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    SUCCESS AT WORK(AND AT HOME)

    through

    EMOTIONAL

    INTELLIGENCE

    --- facilitation for L & T HAZIRA

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    Introduction and your

    EXPECTATIONSfrom this

    PROGRAM ?

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    PAL

    P - Purpose : Is to understand, how we can

    achieve Success at Work(&in life)

    throughEmotionalIntelligence.

    A - Agenda : as detailed, next

    L - Time : 9.00 am to 6.30 pm

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    AGENDA(Program Coverage)

    What is the true measure of HumanIntelligence IQ or EI or., and why ?

    What does success at work really depend

    on ? Deriving the Emotional Competency (EC)

    framework.

    Understanding the EC framework ofPersonal and Social Competence andapplying it at work, for success.

    Summarization and the future.

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    What is the FEELING

    uppermost in your mind,

    when you start work in themorning??

    YOUR FACE SHOWS !

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    What is Emotion?Oxford Dictionary : Any agitation or disturbance of

    mind,feeling,passion any vehement or excited mental stat

    Daniel Goleman: A feeling & its distinctive thoughts,psychological & biological state & range of propensity to

    act

    ENJOYMENT- HAPPINESS, JOY, RELIEF, BLISS, PRIDE

    LOVE - FRIENDLINESS, TRUST, KINDNESS, DEVOTION

    SURPRISE - SHOCK, WONDER, ASTONISHMENT, AMAZEMENT

    DISGUST - CONTEMPT, DISDAIN, SCORN, AVERSION

    SHAME - GUILT, REMORSE, REGRET, HUMILIATION

    ANGER - FURY, OUTRAGE, ANXIETY, HOSTILITY

    SADNESS - GRIEF, SORROW, DEJECTION, SELF PITY

    FEAR - ANXIETY, CONCERN, FRIGHT, TERROR, PANIC

    Primary Family of Emotions

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    EMOTIONS

    RIPPLES FROM THE CORE OF EMOTION

    ANGER

    FEAR SHAME

    ENJOYMENT

    MOODS

    GOOD

    TEMPERAMENT

    POSITIVE

    NEUROTIC

    DISORDERS

    ANXIETY

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    WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF

    QUOTIENTS

    IQ

    SQEQ

    (Move over IQEQ & SQ are here to stay)

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    The True Measure

    Of

    Human I ntel l igence

    I S

    Emotional I ntel l igence

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    IQ (INTELLIGENCE QUOTIENT)

    IN 1918 PSYCHOLOGIST DESIGNED TESTS FOR ARMY

    RECRUITMENT FOR MEASUREMENT OF

    INTELLIGENCE

    IQ HAS BEEN AN OBSESSION IN the 20th CENTURY FOR

    SORTING PEOPLE INTO DEGREES OF INTELLIGENCE.

    HIGHER THE IQ MORE INTELLIGENT A PERSON!!

    EMPHASIS IN IQ, IN SCHOOL AND COLLEGEADMISSION AND AT WORK.

    RATIONAL, LOGICAL, SERIAL THINKING TO SOLVE

    ALL PROBLEM

    IQ GROWS FROM CHILDHOOD TO TEENS ONLY

    MAN IS A RATIONAL ANIMAL

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    IQ to EQ : the Paradigm Shift

    Why are the most successful and high

    achievers not those with higher IQ?

    Why do persons with average grades

    suddenly shine beyond expectations at

    work, display talent, leadership and get

    along well with people ?

    IQ and the Unsolved Questions ???

    colony

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    The Unanswered Questions

    Evidently there is something more required than justIQ in order to achieve success.

    Over the years psychologists & analysts have come

    forth with the following in addition to IQ forsuccess.

    1. Character Ethics.

    2. Personality Tests. 3. Soft skills.

    4. Competencies.

    But none of these were the answers for success.

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    IQ to EQ : the Paradigm Shift

    Character

    CompetenceSoft Skills

    Personality tests

    EI

    It was only in in 1995 that Daniel Goleman introduced

    the path breaking concept of Emotional Intelligenceloosely referred to as Emotional Quotient.

