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Building Positive Attitudes In and Out Of The Office Dr. Alan Zimmerman
Hold up your thumb andforefinger about 2-1/2 inches apart.It takes about 1/100th of a second
for Olympians to run that distance inthe 100-meter race. But that's thedifference between winning andlosing.
In the women's 100-meter dashat the 1992 Barcelona Olympic
Games, for example, the gold medal was won by an American who crossed the lineonly 2-1/2 inches in front of her closest opponent. The fifth place went to a Jamaicanwho finished a mere 6/100th of a second behind her. And yet that little bit ofdifference made all the difference in the world.
The same goes for attitude. When you compare age, gender, upbringing,education, IQ, and just about any other factor you can think of, research says thatattitude is the little bit of difference that makes all the difference in success in both
your personal and professional lives. In fact, the research makes it clear thatattitude is more important than any other element when it comes to ensuringsuccess.
So how do you build a positive attitude that ensures your success? Just followthis "4-Day Attitude Diet," focusing on a different skill each day. And repeat the cycleuntil you've built an invincible attitude. It works!
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Positive Attitude Diet Day 1:
Fill your mind with positives
Instead of living your life on autopilot, letting any and all thoughts come intoyour mind, consciously feed your mind positive input. Do this on the first day ofevery week, and do it throughout the day. Read inspirational books; listen touplifting music, or call an upbeat person. And by all means, avoid the cynics and
gripers.Keep a journal and write down 50 wonderful things that happen to you on
Day-1. Include even small things like finding a quarter on the sidewalk or astranger greeting you with a cheerful "good morning." After a while, you'll realizethat most of the things that happen in your life are positive.
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Positive Attitude Diet Day 2:Affirm yourself
To build a positive attitude you must remind yourself of pastvictories. Congratulate yourself on the good you have done andwill do. And refuse to let any self-doubt enter your mind. Just tellyourself over and over, "I am filled with confidence, and I am
competent." And when you make a mistake, learn the lesson inthat mistake and laugh at yourself. In fact people who can't laughat themselves are not only more negative, but they re also moresusceptible to cancer, stroke, and heart disease. So laugh ... andaffirm the fact you're learning and growing.
Of course you may have some doubts about yourself. But onDay-2, literally, consciously feed yourself with positiveaffirmations. As boxing champ Sugar Ray Robinson said, "To bea champ, you have to believe in yourself when nobody else will."And Dolly Parton added, "I'm not offended by all the dumbblonde jokes because I know that I'm not dumb ... and I alsoknow that I'm not blonde."
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Positive Attitude Diet Day 3:Think only good things about people
Don't allow ill thoughts to enter your mind. Look for something you like ineveryone you meet. One person might have a great smile, and another one mightbe extremely dedicated to his work. You can always find something you like.
Of course, you may think this a rather Pollyannaish activity ... especially ifyou're working with some very difficult people. No problem. Simply see thesepeople as giving you an opportunity to learn patience and practice assertiveness.That's something you can like.
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Positive Attitude Diet Day 4:
Speak only positive words
In order to build and maintain a positive attitude, youmust speak hopeful about everything -- your job, yourcustomers, your manager, your employees, your children,your health, and your future. Go out of your way to talkoptimistically about everything.
You may have to talk yourself out of uttering negativewords. If, for instance, the man at the front of the companycafeteria line seems to be holding up everyone else, you'llbe tempted to make a snide remark to the person next toyou. Don't do it. Instead, say, "It's kind of nice not to rushevery single minute of the day."
When you have a positive attitude, you refuse to use aloser's language. If you talk like a loser, you'll end uplosing. As George Schultz, the former U.S. Secretary ofState said, "The minute you start talking about what you'regoing to do if you lose, you have lost."
And, now the challenge:Start Building a Positive Attitude Today
Nothing absolutely nothing contributes more to yoursuccess than your attitude. The good news is you can havea powerful, positive attitude if you get on the 4-Day AttitudeDiet. I've seen it work for thousands. Now it's your turn.
