how to be the world's greatest parents

祝每一位父母亲

TO ALL FATHERS & MOTHERS

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P r e s b y t e r i a n

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How to be the World’s Greatest Parents

如何成为世上最伟大的父母

Dr Alex Tang

Who are Parents? 谁是父母？

Biological Parents

Adopter

Step-parents

Guardian

God-parents

Grand-parents

Single parent

People whose role or functions as parents

原生父母

领养

继父/母

监督人

干爹/妈

公公婆婆

单亲父母

Proverbs 3:1-61 My son, do not forget my teaching,

but keep my commands in your heart,

2 for they will prolong your life many years

and bring you prosperity.

3 Let love and faithfulness never leave you;

bind them around your neck,

write them on the tablet of your heart.

我儿,不要忘记我的法则.你心要谨守我的诫命

因为他必将长久的日子,生命的年数,与平安,加给你.

不可使慈爱诚实离开你.要系在你颈项上,刻在你心版上.

Proverbs 3:1-64 Then you will win favor and a good name

in the sight of God and man.

5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart

and lean not on your own understanding;

6 in all your ways acknowledge him,

and he will make your paths straight.

这样,你必在神和世人眼前蒙恩宠,有聪明.

你要专心仰赖耶和华,不可倚靠自己的聪明.

在你一切所行的事上,都要认定他,他必指引你的路.

The Seven Principles To Be

The World’s Greatest Parents

成为世上最伟大的父母之七大原则



世上最伟大的父母之七大原则

1. Don’t be a kiasu person 不要成为怕输的人

Oxford English Dictionary 2007

= “fear of losing” 害怕失去

1. Don’t be a kiasu person 不要成为怕输的人 Kiasuism is self-centeredness

怕输是一种自我的心态

Oxford English Dictionary 2007

= “fear of losing” 害怕失去





怕输是一种自我的心态 Kiasu parents produce kiasu children

怕输的父母就有怕输的孩子








怕输是一种自我的心态 Kiasu parents produce kiasu children

怕输的父母就有怕输的孩子 Kiasu parents use shame to control their

children 怕输的父母常用羞辱来操从孩子

1. Don’t be a kiasu person 不要成为怕输的人

2. Speak the ‘languages of love’ of children

常用儿童《爱的语言》与他们沟通




How to fuel their emotional tank with love?

如何充满他们情感的爱箱

The Languages of Love in Children

儿童的五种《爱之语》

1. Physical touch

身体的接触

2. Words of Affirmation

肯定的言词 Words of affection and

endearment

Words of praise

Words of encouragement

Words of guidance



欣赏、赞美、鼓励、引导



一起做些事情给予肯定的眼神

分享意见/感受

3. Quality time

精心的时刻 Being together

Positive eye contact

Sharing thoughts and

feelings

4. Gifts 礼物 Grace of giving

Meaningful gift giving



• 施予是一种恩典

• 分享有价值的礼物



• 充满爱的服务

• 只做孩子不能为自己做的事情

5. Acts of service

服务的行动 Loving service

Only do for them what they cannot do themselves


Knows Her Children’s Primary

Love Language

世上最伟大的父母知道他们孩子的【爱的语言】

1. Don’t be a kiasu person 不要成为怕输的人2. Speak the ‘languages of love’ of children

常用儿童《爱的语言》与他们沟通

3. Don’t expect instant results

不要急于求成

EPH 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your

children; instead, bring them up in the

training and instruction of the Lord.




Don’t expect instant results

不要急于求成

Repeat, repeat, repeat 重复、重复、再重复

Set appropriate boundaries 把界限划分清楚

Behavioural modification 行为塑造

Positive reinforcement 正增強

Negative reinforcement 負增強

Punishment 惩罚

Age appropriate teaching 按照年龄教导

Teach children to learn 教导孩子学习


常用儿童《爱的语言》与他们沟通3. Don’t expect instant results 不要急于求成

4. Be and teach gratefulness 有感恩的心 Be grateful 成为一个感恩的人

Teach gratefulness 教导孩子感恩





常用儿童《爱的语言》与他们沟通3. Don’t expect instant results 不要急于求成4. Be and teach gratefulness 有感恩的心

5. Learn to let go 学习放手




Learn to let go 学习放手

Be willing to let go 要原意放手

Develop spiritual and social ‘streetwise’

栽培属灵成长及生活的生存能力

Cut the umbilical cord 必须【剪脐带】

Proverb 22: 6

6 Train a child in the way he

should go, and when he is old

he will not turn from it.

教养孩童,使他走当行的道,就是到老他也不偏离.


常用儿童《爱的语言》与他们沟通3. Don’t expect instant results 不要急于求成4. Be and teach gratefulness 有感恩的心5. Learn to let go 学习放手

6. Walk in the faith 活出信仰




Walk in the faith 活出信仰

Our faith is caught rather than taught

Routine, rituals and telling the truth

基督教信仰在乎身教过于言教

日常生活、宗教礼仪、教导真理

Deu 11: 19

19 Teach them to your children, talking about them

when you sit at home and when you walk along

the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

也要教训你们的儿女,无论坐在家里, 行在路上,躺下,起来,都要谈论.


常用儿童《爱的语言》与他们沟通3. Don’t expect instant results 不要急于求成4. Be and teach gratefulness 有感恩的心5. Learn to let go 学习放手6. Walk in the faith 活出信仰

7. Stay close to the Source 亲近上帝




Stay close to the Source 亲近上帝

Living a life in Christ

Prayer

Bible assimilation

John 15: 7-8

7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask

whatever you wish, and it will be given you. 8 This is to

my Father's glory, that you bear much fruit, showing

yourselves to be my disciples.

你们若常在我里面,我的话也常在你们里面,凡你们所愿意的,祈求就给你们成就.你们多结果子,我父就因此得荣耀,你们也就是我的门徒了

常活在基督里

祷告

对圣经融会贯通





常用儿童《爱的语言》与他们沟通3. Don’t expect instant results 不要急于求成4. Be and teach gratefulness 有感恩的心5. Learn to let go 学习放手6. Walk in the faith 活出信仰7. Stay close to the Source 亲近上帝

to the world’s greatest

parents

…yes, YOU!

给每一位世上最伟大的父母

。。。就是你！

Dr Alex Tang

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www.alextang.org

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