    EI encompassed all above and more.

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    WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE ?

    KNOWING OWN EMOTIONSMANAGING OWN EMOTIONS

    SELF MOTIVATION

    RECOGNISING OTHERS EMOTIONS

    HANDLING RELATIONSHIPS

    A Measure of Emotional Intelligence

    is how well we handle ourselves & others !!

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    EI (EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE)

    EI & THE MARSH MALLOW TEST

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    Emotional IntelligenceChildren who resisted Gratification : 25 years later

    (in their late 20s)

    Showed excellent self-control in the face ofdifficulties

    More dependable and responsible.

    Better able to develop close and genuine

    relationships

    More intellectually skilled.

    SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

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    Emotional Intelligence

    Were unable to delay gratification in pursuing their

    goals, even after 25 years.

    Displayed little tolerance and self control at work or

    at home

    Were less cognitively adept.

    Were more easily distracted / less dependable /

    frustrated.

    Children who could not resist the Marshmallow:

    * LONERS & LOSERS

    -- were UNSUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

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    SUCCESS

    What Really Leads

    To

    AT WORK

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    What Leads to

    Success at Work 1 2 3 4

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    What leads to success at work ?

    1. IQ 4% 12%

    2. Technical Expertise 6% 13%

    3. Experience

    4. EI 65% 90%

    IQ gets you Selected, but EI gets you Promoted

    Practical

    Intelligence

    MIN MAX

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    FURTHER RESEARCH ON IQ

    THEREFORE, THERE IS A WRONG EMPHASIS ON IQ IN

    SCHOOLS & COLLEGES, FOR IQ DOES NOT FIGURE

    HIGH W.R.T ACHIEVERS AT WORK

    HARVARD GRADUATES (IN MEDICINE, LAW, TEACHING

    & BUSINESS) HAD NEGATIVE CORRELATION BETWEEN

    SCORES ACHIEVED ON JOINING COLLEGE AND

    EVENTUAL CAREER SUCCESS

    IN MBA & ENGINEERING COLLEGES WHERE

    SELECTION FOCUS IS ON IQ, LEADERS EMERGED

    ONLY FROM THOSE WHO POSSESSED HIGHER EI

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    EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EI):

    THE THIRD DIMENSION

    Emotional incompetence can hinder apotential performer even with high IQ, and

    technical competence (e.g. two MBAs, CEOof level 6)

    EI is not fixed genetically. It can be largelylearnt and continues to be developed throughexperience

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    Test Your

    EmotionalIntelligence

    Score

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    ROLE PLAY

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    ROLE - PLAY OBSERVATIONS

    R l Pl Ob ti E i M G i d

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    Role Play Observation Exercise - Mr. Govind (Subordinate)

    BLOCK QUESTIONS FOR STUDENTSINDIVIDUAL

    RESPONSE

    RESPONSE OF

    THE TEAM

    1. Was Govind aware of his drawbacks inperformance?

    2. Did he feel that his boss is unnecessarily

    underrating him?

    3. Is he aware of his aggressiveness when

    pushed by Shop Personnel?

    1. How was Govinds able to control his

    Behavior ? Was he blunt, rude, egoistic?

    2. Was he conscious in taking responsibility

    for his Performance?

    3. Was he flexible in understanding ShopProblems ?

    1. Is Govind motivated to improve his

    Performance ?

    2. Do you think that Govind displays or does he

    lack Initiative?

    1

    2

    3

    R l Pl Ob ti E i M G i d ( b di )

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    BLOCK QUESTIONS FOR STUDENTSINDIVIDUAL

    RESPONSE

    RESPONSE OF

    THE TEAM

    1. Is Govind aware of the feeling of Shop

    personnel At the time of stock outs? Is he

    understanding?

    2. How is Govind on service orientation?

    1. Do you feel that Govind is able to influence

    his Boss and manage conflict?

    2. Did Govind try to build bonds with peers or

    shop personnel?