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As a best-selling author and Hall of Fame professional speaker, Dr. Alan Zimmerman has taughtmore than one million people in 48 states and 22 countries how to keep a positive attitude onand off the job. In his book, "PIVOT: How One Turn In Attitude Can Lead To Success," Dr.Zimmerman outlines the exact steps you must take to get the results you want in any situation.Go to Alan's site for a Free Sneak Preview[http://www.drzimmerman.com/tools/productinfo/pivot.htm].
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Setting Intentions for All Relationships
Hether Ayres
Are you attracting the "wrong" type ofwoman or man? Do you repeatedly end up in
relationships that are close to what you arelooking for, but that inevitably contain somedeal breaker? Do you realize once you are intoa relationship that it just isn't going to work out,AFTER you have invested yourselfemotionally?
You can save yourself tons of heartbreak,
time, and energy just by setting your intentionsmore clearly up front and by better communicating those to the universe. Unless there is somehuge Karmic debt involved (in which case we recommend you see a trusted hypnotherapistimmediately), we almost always get what we are asking the universe for.
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Being clear on the type of person that you would like to attract is
the most important part of manifesting your dream relationship. Youwill attract the person you are seeing in your mind. The universealways says "Yes" to what you ask for. If you are subconsciouslytelling yourself that "all the good ones are taken" or that you're "notloveable" then the universe will simply act as a mirror to thosethoughts, whether that is what you think you are asking for or not.
You'll see your thoughts reflected back to you in your experience.
It is important to be very careful when setting your intentions. Ourminds work via images. If you keep focusing on what you DON'Twant then all that gets communicated to the universe is the image ofwhat you DON'T want. "Oh please God, don't send me anotherabusive man!!!" Voila! Another abusive man! It's not rocket science.
It's just metaphysical love law.
The more detailed your vision, the more feelings you attach toyour dream, the more you desire and commit yourself to no less thanyour vision, the more likely it will manifest exactly as you haveplanned.
The pitfall that many fall into is that they set their intentions, andthey start attracting potential partners that come very close. They areamazed at the results compared to the past and, therefore, jump atthe chance to be in a relationship so close to what they haveenvisioned. Then they realize that a deal breaker is there. They gethurt, and they lose trust in the intention setting process.
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The problem is not in the intention setting process. The problem is in settling for less thanthe ideal partner!!! If you openly discuss your dreams, your life goals, and your values with a
potential partner, and also compare that partner to your list of qualities you seek, and thepotential partner does not match up, you must have faith in the process and believe that theintention setting you have done will eventually attract the ideal partner to you!!! You muststay committed to and trust in the process!!!
So many of us just don't wait! We crave the intimacy, the physical affection... We are soanxious to have what (WHO) we want, that we jump too soon. Then six months later - maybe6 years later - we are back to the intention setting drawing board!!!
If you want to attract your dream relationship, you have to keep going until it manifestscompletely into your life. You must let go of any limiting beliefs that you don't deserve such arelationship, and any beliefs that it is not 100% possible. This does not mean that the otherperson is perfect. It just means that you can attract a partner that matches your list perfectly.But first and foremost, you must believe. Then you must stay committed to your vision.
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One thought you may want to consider is that it may not really bethat loving to jump into a relationship with someone who doesn't match
your vision. It can turn into a cycle of judgment, emotional pain, andlowered vibrations. Inevitably someone may try to change the other. Orsomeone may stuff his/her true desires. It is hard to love unconditionallyand with full acceptance when deep down you know you are out ofalignment with your true desires and vision.
Keep the faith. Trust the process. Don't settle for less than youdeserve. The universe always provides. Especially when it comes to
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The Big Picture of Unconditional Love
W Harold W. Becker
Our world is always
changing and even the mostseemingly static physicalforms eventually dissolve tobe reborn in a new formanother day. We, as selfaware beings, have theattribute that allows us to
interact and influence this process consciously. This is an incredible creativequality that lets us shift, shape and mold the world around us. We get to playwith the very fabric of form which is an awesome opportunity with incredibleresponsibility.
