personality ethic to character ethic involve? Where does personality ethic come from? Is it just our nature? Is Leadership “natural?” Why is leadership, as Bennis says, “elusive?”

• Warren Bennis mentions that “people want leaders to provide context.” Where & how do Covey’s 1st 3 habits fit?

• Is Bennis correct when he says character develops throughout life? And if so, how can it be the key to leadership? Does leadership then require age; can leadership only come from the elderly?

• How do the 1st 3 habits relate to the 4 things constituents seek, namely meaning, trust, sense of hope and results?

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Habits of Private Victory

• Be proactive

• Begin with the end in mind

• Put first things first

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The Transformation to Greatness

• From Personality Ethic

– Superficiality

• To Character Ethic

– Depth

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Why Character Ethic?

• Bennis:– 85% of a leader’s performance depends on

personal character• “Qualities of the Heart” -- Goleman

– Meaning, Trust, Sense of Hope, Optimism

– It has to do with “who we are; with how we organize our experience”

• “the particular mental or moral attitude that makes one feel most deeply and intensively active and alive… a voice inside which speaks and says, ‘this is the real me’.” -- William James

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What do you see?

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What do you see now?

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Paris

in the

the Spring

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A Theory of Behavior

There more to it than this!

ResponseStimulus

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What do you see?

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Exploring the Nature of The Leadership Mind"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters, compared to what lies within us"

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Where Scripts, Attitudes & Paradigms Reside

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Power of Paradigms

•Order reality

•Filter experience

•Structure life

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Relate to Covey

• “…the life which is unexamined is not worth living.” ~Socrates

• “The person in charge of us is us and we may resent the responsibility.”

~ Judith Viorst

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“Leadership...its based on a philosophy.

You have to ask,the ultimate questions of life

when you’re dealing withpersonal leadership issues”

~ Stephen Covey

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Habit #1: Be Proactive• We (human beings) are responsible

– We not only can respond, but we are able to choose our response

• We need not react according to unconscious attitudes, we can do otherwise

• Attitudes are not Absolutes

• Being Proactive means awakening to our responsibility

– It means making conscious those unconscious attitudes that are controlling our actions

• Question what we’ve always thought, explore what/how we feel

– It means taking stock of the focus of our concern (attention)

• Assessing where we direct our energy

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Circles of Concern & Influence

Concern

Influence

In which circle is your energy channeled?

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Reactive vs Proactive Individuals

Reactive Proactive

Being Responsible means realizing that the only one that you can do something about is YOU

Energy channeled

Energy channeled

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Our Way of Being-in-the-World:It’s Our Choice!

• Once I have “this”, then I’d be able to do “that”, allowing me to think “like that” which will cause me to be “like that”.

• By being this way, I will think like that and do those things that will enable me to have what I need.

Having Mode Being Mode

Having is all about things out there--an outward focus

Being is all about what lies within--aninward focus

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“Thought defends us from that which it is unable or

unwillingto process”.

• So What Must “We” Do?– Cease Being Egocentric– Transform our life

–“The person in charge of us is us and we may resent the responsibility”•Requires Intra-Personal Leadership•En-act circumstances: Use every

circumstance to learn about you

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Which of these sentiments are you more likely to express or feel? What does each say

about the person expressing it?

•Thank you for causing me pain,I was getting too complacent

•You really upset me, and I thank you for it

•It’s not my fault!•I had no choice, I had to do it because

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The Egocentric Individual:• Identifies with certain positions/roles and possessions, thus

excluding other (inward) aspects his/her life.

– Stays focused (directs his/her energy) toward the surface issues in life--the superficial

– Externally referenced--focused on things/circumstances “out there”; No depth

• Abhors giving up what he/she has

– Seeks to sustain his/her way of “being-in-the-world”

– Wants to control things

– Doesn’t change; isn’t flexible

• Avoids conscious choice by Re-acting to circumstances (often defensive), rather than En-acting circumstances--not “responsible beings”.

– Not the creator of his/her life, but the victim of circumstances in their life

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We must understand that

• The Ego’s impulse is to resist that which is not comfortable (&/or not familiar)– But this is incompatible with Reality (for it is forever changing)

– Resisting it only creates (the necessity to) change in the extreme.• Ultimately, the price of egocentricity is death--the very thing the ego

was avoiding.

– Egocentricity (actually) inhibits our humanness from unfolding

• How We Choose IS What We become!

– Each of us alone has the final choice about how to live “our” life and to what “our” life is directed.

– What we’ve become (so far) IS how we’ve chosen to be

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Dealing with our Egocentricity

• Write out some typical egocentric (external referenced) statements you or your co-workers use.

