confront in love | a sermon on matthew 18:15-20
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A sermon on Matthew 18:15-20.TRANSCRIPT
Conflict Happens
Dr. Gary Smalley
Keys to a Lasting Relationship
Learn to FIGHT WELL
CONFLICT is the gateway to INTIMACY
DATA
THOUGHTSOPINIONS
FEELINGS
INTIMACY
CONFLICT
Rules of EngagementMatthew 18:15-20
Rule #1Seek to RESTORE, not
REVILE
Be and welcome the little ones
Better to maim yourself than to keep out
the little ones
If a little sheep is lost, go after it!
If a “little one” sins against you…
Always forgive!
Rule #1Seek to RESTORE, not
REVILE
Rule #2Start PRIVATE,
not PUBLIC
15 “If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one.
Rule #2Start PRIVATE,
not PUBLIC
NO
GOSSI
P!!
Rule #3 Stay in COMMUNITY,
for COMMUNITY
16 But if you are not listened to, take one or two others along with you, so that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If the member refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church;
Rule #3 Stay in COMMUNITY,
for COMMUNITY
Rule #4 Don’t compromise standards
and if the offender refuses to listen even to the church, let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
“But speaking the truth in love, we must grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, ” (Ephesians 4:15, NRSV)
The Truth in Love
Truth without love is abuse, Love without truth is
enablement.
Rule #4 Don’t compromise standards
Rule #5 Grieve the loss of intimacy, but
always pursue restoration
let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
How did Jesus treat the Gentiles and Tax Collectors?
Rule #5 Grieve the loss of intimacy, but
always pursue restoration
Rule #6 be Jesus to the world
18 Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. 19
Again, truly I tell you, if two of you agree on earth about anything you ask, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.”
Rule #6 be Jesus to the world