As a result of this creative ability, we presently find ourselves in anera of change that is literally transforming every aspect of our lives. The past
hundred years alone has been one of exponential expansion that is affectingevery single atom on this beautiful orb we call home. For example, we havegone from experiences like the horse and buggy to interplanetary vehiclesmapping the cosmos and from expressing ourselves with ink on paper toinfinite forms of electronic communication being conveyed through the air.Even our beloved earth is reflecting resulting changes in the environmentwhich we presently label as global warming.
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So what is really driving this seemingly exponential shift in experiences insuch a brief period of time? Could the big picture be that we are really openingour heart to allow a profound new way to experience life?
Looking around at the results of our human creative influence, it is clearer andmore obvious each day that the thoughts and feelings we hold in ourconsciousness directly affect everything. The power we wield through our
resulting actions is either life affirming or destructive. It is becoming painfullyobvious that a logical, technical and mechanical world needs the wise balance oflove, nurturing and harmony, otherwise we will destroy ourselves. Our masculineand feminine qualities must come into greater balance for our very survival andevolution
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We are allowing love to merge once again into the very essence
of our consciousness. When love is present, outmoded, traditionalforms do not fit in the same way they once did. For example, a whipwill not motivate a car to move faster any more than a dictator cancontinue to force a population to be held in fear. These are no longerthe way the world works when humanity begins to come from theheart and recognizes the unique equality held in all forms of life. Like
with any change, there is a time of chaos as we move from onereality to another.
During this transformational time, we have to let go of things thatno longer fit or vibrate with our new expression. We need to beflexible and open to new possibilities. We literally have to thinkoutside the box since we can no longer be contained by limiting
perspectives and beliefs. This can be challenging when we areaccustomed to certain things being the way they were and attemptto maintain the false perception that things are static, safe andsecure. Only by letting go and embracing our potential do we start toexperience the manifestations of our new reality.
We are taking the first steps to reveal a world based on diversity,equality, harmony, dignity and respect. How? By each choice wemake throughout the day. The world quickly adapts and reflects ourindividual and collective thoughts and feelings. When we intend toplay the game in a new way through unconditional love, our choicenot only affects our personal life along with those around us, itchanges the world for generations.
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When we accept ourselves without condition, forgive and
release the many instances and emotional pains of the past, andchoose to embrace each moment with full awareness, we return toour natural and true state of being. We build forms that are inharmony with our heart not just our minds. We simplify ourapproach and allow inspiration to take us to new heights. Fear nolonger has hold over us and we walk in peace. Coming from love,we affect outcomes and potentials in a wholly different way. We
become the example of a new way of living.
Unconditional love is the big picture. Patience and trust is howwe traverse this time period. Be patient with the process. When yousimply accept you for you, it is easy to allow those around you to bewho they are. Trust that you have the strength and courage to livelife your way. Allow the love to flow from your heart and witness thechanges you begin to experience. The world awaits your creativeand loving input.
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Harold W. Becker is President and Founder of The Love Foundation, Inc.and is the author of Unconditional Love -- An Unlimited Way of Being.[http://www.amazon.com/dp/0979046009?tag=toolsfortransfor]YouTube Video for The Big Picture of Unconditional Love[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OsrO6L4zOtY]
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21 10 Ten Career Skills to Keep You Employable in the 21st Century Karla Brandau
Most people drive through lifelooking in their rearview mirror and
judging the future by the past. They
have a really good view of where theyhave been and mistakenly think thefuture will be similar to the past asthey make decisions based on theirprevious experiences. Even thoughpast experience gives a base for thefuture, there are many employability
factors to take into account as youplan to grab one of the best jobs in 2010 and beyond.
The future work world will be even more global. If your job is not one that requiresyou to physically be in one place, i.e. serving food, washing windows and stockinggrocery shelves, you will be competing with bright and hungry workers in India,China, Korea and other developing nations around the globe.
Competing in the new environment will require higher levels of competence andnecessitate looking straight ahead, not constantly glancing rearview mirror for warmfuzzy feelings about what you have achieved in the past.