    3. Is he a good team member?

    4. Is he good at resolving conflicts?

    5

    4

    Role Play Observation Exercise - Mr. Govind (Subordinate)Contd..

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    BLOCK QUESTIONS FOR STUDENTSINDIVIDUAL

    RESPONSE

    RESPONSE OF

    THE TEAM

    1. What do you feel about the level of awareness

    of the problem with respect to Shukla?

    2. Was Shukla able to accurately assess Govind

    his performance, his feelings?

    3. Was Shukla Self- Confident in dealing withGovind?

    1. Did Shukla loose his cool while dealing with

    Govind?

    2. Was Shukla flexible in handling Govind?

    3. Was Shukla open to any suggestions byGovind?

    1. What was the level of achievement drive in

    Shukla? (High /Low)

    2. Was he optimistic in overcoming Shuklas

    objectives/problems?

    1

    2

    3

    Role Play - Observation Exercise - Mr.Shukla (Boss)

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    BLOCK QUESTIONS FOR STUDENTSINDIVIDUAL

    RESPONSE

    RESPONSE OF

    THE TEAM

    1. Was the feedback provided to Govind on hisdrawbacks /areas of improvement by Shukla

    adequate?

    2. Did Shukla come up with any innovative ideas

    for resolving the continuing issues?

    3. Was any efforts made by Shukla to send Govind

    for Training or creating environment in order to

    help him out, Develop him?

    1. Was Shukla able to influence Govind?

    2. Was Shukla having sufficient leadership

    qualities?

    3. Was Shukla able to handle the conflict

    efficiently?

    4. Did Shukla try and build bonds with Govind?

    5

    4

    Role Play - Observation Exercise - Mr.Shukla (Boss) Contd..

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    The Emotional Competence Framework

    Personal Competence

    These competencies define

    how we manage ourselves

    Social Competence

    These competencies determine

    how we handle relationships

    Self Awareness

    Self Regulation

    Motivation

    Empathy

    Social Skills

    P l C t

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    PersonalCompetence

    SELF AWARENESSKnowing ones internal states, preferences,

    resources and intuitions

    MOTIVATIONEmotional

    tendencies that

    guides & facilitates

    reaching goals

    SELF REGULATIONManaging ones internal

    states, impulses &

    resources

    Personal

    Competence

    - how we manage our selves

    Personal Competence

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    PersonalCompetence

    SELF AWARENESS(Knowing ones internal states,preferences, resources and intuitions)

    Emotional Awareness:

    Accurate self assessment:

    Self confidence:

    - how we manage our selves

    Personal Competence

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    PersonalCompetence

    SELF AWARENESS

    (Knowing ones internal states,preferences, resources and intuitions)

    Emotional Awareness:Recognizing onesEmotions and their effects--(Samurai/Zen /Teachers Monitor: 150 beeps/min / E-illiterates / Lawyer /Physician / Bomsi): Remember..

    Accurate self assessment:

    Self confidence:

    - how we manage our selves

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    Remember , our Feelings are

    always with us,but

    we are too seldom with them.

    Personal Competence

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    PersonalCompetence

    SELF AWARENESS

    Emotional Awareness:

    Accurate Self Assessment: Knowing onesStrengths / Limits (Emotional)

    Das / CEO ( Stars know themselves well ) Fear is strength / Fear is weakness ( Highway at Night /

    man and the burglar )

    Anger (motivation), Sadness (togetherness), Anxiety(creativity). It is sometimes right to feel angry, sadand anxious. They are not always disruptive feelings

    Unlike the Mind the Heart finds it difficult to Lie!

    Self confidence:

    - how we manage our selves

    Anyone can become angry

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    Anyone can become angrythat is easy. But to be angry with

    the right person, to the rightdegree, at the right time, for the

    right purpose , and in the rightwaythis is not easy.

    ARISTOTLE

    Personal Competence

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    PersonalCompetence

    SELF AWARENESS

    (Knowing ones internal states, preferences,resources and intuitions)

    Emotional Awareness:

    Accurate self assessment: Self confidence: A strong sense of ones self

    worth

    Latin American Airline, Angela

    ISO: QSM

    Caution: dont sound negative

    - how we manage our selves

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    SELF CONFIDENCE

    No one can make me

    feel inferior, without

    my own consent .

