ccca addressing parent fears 2013 pdf
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HOW TO ADDRESS
THE FEARS OF
PARENTS
Andy Hust
SpringHill Camps
Exodus 15:22-27
Overnight camping is God’s idea.
And it’s a good one.
Today’s Culture
What has changed in our culture in
the last twenty years?
Focus Group Research
Liz Small
www.smallinsights.net
Focus Group Methodology
• Summer 2012
• 4 Locations in Midwest
• New and veteran day camp moms
• Plus data from our survey
What factors are giving pause to parents
when choosing overnight camp?
BRAIN RULESby John Medina
12 Principles for Surviving and
Thriving at Work, Home, and
School
Stress is subjective
Stress is
different for
different people.
The recipe for stress
Three things happen simultaneously
• Aroused physiological response,
measurable by outside party
• Stressor must be perceived as aversive “if
you had the ability to turn down the
severity of this experience, would you?”
• Person must not feel in control of stressor
Control of stressor
• As loss of control increases, so does
the perceived severity of the stress
• Restoration of control is needed to
reduce stress
In what situations does a parent feel
most helpless? Focus here.
The idea of camp creates worry
The very idea of overnight camp
conjures up much worry for moms of
young children.
Worry and diminished control
• Overnight camp is far away
• Their child is in someone else’s care
for more than one night
• Their control is greatly diminished
• Their worry is greatly amplified
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WORRY
Physical and Emotional
Wellbeing
Worried about physical wellbeing
just no maturity.... they would probably go without a shower all week. They are still learning basic hygiene.
Whether she can be responsible enough and trustworthy enough to be away from home.
too adventurous for his own good! He'd want to do what he saw bigger kids doing, which isn't always safe - like climbing unsupervised structures, etc.
I would need to see her demonstrate more independence in terms of taking care of herself and feeling confident that she could without mom or dad there.
Hard to even talk about
Fear of them being hurt in some way
(physical mostly) but also there is the
worry about teasing and abuse. although
fairly small, its still there.
My daughter has done an overnight
camp before, but the safety concerns
have changed my mind about allowing it.
Hard to even talk about
That is a long time to be away from home (for the first time) with strangers. With everything in the news these days I think it is hard for parents to trust anyone.
You know, as a mom, we feel no one takes care of our child as well as us. I am also nervous about sexual predators, yikes, I said it.
Worry increases when children have special needs
My daughter has Generalized Anxiety Disorder. She gets worried at nighttime and has a hard time falling asleep away from home.
He still has "sleeping habits" that he does not want other children to know about (he sleeps with a special stuffed animal).
She also has bladder issues at night and I don't want her to be embarrassed.
Worried about emotional wellbeing
Some might call me overprotective, but I
want to ensure that my child is ready to
stand up for himself if needed, be
comfortable making friends with people
he's never met before, be ok in his self-
confidence/faith with God if he doesn't
connect with anyone in his cabin/group.
Worried about emotional wellbeing
I'd say Yes and No. I think he'd really love
it, but would get homesick. I don't think
I'm ready for him to be away for so many
days in a row that I can't ask him every
day how the day went, what he learned,
what was difficult, and be able to process
it all a day at a time.
HOW TO REDUCE
WORRY
Give back the feeling of control
Giving back control
Give Information
Start a Conversation
Instill Confidence
Keep in Touch
Listen to Parents
Give Information
Why is this important?
• Helps moms feel in control
• Takes guesswork out of unfamiliar
• They want details!
Give Information
Tell parents about your camp.
• Communicate your distinctives
• Explain the intentionality behind your
programs, facilities, etc.
Give Information
Tell parents how you do things
• Safety and security
• Typical days
• Show them the camp
• Personalize it
Give Information
In the words of parents…
Detail what activities would be water related and what safety precautions would be taken since she cannot swim
Assurance about being safe with food allergy
Do background checks on all the adults/teens around the kids. CPR training for all of them
Give Information
Tell parents what you’ll do for their
child in their absence
• Dealing with homesickness
• Anti-bullying policies
• Infirmary procedures
• When will you call them?
Small Groups
Rate your camp – how well do you
currently communicate the right
information to parents?
Identify low-hanging fruit – changes
you can make right away.
Start a Conversation
Help parents see that
their child may be
ready for an overnight
experience.
“My child is just not ready…”
• Age
• Responsibility
• Maturity
• Independence
• Overnight experience
• Desire
“My child IS ready…”Spends nights away with friends and relatives.
She is independent and shows responsibility ..... this is something I believe she would love and grow from. She shows a huge interest and excitement for this.
My child is relatively independent and makes friends easily; doesn't shy away from new experiences; has an adventurous spirit.
“My child IS ready…”She is responsible with personal items and able to take being away overnight for consecutive days.
They are able to follow directions and listen to their leaders (in school).
She told me she is ready. She brought it up. I had never mentioned it. She is very independent.
He shows responsibility, lack of fear, and is interested in new things.
Friends make it easier
As a mother of an only child, it is getting harder and harder for me to "let her go." If I knew she was going with a friend or two (the more, the better) I would feel better. I do not want her to be in a cabin full of strangers.
Small Groups
A parent asks if you think their child is
ready for overnight camp.
What questions could you ask to help
them determine this?
Instill confidence
Focus on first impressions
• How will they be greeted at camp?
• Train and equip staff to put kids at
ease
• Be organized
In the words of a parentI'll be honest... I have not sent my son to overnight camp... this summer will be the first. But when I dropped him off at Daycamp last summer I could not believe what I saw. It was pouring down rain and the kids and staff were in the rain at the entrance to the parking lot waving at us, smiling, and saying hello. Then we got to the door to go into the church and the kids were lined up greeting my son and high fiving him as he came in.
In the words of a parentThere was never a scowl, always a smile. Every day was the same thing. But by day two, they were greeting him by name and telling him how glad they were to see him. Growing up I went to church camp and I never felt the feeling I had when I took him in and out of the daycamp. EVERY kid matters at Springhill... EVERY one of them is the most important kid in the world. That is truly how they make you feel. It is no wonder why I am trusting you with him at overnight camp this year!! Thank you!
Keep in touch
Example of daily videos:
http://blog.springhillcamps.com/?cat=6
Keep in touch
Listen to parentsWhat can we do to help you feel more comfortable?
A family day visit would help our comfort level
Put kids and parents in separate areas, but accessible if needed
Offer time and ability to call home once a day
Videos of facility, sleeping areas, activities, counselors to help them feel like they know what it will be like.
Small Groups
What else can be done to put
parents at ease?
Next steps
• Look at your website and communication from the eyes of a mom who’s never been to camp.
• Talk to someone who sent their child to camp last year for first time.
• Take a step this summer to change your opening day experience.
• Add a new way to communicate with parents during the week.