Here are 10 skills to acquire and refine that will increase your professionalconfidence level and make you more employable in the 21st Century:
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1.Constantly adapt to technology
Dependency on technology in the future will increase, not decrease.Spend time learning new computer programs but more importantly, use theapplications in your daily routine and strive to use technology as anenabler of productivity, not as a neat new toy with tons of cute features thatyou don't use. To decide if the new gadget is worth the time, ask yourself,
"Does this make time or waste time?"
2.Embrace diversity Get comfortable with other ethnic cultures, religions and customs. Be
curious about what makes people from other cultures tick. Learn a little
about the customs and attitudes that belong to workers from other countries.The time will be well spent as you begin to relate human to human, nothuman to inhabitant of another country.
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3.Be a life-long learner When you finished your last college course did you utter a sigh of relief and
mumble something like, "Whew, glad I'm finished with my education!"Surprise, the new century will require you to be a continuous learner. Beprepared to reinvent yourself, the pool of information in your brain and yourwork-related skills every 4-5 years.
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4.Practice impeccable integrity Employers need to feel your spirit and have the quiet assurance that you
are honest. Even one person in an organization who takes advantage ofcompany assets for personal gain causes untold rules and regulations. Taking
integrity beyond just simple honesty, however, means that when you commit toa deadline, you are fully committed to producing results, not excuses.
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5.Be a self-starter Fire yourself up or look forward to being the first to go when bottom lines dip into
the red, a recession lurks around the corner or the next merger takes place. Thosewho learn to work on the optimistic side of life, not the pessimistic side of life, are morevaluable to the organization as they create a positive work environment that produceshigher productivity.
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6.Demonstrate personal discipline Employers want to hire people who have disciplined work habits and disciplined
thinking. The more disciplined the worker, the less time managers must spendrethinking, retracing and reworking - basically, worrying if you will be reliable. Whenyou demonstrate personal discipline, you and your manager can spend more time on
solving problems and moving the company forward.
7.Prioritize and evaluate daTwo of the biggest time w
world are not knowing where you get to work in the morningon low priority items. To comglobal work environment takeprioritization of tasks and tidentify the highest priority ittackle first every morning.
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8.Be adaptable To stave off obsolescence, organizations must constantly
change and regularly introduce change initiatives. Oftenemployee resistance derails plans for updating processes andprocedures and stalls company progress. To increaseemployability in 2010, learn to be part of the solution, not partof the problem. Ask tough questions that define the future andactively look for ways to support the new change initiatives.
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9.Think creatively and innovatively Contributing to your organization in 2010 demands thinking
outside of the box and looking for creative ways to solve
nagging problems, increase productivity or produce a newproduct or service. When a challenge presents itself, be thefirst to offer a new viewpoint, discover an alternative orrecommend another course of action. Your ideas combinedwith the creative ideas from other employees will help yourorganization renew itself as necessary to be competitive in
the21st Century.
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10. Have the Can-Do attitude Immerse yourself in all the available positive me
material you can find. Negatives are thrown at you thfrom the news, next door neighbors and the nerd in the Teams face hurdles to productivity which causes dissemembers. Management faces stockholder dissatisfactiproduct deadlines. To compound the problem, your mgenerates negative thoughts before positive thoughtto train your mind to see the positive, to find the positiv
the opportunity lurking in the obstacle. If you can mastpositive can-do attitude, you will add value to everythingand be more employable in an increasing negative world
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Some of these skills will be relatively simple and othersmay be difficult for you to implement. As you improve in eacharea mentioned above, however, you will increase inconfidence and competence and create an environmentwhere you add value to the organization and a needfor your personal services. You will have greater job stability.
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theory" to improve, enhance & energize your leadership skills. Visit theemail her [mailto:[email protected]].
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Anxiety and Depression
Paul David Many people come to me and say I don't know why I feel like I
do or how it started. I was pretty much in the dark myself as towhy I seem to get worse and not better over the years and whythese feelings had come on in the first place. Well, in most casesit is because of a period of worry and stress; there are other
causes but in most cases this is the reason why. I receive emailsfrom people bewildered as to why they suddenly felt like this, Ithen ask "Have you been under a period of stress recently?"They reply with, "Well my mother has been ill recently, mypartner left me 6 months ago, my daughter has just left homeand I lost my job a couple of months ago..." Not until I ask themdo they realize the stress they have been under for the last fewmonths. All this stress takes its toll on the body.