    E Roosevelt

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    Self Awareness can be cul tivated through -

    Solitary reflection and Introspection

    Do nothing - reach the inner voice

    Managing your career - taking a new look

    Recognize that feelings and emotions affect ourperformance, therefore we ought to be aware of

    it ( Shyam ).

    Study shows that Women Achievers at Work sufferfrom relationships at Home. Why?

    Stop drifting, come to terms with your emotions

    the sooner the better - Alice in Wonderland.

    SELF AWARENESS summarization

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    Managing your career - taking a new lookcontd...

    Spend time and listen to your inner self. (if

    not happy with something, review & change)

    Asking : Who am I ?, where am I going ? ,

    what am I doing ? (The new CEO)

    Be HAPPY at work and take career

    decisions in harmony with your inner values.

    SELF AWARENESS summarization

    Personal Competence

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    PersonalCompetence

    SELF AWARENESSKnowing ones internal states, preferences,

    resources and intuitions

    MOTIVATIONEmotional

    tendencies that

    guides & facilitates

    reaching goals

    SELF REGULATIONManaging ones internal

    states, impulses &

    resources

    Personal

    Competence

    - how we manage our selves

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    Personal Competence

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    PersonalCompetence

    SELF REGULATION

    Managing ones internal states, impulses &resources

    Self control: (Boss firing at wrong time, one last theft)

    Dont let the Aymagdala Hijack

    Conscientiousness:

    Adaptability:

    Innovation:

    Trustworthiness:

    - how we manage our selves

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    SELF CONTROL

    We cannot always control ,

    what happens to us,

    ...but we can always

    manage how we react to it.

    Self control

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    Summarizing Self Control: The first step in Self Control is to be aware of

    your Emotions. Unless you are Aware you simply

    cannot Self Control

    To be Aware, you have to first Acknowledge and

    feel your Emotions : dont deny, minimize or bottle it (heart rate)

    dont justify your behavior by putting

    emotional labels such as .. I have a Temper, soI naturally flare up, I am a Coward, so I dont

    speak up in front of my boss

    Try, listen and understand the feedback theEmotion is giving you

    Self control

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    Summarizing Self Control cont.

    Most Emotions are an energy. They are at that

    point of time, neither good nor bad, they are oursignals , our wake-up call (stimulus)

    Each of the Signals are Unique. How we Respond

    determines Success or Failure (blame others?) The important thing is to catch these signals early

    in order to be Constructive or else they become

    Destructive (favoritism at work) Therefore guide & channelize emotional energy

    into appropriate / constructive response. (anger at

    being passed over, for promotion)

    SELF REGULATION

    Self control

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    So how does one go about? As a start, make

    efforts to stay composed, positive andunflappable in trying moments (remember:

    it doesnt help loosing your cool on the

    contrary it makes matters worse) Bill Gates and the Asian Women

    Policemen who stay cool, have least cases of

    violence Child not studying in an important year

    Take Personal responsibility at work incontrolling our own state of mind : just dont

    let A hi ack

    Self control

    SELF REGULATION

    Self control

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    Learn to Manage impulsive feelings and

    distressing emotions well:Work pressures responsible for more stress

    and heart attacks (small triggers..travel,

    absenteeism, bosses admonishing, specs..)People in control of emotions unfazed by

    stress ( mmp)

    Self control thro Time Management ( kvm )Some thrive on stress for Peak Performance

    Stress reduction: hot bath, meditation, yoga,

    Self control

    Personal Competence

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    PersonalCompetence

    SELF REGULATION

    Managing ones internal states, impulses &resources.

