bragging rights 2008
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Presented by Annie Walker, RochesterWorks! Workshop FacilitatorTRANSCRIPT
Bragging Rights!Bragging Rights!
“Nobody will think you’re somebody if you don’t think so
yourself” Copyrighted A. M. Walker/2010
Who Do You Brag About?Who Do You Brag About?
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Backing Away from SuccessBacking Away from Success•Have you created a problem for yourself just when Have you created a problem for yourself just when things might have gone really well?things might have gone really well?
•Did you speak up when there was something you Did you speak up when there was something you wanted?wanted?
•Did you persist even when the going got tough?Did you persist even when the going got tough?
•Did you introduce yourself to people you need to know Did you introduce yourself to people you need to know or wanted to know to get what you wanted?or wanted to know to get what you wanted?
•Did you enjoy doing well in sports, exams or at parties?Did you enjoy doing well in sports, exams or at parties?
•How did you feel when you brought home athletic How did you feel when you brought home athletic prizes, good grades, wonderful friends?prizes, good grades, wonderful friends? Copyrighted A. M.
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Identifying The BarriersIdentifying The Barriers
• Lack of Knowledge
• Limiting and Inaccurate Beliefs
• Fear
• Low Self-Esteem
• PrideCopyrighted A. M.
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Breaking Down the BarriersBreaking Down the Barriers• Imagine the best that could happen
• Begin
• Take charge of your life
• Have a vision bigger than you are
• Get a buddy
• Stay open to the outcome
• Use proven scripts
• Let your sphere of influence help make you successful
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What YOU Can DoWhat YOU Can Do
•CelebrateCelebrate
•Share your storiesShare your stories
•Acknowledge your giftsAcknowledge your gifts
•Be aware of the impact of your workBe aware of the impact of your work
•Pass it OnPass it On
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Making it HappenMaking it Happen
• Schedule Time for Yourself on a Daily, Weekly, Monthly Basis
• Make Use of Goal Setting, Affirmations and Visualizations
• Keep a Positive Focus
• Tap your Inner Power
• Build a Support Group
• Keep a Log of your Victories and Gratitudes
• Put your Positive Attitude into Action
• Know your Strengths
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Some Useful TechniquesSome Useful Techniques
• Goal Setting: know what you want, by when you want it and how you’ll be able to tell you’ve achieved it
• Affirmation: a positive, results-oriented statement spoken to yourself in the first person. It is stated as if the result you desire is already achieved.
• Visualization: vivid mental picture of you IN your affirmation.
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CommunicationCommunication Styles Styles
DRIVERDRIVERStrengthsConfidentDecisiveCompulsively ActiveGoal SetterPersistentOpen to New Ideas(from those respected)Action OrientedProductiveThrive on ChallengeExcellent in Emergencies
Potential VulnerabilitiesDemandingShort TemperedStubbornHate to Admit FaultPoor ListenerArgumentativeBored with Small TalkUnsympatheticTerse Advice GiverImpatient with Emotions
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ANALYTICANALYTIC
StrengthsPatienceGenius-ProneOften Artistically InclinedView Things as “Works in Progress”Deep ThinkersProcess FocusedDetail OrientedScheduledLook at all Aspects of DecisionsFinish What They StartCautious
Potential VulnerabilitiesNegativeMoodyPassive AggressiveHold Things InPlanning vs. DoingGrudge CarriersPerfectionistsCriticalUnsympatheticNon-Emotional
Communication StylesCommunication Styles
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RELATORStrengthsEasy Going, CalmingPleasant, CaringDependableMediatorWell-LikedGreat Under PressureWell-BalancedInoffensivePuts Self in Others’ ShoesNon-Judgmental
Potential VulnerabilitiesWorry too MuchIndecisiveNon-DisciplinarianSarcasticNot Self StarterNot Risk TakerShyNot Focused on DetailsAvoid IssuesLack Follow Through
Communication StylesCommunication Styles
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EXPRESSIVE
StrengthsFriendlyLivelyMotivatingHumorous, even with selfGenerate EnthusiasmCuriousCreativeSpontaneousWilling to Try New ThingsSee the Positive in Anything
Potential VulnerabilitiesTalk A lotThoughtlessInterruptForgetfulUndisciplinedEmotional Highs and LowsEasily DistractedLack Follow-ThroughTake Feedback PersonallyUnreasonable Under Pressure
Communication StylesCommunication Styles
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Advice to those with Driver tendencies:
Prepare others for decisions
Take notes
Rephrase and feedback to clarify
Lower voice
Slow pace
Understand that others may process information differently
Communication StylesCommunication Styles
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Practice risk-taking on less important issues
Share reluctance to speak, but make the effort
Practice positive statements
Work on summarizing key points and concepts
Develop interpersonal skills
Communication StylesCommunication Styles
Advice to those with Analytic tendencies:
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Set small goals and increase with successes
Make a stand, pick a side, make a decision!
Practice saying what you are feeling - Speak up!
Team up with a Driver or Expressive to develop assertiveness
Communication StylesCommunication Styles
Advice to those with Relator tendencies:
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Team up with someone to assist in remembering dates, times, details
Take notes
Practice active listening - stop talking!
Allow others peaceful times
Develop a business/detail focus
Communication StylesCommunication Styles
Advice to those with Expressive tendencies:
What’s in Your Bragbook?What’s in Your Bragbook?
•Individual•Professional
•Personal•Team
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It’s All About AttitudeIt’s All About Attitude
• Attitudes filter reality for you
• Attitudes have outcomes
• Build a winning attitude
““Think highly of yourself because the world takes Think highly of yourself because the world takes you at your own estimateyou at your own estimate””
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Bragging RightsBragging Rights
• To celebrate and acknowledge my gifts and accomplishments
• To share my stories with others and to encourage them with theirs
• To ask for what I want
To choose to pursue my dream
To find joy in my work
To make a difference to the world around me.
““Be the change you wish to see in Be the change you wish to see in the world.” the world.” GhandiGhandi
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Will You Be the Rock that Will You Be the Rock that Redirects the River?Redirects the River?
““Anybody can do just about Anybody can do just about anything with himself that he anything with himself that he really wants to and makes up really wants to and makes up his mind to do. We are his mind to do. We are capable of greater things than capable of greater things than we realize.” we realize.” Norman Vincent Norman Vincent PealePeale
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