Marriage LessonsBy Joseph Kashiwagi

Married at 22 – The Good Life

October 12, 2013

Expectations – What should be!

Characteristics of a Wife:• Love Cooking • Love House Work• Be supportive of all my

decisions• Be happy that I’m

working for our family

Observation of Reality

First Month Six months 1 Year

I understand you were busy, so I got us food!Why isn’t there

dinner?

She should have made dinner!

Honey you are the best! You deserve a back massage.

Reasons

Releasing Control

I always make sure to check pockets when doing laundry!

I don’t check pockets when doing laundry, so take pens out!

Make sure to check pockets when doing laundry!

Make sure to take out pens from your shirts!

I hope you learned your lesson!

First Month Six months 1 Year

This will teach her to check the pockets!

She is doing this on purpose! I learned my lesson

…….(no comment)

Learn to Relax First Month Six months 1 Year

Honey, I think you should do your homework instead of going to Zumba.

Don’t go out! I know you are going to get sick!

Have a great time at the one direction concert even though you are pregnant!

I told you so! Next time you should listen to me.

Now I need to take care of you because you wanted to go out!

That is too bad. I had a great time sleeping instead.

Argument Fight

Know When to Talk

Family situation………. What do you think about it?

First Month Six months 1 Year

Opinion of the situation.

Family situation………. What do you think about it?

Let’s not talk about it because we always end up fighting.

No it’s okay I can handle what you have to say!

No I really don’t want to talk about it

Family situation………. What do you think about it?

That is a tough situation. I agree with you.

Angry Happy

Reality – She is perfect for me

My wife :• Loving Personality• Extremely Laid back • Great with kids • Big Heart• Spoiled• Don’t like Cooking

Observing

Myself :• Love people• Easy Going • Fun with kids• Understanding• Spoiled• Don’t like cooking

Accepting myself

The “problem” wasn’t that my wife didn’t live up to my expectations but I didn’t live up to my own expectations.

My wife helped me to realize that I need to accept my self regardless of the weakness or strengths that I possess

For a Happy Life• Observe (Perceive Information)• Release Control • Learn to Relax • Know When to Talk• Accept Reality • Forgive & Accept Yourself