    Self control:

    Conscientiousness: ( responsible for personalperformance : mail boy)

    Adaptability: ( Leader realized old company

    lessons wont do, Intel chip to microprocessors;Japs, Bicycle)

    Innovation: ( Levis Strauss, Swiss watches )

    Trustworthiness : case study

    - how we manage our selves

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    CASESTUDY(TRUSTWORTHINESS)

    Personal Competence

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    PersonalCompetence

    SELF REGULATION

    (Managing ones internal states, impulses &resources)

    Self control :

    Conscientiousness:

    Adaptability :

    Innovation :

    Trustworthiness : case study, (and housing)

    - how we manage our selves

    Personal Competence

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    PersonalCompetence

    SELF AWARENESSKnowing ones internal states, preferences,

    resources and intuitions

    MOTIVATIONEmotional

    tendencies that

    guides & facilitates

    reaching goals

    SELF REGULATIONManaging ones internal

    states, impulses &

    resources

    Personal

    Competence

    - how we manage our selves

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    P l C t

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    PersonalCompetence

    MOTIVATIONEmotional tendencies that guides &

    facilitates reaching goals

    Achievement Drive ( Daughter like you )

    Commitment (Goals : e.g. Gandhi, $ 19 glove)

    Initiative ( Bill Gates- operating system ) Optimism ( From New York to Houston )

    .Inventory

    - how we manage our selves

    Social Competence

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    p

    Determine how we handle relationships.

    Empathy

    Awareness of others

    feeling,needs &

    concerns

    Social Skills

    Adeptness at inducing

    desirable responses in

    others

    Social Competence

    Social Competence

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    EmpathyAwareness of others feeling, needs &concerns

    Understanding others Developing others

    Service Orientation

    Leveraging Diversity

    Political Awareness

    - how we manage others

    Social Competence

    Social Competence

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    Empathy

    Awareness of others feeling, needs &concerns:

    Understanding others: Breakfast, Iyengar, Gandhi,Galvin, downsizing, boss

    Developing others : KJP : Coach / Mentor

    Service Orientation : Medical stores, Taxi, Dog,Jagasia ( HR )

    Leveraging Diversity

    Political Awareness

    - how we manage others

    Social Competence

    EMPATHY

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    Delighting the Customer

    Bombay Taxi No. MRP 3676

    Route : Dadar to Santacruz

    Driver : Mr. Rajendra

    Owner : Mr. S.R. Rao.

    SERVICE ORIENTATION....cont.

    Cigarettes/match box on the house

    Newspapers

    Thoughts pad & pen Telephone directory

    Railway & Airline time tables

    Suggestion/complaint book.

    Tape recorder at your control.

    First aid box

    Postage stamps

    Stationary

    Calendar

    Watch

    SERVICE ORIENTATION....cont. EMPATHY

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    Service with a Smile

    A man wrote a letter to a small hotel in a mid-west townplanned to visit on his vacation. He wrote:

    I would like to bring my dog with me. He is well-groomed and very well behaved. Would you bewilling to permit me to keep him in my room with meat night ?

    An immediate reply came from the hotel owner :Ive been operating this hotel for many years. In allthat time, Ive never had a dog steal towels, bedclothes or silverware or pictures off the walls. Ive

    never had to evict a dog in the middle of the night forbeing drunk and disorderly. Ive never had a dog runout on a hotel bill.

    Yes, indeed, your dog is welcome at my hotel. And, ifyour dog will vouch for you, youre welcome to stay

    here, too.

    Social Competence

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    Empathy

    Awareness of others feelings, needs &concerns

    Understanding others:

    Developing others :

    Service orientation :

    Leveraging diversity :Understanding & managing

    diverse talent (jobs, nmk )

    Political Awareness : Contract working, Palande,VP in China criticizes

    Clinton, Pai and nephew.

    p- how we manage others

    Social Competence

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    Determine how we handle relationships.