• Take on the character of these statements as you say them to an other and let both play out the resultant exchange

– How do you each feel

• Re-write the statements into non-egocentric form

• Take on the character of these statements as you say them to an other and both play out the resultant exchange

– How do you each feel

• Practice this new way of being and relating, daily

First Then

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All behavior happens in a context... no one behaves in a vacuum

• We choose based upon our context--our frame of reference, our attitudes, our paradigms, our reality maps, our scripts.

• Change your context, and you change your choice.• To change your way of “being-in-the-world” you

must change your context--your attitudes– you must awaken to the unconscious attitudes that

are controlling your choices; that are controlling your life.

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How do we become aware of that which is unconscious?

• Make conscious the unconscious attitudes behind your immediate re-actions– Cease impulsive re-action– Be a witness to your thoughts, feelings & actions– Listen (really listen) to yourself!– Seek to understand your feelings & thoughts

• Discover why you feel and think as you do

• Determine what underlies your feelings & thinking

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Identifying Needed Changes

• List at least 3 major things about yourself you need to change.

– Be specific; state each as a goal.

• e.g. “I must stop procrastinating for it stops me from attempting things”

– Re-state each in a positive light.

• e.g. “to stop procrastinating” ---> “to relax and accept that perfection is not possible”

– Identify what is keeping you from realizing each.

• Put your goals into the categories: Interior, Exterior.

– Interior is prior to Exterior.

– Determine what you could/should do. • Circles of Influence vs Concern

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Changing Our Attitudes(if you don’t change your attitudes,

they will dis-empower you and inhibit you from realizing your potential)

• Make unconscious attitudes conscious

• Assess/Evaluate their validity and consistency with your espoused values

– What you Think and Feel is important

• Better to express feelings than to repress them

– Feelings inform us what’s important/significant

– Expressing feelings requires emotional intelligence (honesty)

• Thinking enables us to (critically) analyze & plan

– We need to integrate Thinking & Feeling

• Accept or change each attitude--one at a time

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Making Conscious Our Unconscious Attitudes

(the tacit personal rules we live by)

• Identify the current key issues in your life (i.e. work, personal).

• For each, determine why it is an issue.

• For each, explore the various choices you could make.

• For each, identify your feelings around each choice.

• For each, take the strongest feeling and investigate why you feel as you do--what attitudes are producing the feeling; what rule (or rules) are in conflict.

• Bring conscious choice to each attitude– Accept & Affirm It or Reject & Change It

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Example• “(Deep down I know that) I need to find a different place to work”

• Why?

– What is wrong with the current job? Why is there a heartfelt need to change?

• I don’t feel that I’m growing/developing in my current company.

– What are the characteristics of the ideal workplace?

• Challenging, empowering, trusting, communicative

– What questions arise in your mind when you think about changing to such a workplace?

• Can I do it? Will I be successful? Can I meet the challenge?

– What feelings do you get when you think about changing?

• Excitement; Fear; Stressed

– Which are the strongest feelings you have?

• Fear; What is it that you fear? I fear failing

– What attitudes do these feelings point to?

• I am so inadequate I am not capable of doing/being more

– What new (general) attitude--script/context--can you choose to create?

• I am capable of greatness (I need not let fear inhibit me from trying)

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Habit II: Begin with End in Mind

• It’s not just a matter of setting goals!• You Must First BE, Before You Can Become• It requires getting to know your deepest

values & committing to “Just Doing It”• The Destination IS The Journey

– daily focus/meditation, one attitude at a time

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Beginning with End in Mind Requires

• Knowing Your Depth• Questioning Attitudes/Assumption• Aligning Values & Assumptions• Developing a Vision of how you will BE --the

life you want to create– Consciously Living

• Developing a Mission Statement--how you will use your unique talents in the process of living your vision of how you will BE.

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Leadership is not Management(see Covey p. 101)

• It is the first creation

• It comes first

• It is therefore an Interior practice

• Is the second creation

• It follows Leadership

• It is therefore an Exterior practice

Leadership Management

It is not that one replaces the other, but rather one precedes the other

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“Problems with time are ultimately

problems with authenticity.”~ P. Koestenbaum

Being True to One’s MeaningsLiving From Inside Out

Habit III: First Things First

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Habit III: First Things First

• Internal Subjective Time– Interiors: Your Inner World– The World of Meaning

• External Clock Time– Exteriors: The Outer World– The World of Measurement

Never put Management Issues before Leadership Issues!

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So What’s a Person to Do?

• Listen to Your Inner Self• Know your Meanings & Commit

to them• Cease seeing your work as

external or separate from (your) Life’s Meaning

• Make your Work Integral to Becoming ( to realizing what you potentially are)

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Time Management Matrix

Urgent Not Urgent

Important

Unimportant

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What are the Leadership implications?

“To be able to use the power of other people,

it is necessary to win people’s hearts.

To win people’s hearts,

it is necessary to have self-mastery.

To be capable of self-mastery,

it is necessary to be flexible.”

~Huainanzi