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One day I just accepted that, OK, this is me, now. I actually understand why I feel like
this. I need to give my mind and body a rest. I need to stop trying to make myself feelbetter and stop worrying about how I feel. So I started to just accept it, not only that, but Ialso accepted it may take a long time for my body to repair itself. This is exactly what yourbody needs - a break. It did take time for me to feel better and sort of came bit by bit.Sometimes I experienced the worst day I'd had for a long time, but I never let it bother me.I just accepted the good days and the bad ones. What I did notice over time was that mymind became a little clearer. The odd emotion would return and my anxiety eased a little.
This is when I finally realized I was doing things the right way and it all made sense to me.The feeling of strangeness was the hardest to accept, but I became a master at not lettingit bother me. So, remember, it does not matter how long it takes to feel better, just start togive your body the well deserved break it so needs and it will take care of itself.
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The added depression
Through suffering of anxiety most people also developdepression, this can then lead to feelings of self-pity and make theperson feel worthless. The feelings of depression can occurbecause anxiety has a tendency to crush our spirit and make us feelemotionally spent; also we begin to see no way out from the way wefeel and have nothing to look forward to. I also went throughdepression with my anxiety and got caught in the cycle of "beingdepressed because I was depressed." I realized that if I was torecover from anxiety then I was to have no self pity. If I felt downthen I felt down, there was nothing I could do about this. What Iwould try to do is not be filled with self-pity and make myself worse.
The best thing you can do with feelings of depression throughanxiety is to tell yourself the way you feel is temporary and start toinvite new things into your day. Don't let how you feel dominate yourday. I started to take walks and go for a swim to shake the cobwebsoff how I was feeling. This helped me greatly and it gave meanother focus to my day instead of focusing on myself. I believe that
nature and a natural diet can be great mood lifters and also easethe feelings of anxiety. Going out for a run or a walk, taking somedaily exercise, is far better than sitting at home brooding on howyou feel. Exercise in itself releases endorphins which are great forlifting your mood; also exercise burns off all those stress chemicalsthan can build up through the day.
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Your thought pattern is also very important when overcoming
anxiety and depression. Too many people think negatively abouthow they are feeling; this is understandable but is counterproductive and becomes a habit... the habit to always thinknegatively, which in turn makes us feel worse and crushes our spiriteven more. Watch out for all the negative thinking and try andchange your thought pattern. Instead of saying, "I just want to curlup and hide," say "I don't feel great at the moment but I am going to
make the changes and come through this." Instead of saying, "Ihave nothing to look forward to and I hate my life," say "Life is what Imake it from now on, the only person that can make changes is me,this is just a part of my life that I will come through." There are manydifferent things you can say to yourself, but the main thing is to tryand have as little self-pity as possible, to see the good in the dayinstead of all the bad, to come through this time a better, stronger
person.
I came through my depression and it was because I made thechanges above. These changes also helped me after my recovery. Iam a far more confident person than I was before my own sufferingand I tend to always see the good in my life. This all came about
because I understand the importance of being positive. This nowhas become my new habit and my life is so much richer for it. I amalso very proud that I stayed positive and came through this verytough part of my life; this has given me a new inner strength, astrength that I can overcome anything. I now no longer worry aboutanything I cannot change. If I learnt one thing it is that worrying isthe most useless emotion we have and serves us no purpose
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Paul David has been helping people understand and recover from anxiety and panic for many
years, dedicating his life to giving people a better understanding of the whole anxiety and paniccondition. He wrote a book on his own journey to recovery and also set up his own website:Anxiety No More [http://www.anxietynomore.co.uk/].
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The 3 Key Components to Any Successful Change
Mary Ann Bailey
We live in a worldthat is constantlybombarding us withchanges. One wouldthink that with all thatpractice, we would
be fairly adept atnavigating thechange process. Butthe truth of thematter is, making
any kind of intentional change in our life can be difficult.
