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Chapter 7
7:1
What is the Purpose of Dating
� You keep a _____________ attitude about yourself
� You avoid a _________________commitment too early in life
� You make _______________ that are consistent with your long-term goals
Functions of Dating
� __________________ is the pathway that leads to engagement and marriage
Understanding Others
� Develop close _______________ friendships
� Learn how others: � Think and feel � What they like to do � What are their _______________
Understanding Yourself
� Developing a relationship requires that you also share you ___________ and ________________
Providing Companionship
� Dating gives you the opportunity spend time with someone who _____________ your interests.
� Feelings of friendship may develop into a deeper __________________ as your spend more time with the other person.
Improving Communication Skills
� _______________ communication is an important part of building any relationship � Your ___________ and ______________
message need to match � Need to practice ____________ listening
skills
Learning to Negotiate
� Sensitive to the other’s ideas and feelings
� Helps you develop ______________ � Helps you grow _____________ and
emotionally
Learning to Be Responsible
� Provides opportunities to take ___________________
� Show responsibility for other __________________
� Show another person that you _______ about them
Evaluation Personality Traits
� Find out what _______________ traits you most like in a partner
� Evaluate qualities and find those that do or do not _______________ to you
� What it takes to get along with your dating ________________
� The qualities you would like to find in your _____________ mate for marriage become easier to identify
Stages of the Dating Process � ______________ Dating – a group of people
spend time together and develop friendship � ____________ Dating – a couple will develop
a relations with each other
� _____________ Dating – a commitment to date only one person
� The couple may make a _______________ commitment to become engaged for marriage
Group Dating
� Informal group dating � You can improve your ___________
skills without making the commitment
Pair Dating
� Two people spend time as a couple building their _______________
� ____________ date – when another
couple joins a date � ____________ dating or going out-
commitment to date only each other
The Advantages and Disadvantages of Steady Dating � Advantages
� Develop ___________ � Openness � ___________ for each
other � Being themselves � Resolving and handling
___________ in a positive way
� Disadvantages � Limit your
______________ with friends
� Limit your _________________ to meet new people
� Break up can be ______________ ○ Feel trapped ○ Feel used or controlled
� You may not want to hurt the other person
Beginning a Dating Relationship
� Make your _________________ count � Be friendly, confident, and _____________ � Start a conversation � Listen _______________ to what the
person shares � Plan some _____________ together
Personal Boundaries � __________________ Boundaries are limits for behavior
that you will accept in your relationships � What you are willing to say � Think � Do in your relationship has crossed the line
� When one person in the relationship forces that other to do something ________________ of his/her personal boundaries, it is a sign of abuse
Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship Any kind of physical ______________ Verbal abuse Demands on your ______________ Demands for sexual favors __________________ for your ideas, feelings and person
Ending a Dating Relationship � Dating relationships end in many ways:
� May not have enough in ______________ � Couples may drift apart � One partner many not feel the relationship is
__________________ close � Breaking up most difficult if the person who
wants to keep the relationship going ○ Realize your partner will feel ____________ ○ Change your dating patterns ○ Recognize your feelings are normal ○ Emphasize other _______________ of your life
Commitment to marry
� Most people follow the dating process through engagement to ____________
� _______________ is the formal commitment before marriage
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Romantic Love
� __________________ – a strong feeling of attraction that tends to be self-centered or one-sided
� Some people are _______________ when this feeling fades
Mature Love � ______________ love is different from infatuation
� Characterized by giving and ____________ attitude
� __________________ to finding and doing what is best for each other
� You cannot “________” into mature love
� Mature love _____________ as a relationship grow
The Growth of Mature Love 1. Develop _________________
2. Personal Sharing � ______________ develops
3. _________________ on each other
4. Feeling of ___________________
� Chart pg 156 and 157
Making the Decision to Wait
� Set your _______________ boundaries
� ____________ Pressure
� Media Pressure
Why Wait? � _____________________ Consequences
� Values � Does not mean __________________ � Self-doubt, guilt, feeling used or abused, fear and lack of ___________
� Unwanted ______________________
� Sexually Transmitted _________________ � Human Papillomavirus (HPV) – genital warts � Gonorrhea � Chlamydia � Genital Herpes � Syphilis � Hepatitis B � HIV/AIDS
Responding to Pressure
� Set your personal ________________ � Talk to your partner � Avoid _________________ that may
cause you to be _____________ � Never too late to make a decision to
______________
Date or Acquaintance Rape � ______________ – forced sexual intercourse
� __________________– sexual intercourse with a dating partner
� ________________________– occur between friends, classmates, or coworkers
� Date Rape _________________ cause victims to become physically helpless � Has no color, smell or taste