    Empathy

    Awareness of others

    feeling,needs &

    concerns

    Social Skills

    Adeptness at inducing

    desirable responses in

    others

    Social Competence

    Social Competence

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    Social Skills

    Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others

    Influence

    Conflict management

    Change catalyst

    Building bonds

    Collaboration & co-operation

    Team capabilities

    Communication Upwards:

    Leadership

    p- how we manage others

    Social Competence

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    Social Skills

    Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others Influence ( Rapport, then Persuasion: Cjf, Mergers,American in

    Japan, Impression Mgmt, no buy-in, reasoning, dual stds, disparity)

    Conflict management ( Handle difficult people & situations? )

    Change catalyst ( IBM website, Orders:lower margins, GET )

    Building bonds ( Govindan, Bank balance, best friend )

    Collaboration & co-operation (Godrej and L&T )

    Team capabilities ( Non of us are as smart Real Teams.)

    Communication Upwards: CEO, E-Mail, Teleph, MBWA, Rsb,Baldev

    Leadership ( Inspire, guide & motivate. )

    p- how we manage others

    SOCIAL SKILLS

    CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

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    - Negotiating and resolving disagreements

    Handle difficult people and situations with diplomacy and tact

    Do proper homework before starting.

    Stay calm and be in control of your feelings

    Show willingness to work things out rather than

    escalate

    Involve in talk, but in a neutral language rather than

    in an argumentative or superior tone

    Try ways to resolve dispute together

    Handling difficult situations also require self

    confidence, self control and empathy.

    CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

    Social Competence

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    Social Skills

    Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others Influence ( Rapport, then Persuasion: Cjf, Mergers,American in

    Japan, Impression Mgmt, no buy-in, reasoning, dual stds, disparity)

    Conflict management ( Harlem boys )

    Change catalyst ( IBM website, Orders:lower margins, GET )

    Building bonds ( Govindan, Bank balance, Best friend )

    Collaboration & co-operation (Godrej and L&T )

    Team capabilities ( Non of us are as smart Real Teams? )

    Communication Upwards: CEO, E-Mail, Telephone, MBWA,Rbs, Baldev

    Leadership ( Inspire, guide & motivate. )

    p- how we manage others

    SOCIAL SKILLS

    TEAM CAPABILITIES

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    TEAM CAPABILITIES

    NONE OF US ARE AS SMART AS ALL OF US

    Teams are everywhere in business

    management teams, task forces, quality

    circles, learning groups, self managed work

    teams.

    Real Teams Perform must have someimpact on the bottom line - in terms ofproductivity, cost, cycle time, effectiveness,efficiency.

    - Creating Group Synergy in pursuing collective goals

    SOCIAL SKILLS

    TEAM CAPABILITIES td

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    TEAM CAPABILITIES....contd.

    What DRIVES TEAMS towards

    Achievement

    Work towards a common goal

    Members love what they are doingtogether

    Shared competition Strong Social bonds

    Confidence in each others abilities SOCIAL SKILLS

    TEAM CAPABILITIES contd

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    TEAM CAPABILITIES....contd.

    Teams decisions sometimes present a PARADOX

    Sr.Nos.

    Decision PARADOX

    1 More free wheeling andmore intense the debate

    a better final result

    Open conflict can erodeteam effort

    2 Consensus achievedeasily may lead to lowquality decisions

    Too much contentionresults in lack of unity

    3 Argue heatedly provided

    you end up with a strongconsensus

    Arguments become

    emotionally loaded. Qualityof decision suffer

    Key lies in emotional competencies such as Self

    Awareness, Empathy and Communication.

    SOCIAL SKILLS

    TEAM CAPABILITIES contd

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    TEAM CAPABILITIES....contd.

    Ten most outstanding teams had these emotionalcompetencies, besides Organizational Awareness

    Self Awareness of Strengths and Weakness

    Self Confidence Initiative and Proactive stance

    Empathy and Interpersonal Understanding Building Bonds

    Open Communication

    Social Competenceh h

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    Social Skills

    Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others Influence ( Rapport, then Persuasion: Cjf, Mergers,American in

    Japan, Impression Mgmt, no buy-in, reasoning, dual stds, disparity)

    Conflict management ( Harlem boys )

    Change catalyst ( IBM website, Orders:lower margins, GET )

    Building bonds ( Govindan, Bank balance, best friend )

    Collaboration & co-operation (Godrej and L&T )

    Team capabilities ( Non of us are as smart Real Teams.)