When we decide to change something in our lives, we make the decision to swapout the old and familiar for something new and unknown. This upsets our equilibriumand can be frightening and somewhat disorienting. But we can lessen these feelings ofuncertainty, and ensure ourselves a greater chance of success, if we initially take thetime to address the 3 key components necessary for any successful change. Thesecomponents are: commitment, competence, and structure.
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COMMITMENT
Most of us believe when we decide to make a change in our lives that weare fully committed to doing what it takes to make that change happen. Butcommitment can be a tricky thing. There can be part of us who is trulycommitted to the change, while there may be other parts of us who have nodesire to change. This phenomenon is known as having "competing
commitments". Competing commitments create resistance; and having todeal with resistance is what often causes us to give up before we reach ourgoal..
Example: Megan wants to start an exercise program to lose weight andincrease her energy level. She signs up for a class at health club and isexcited about getting started. The first few mornings go well, but then shebegins to notice that her enthusiasm is waning. Megan begins to sabotageher progress by skipping classes and telling herself that her instructor isn'treally sensitive to her needs. She feels that she is still committed to losingweight and does not really understand where her resistance is coming from.
Resistance is the red flag for competing commitments. In Megan's casethe competing commitment turned out to be her desire to spend time withher friends. She had a weekly get-together that she assumed she no longer
could attend because she had to get up early in the morning to exercise.Megan saw her dilemma as an either/or situation. She believed that shewould have to give up one activity in order to have the other. Once sherealized that that wasn't actually true, that her friends would be willing tochange their meeting time, Megan began to relax and her resistancedisappeared.
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COMPETENCE
The second key element is competence. Competence meanshaving the skills necessary to make the change happen, or having thetime, energy, and ability needed to acquire the skill.
Example: Lucy was having trouble at work with one of her workers,Kris. Every time Lucy would try and talk to Kris about her negativeattitude, the conversation would end up very heated and both women
would leave feeling upset and unheard.Lucy was committed to finding a way to try and help Kris see how
her attitude was affecting her team and the whole organization. Afterseveral less-than-satisfactory attempts at trying to solve the problemherself, Lucy realized that she was not as skilled at having these kindsof conversations as she needed to be. At this point she had to decidewhether or not she wanted to commit to strengthening her ability to
have difficult conversations.Lucy knew she was capable of learning what was needed, and she
was committed to seeing her problem through; so she decided to hirea consultant to help her address the situation.
STRUCTUREThe last element is structure. Structure is the most important
element in making change happen, but it is very often overlooked.Structure is what holds the change process together. It refers to anyresources you might need, such as Megan's exercise class or Lucy'sconsultant. It also refers to the systems needed to support you as you
are working through your change.
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Structure provides the safety net. It allows you to share the burdenof change with others, therefore lightening your load. It also helpsensure success, as a team effort is usually more successful than oneperson going it alone.
Who do you call when you are feeling stuck, discouraged, or youwant to quit? Who do you celebrate with when you are successful?
Who will be there to prod you, encourage you and remind you howgreat you are and that what you are doing is wonderful?However, we often forget to put this piece into place and then we
are left to face the struggles by ourselves. We can becomeoverwhelmed and give up feeling defeated and discouraged. Makingsure you have a strong structure in place to support you through yourchange can keep this from happening.
Although the process of change is often described as difficult, italso can be an incredibly exciting journey. Change is the source ofenergy that keeps us moving forward and allows us to discover newthings about ourselves and our world. But, as with all journeys, the
better you prepare for it, the smoother your trip will be.So, the next time you are faced with a change, make sure you are
clear about your commitment, realistic about your competence, andthat you have taken the time to create a solid structure to support you.I think you will be pleasantly surprised with the end results.
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Mary Ann Bailey, MC, is a life coach who specializes in helping professional women successfullynavigate the challenges of midlife career transitions. Visit her website at to read more of her
articles and to receive a free copy of "How to Make the Changes that Will Move Your LifeForward [http://www.baileycoaching.com]."
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