    Communication Upwards: CEO, E-Mail, Teleph, MBWA, Rbs,Baldev

    Leadership ( Inspire, guide & motivate. )

    - how we manage others

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    #LEADERSHIP...cont.

    You dont change culture to save the

    Company, by wr iting memos. You have

    got to appeal to peoples emotions. Theyhave to buy it with their hearts and bell ies,

    and not just their hands.

    SOCIAL SKILLS

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    Leaders understand the ultimate power of

    relationshipsWar or businessWhy ?

    Because when everything is on line, whatreally matters are relationships that

    leaders have created with their people.

    LEADERSHIP....cont..

    LEADERSHIP

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    --inspiring,motivating guiding,Individuals & Groups

    Enthusiasm for a shared vision andmission (Alice, Bear )

    --sets organizations emotional tone,

    --leaders change organizational culture--trust their intuition also

    Step forward to lead, regardless of position

    Build Relationships & guide performance,and hold people accountable, tough love

    Leaders lead by example -walk your talk

    Path to Future Success through

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    g

    Emotional Intelligence

    Perform PDCA on your Emotional Intelligence

    Constantly Review and upgrade your Personal

    & Social Competencies (INVENTORY)

    Show Commitment to your Self Contract

    (particularly your disruptive feelings)

    Periodically undertake EI / EQ Tests

    Relive your Emotional Failures through Role

    Plays

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    MATCH THE FOLLOWING

    S. No. STATEMENT ANSWER

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    IQ and expertise help you do a job but ..determines outstanding

    performanceEmotional Intelligence

    Knowing one's internal states, preferences, resources and intuitions Self awareness

    IQ scores are responsible for only of success at work 10%

    The potential that can be translated into on job capabilities is .. Emotional competence

    A feeling and its distinctive thoughts, psychological and biological state and

    range of propensity to actEmotion

    If I am able to leverage diversity, I am displaying the competency of

    ..Empathy

    IQ gets you selected but EQ gets you . Promoted

    Proof that EI leads to success Marshmallow Test

    Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others Social skills

    Knowing your strengths and weaknesses Self assessment

    None of us are as smart as we are as a .. Team

    Logical, Rational, Serial thinking.. IQ

    IQ grows uptoonly. Teens

    One of the dimensions of EI is . Handling relationships

    Minimum EI required for success at higher level is .. 90%

    A person with high level of commitment & initiative has a high on

    . Competency. Motivation

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    SELF CONTRACT

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    ROLE PLAY

    ON

    ???

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    Path to Future Success through

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    Emotional Intelligence

    Perform PDCA on your Emotional Intelligence

    Constantly Review and upgrade your Personal

    & Social Competencies (INVENTORY)

    Show Commitment to your Self Contract

    (particularly your disruptive feelings)

    Periodically undertake EI / EQ Tests

    Relive your Emotional Failures through Role

    Plays SUMM RIZ TIONS ND LE RNINGS

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    EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCEis the True

    Measure of Human Intelligence- IQ & Practical

    Intelligenceare very necessary, but are only

    threshold requirements.

    Success at work and in life depends in a largemeasure on our ability to KNOW and MANAGEour EMOTIONS - as well as those of OTHERS.

    Future lies in picking up and honing our skills for

    effectively using these Emotional Competencies for

    bringing about excellence atwork and at home.

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    M st reading for EI

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    Must reading for EI

    Emotional Intelligence

    - Daniel Goleman

    Working with Emotional Intelligence

    - Daniel Goleman

    Executive EQ Robert Cooper &

    Ayman Sawaf

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    Its never too late, to bewhat you m ight have been

    -George Elio t

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    WWW / WCI

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    TEASERS

    ENERGIZERS

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    ENERGIZERS Cont..

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    CONTRO

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    role role

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    Replace any 3 marblesto form

    Family Planning Triangle

    How to join these 10 Dots with 5 consecutive

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    straight lines without lifting the

    pen or repeating lines

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    ROAD TO BOMBAY ?

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    PUNE

    BOMBAY