mlm partyguidebook 2013

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Fabulous Self-Love Party Ideas

For Your Self-Love Party

2013

compliments of Christine Arylo &Madly in Love with ME


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Copyright 2012 Christine Arylo All rights reserved. www.madlyinlovewithme.com

Materials may not be reproduced without consent. [email protected] 3

Whats included in this Self-Love Celebration Guidebook:! YOUR PART AS A LOVE AMBASSADOR as part of the global self love

movement you wont just be out there on your own! You are connected toa network, a web of people taking a stand for self-love. We will be here to

connect with you, and we need you to reach back and connect to us to sowe can super power the love.

! GETTING STARTED: THINGS TO THINK ABOUT BEFORE YOU BEGIN Ive puttogether some great tips on how to create magical fantastical energy that

keeps people remembering your event for eons PLUS the things to think

about to make sure you create an experience you love and that loves youback.

! CHOOSE A FORMAT: Choose one of these 3 formats to model your event fromand pour in YOUR self expression to make it yours.

1. A Self-Love Soiree an evening or afternoon for you and your friends2. A Madly in Love with ME Play Day for moms and kids3. A Madly in Love with ME Play Shop - a 3-4 hour workshop that you

can use to create a transformational experience for women or girls

o COMMUNICATE, INVITE and SHARE TIMELINE: Using the materials on the Self

Love Party Pack website, use this timeline to communicate, share the love for your event and the bigger self-love movement

o DATES TO REMEMBER For Love Ambassadors only


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YOUR LOVE AMBASSADOR ROLE:

WHAT WE ASK FROM YOU

1.

BEFORE YOUR EVENT

! SHARE MADLY IN LOVE WITH ME with YOUR COMMUNITY: Like the Madly

in Love with ME Facebook Page + share our posts with your

communities to help share the love

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Madly-in-Love-with-

ME/239910982173

! JOIN THE PRIVATE LOVE AMBASSADOR FACEBOOK SITE where you will

receive special updates, get connected with other Love

Ambassadors in your area, get updates and special inv itations from

Christine and Team Love while they are on the road.

! SEND US YOUR PARTY INFO -- For those of you throwing public parties

in February where you want others to know about your party, send us a

link to your Facebook invite or websi te, and we will put it up on our

main site with a link. Send the link to Sarah our Team Love TourManager [email protected]

! TELL PEOPLE ABOUT SELF LOVE DAY + YOUR PARTY -- Send out your email

or mail invitations. Post your event on Facebook. Tweet about it.

Dont be shy be bold and invite the world to play with yoU!


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2.

THE DAY OF YOUR EVENT / AND DAY AFTER

! TAKE A GROUP PHOTO:Take a group photo with a sign that has your

citys name on it with the worlds MADLY IN LOVE WITH ME! in city

name or We Choose Self LOVE in city name

!

SEND US THE PHOTO to Lucie at [email protected]

your name as the host so we know who hosted the party. We will be

posting these all over our website for our post-self love party all year

long!

! POST YOUR PHOTO on the Madly in Love with ME Facebook Page and

the Love Ambassador Facebook page.

3. CREATE FROM LOVE keep everything aligned with the energy of self-

love in how you plan it, do it and offer it. LOVE LOVE LOVE.

WE LOVE TO SEE AND HEAR EVERYTHING YOU ARE UP TO!TOGETHER WE CAN CREATE A WORLD OF LOVE,

ONE IN WHICH EVERY CHILD BORN, is born connected to love, and staysconnected to that love and we will do it, ONE HEART AT A TIME.


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START FROM THE HEARTwhat to think about and feel into as you create your event

THE ENERGY OF MADLY IN LOVE WITH ME CELEBRATIONS

When throwing a Madly in Love with ME event, the most important thing to

remember is the energy behind the experience you create - what the people who

will come will experience. When you start here, all other choices become easy and

evident. So you spend less time, effort and money and have better results.

Madly in Love with ME is all about being, loving and living ourselves, fully and

freely. The intention is to touch the hearts & souls of every person who participates

simply by connecting them to love in its many forms compassion, expression,

empowerment, care, pleasure, respect and more for themselves. All 10 branches

of the self-love tree.

We do this with a lightness of heart and with a sense of play, whimsy and sparkle,

which gives every person who participates the permission to connect to the joy

and unconditional love that has always lived in our hearts since we were the littlest

of beings.

As it turns out, we were born knowing how to love, we were born connected tolove, and we were born loving ourselves just as we are no comparison, judgment

or unrealistic expectations just love.

Use the following FIVE questions to assist you in creating a love-filled foundation for

your event. We often think that a great party comes from doing and planning,

when in reality the best experiences stem from the intention and conscious creation

so begin and create from love for those you are inviting, and for yourself!


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1. Who Are Your People?Who do you want to come to your party? Create an avatar for this fabulous being. This will

help you connect to who they are and what they want from the experience you create. I

often name my person and then ask these five questions about them:

! Whats their life like right now?

! What are they looking for? What do they want?

! What do they need?

! What will be their points of resistance to coming, excuses or barriers they see?

! What will get then past those barriers to say yes and get them in the room?

2. Whats Your Self-Love Stake?Create a simple, powerful sentence or two that represents what your party centers around.

Your stake is the foundation for your event. It helps you make decisions about what to say,what experiences to offer and how to design every piece. It keeps every one that is part of

the event focused on the same intention. It becomes your lens to say, Should we do this?

Or how should we do this? Without a clear stake your event can lose purpose and

direction, and it can start to experience event creep where you start adding things that

dont really fit. The stake should have energy and power and it should be something that

makes you excited. Here are some of our recommended stake(s):

Its a lollapalooza of self-love.

Sass, soul & wild-self expression oh yeah!

Just like being little girls again.

I know who I am and I love her.

Giving ourselves permission to be our own best friends.

I am free to be, love and express ME!

Cowgirls rallying for a cosmic ho-down of self-love.

Moms and daughters seeing and accepting each other.

Moms relax, kids have fun and everyone leaves happy and full of love.

I will only be nice to myself no more Inner Mean Girls!

My happiness matters.


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3. What outcomes do you want each person to walk away with?Yougive AND receive in self-love land so be clear at the get-go about what you want yourGuests, Yourself, and Your Helpers, to receive.

! For the attendees from their voice, answer the question After attending

this event,:

o I Feel?.

o I Have?....

o I Am committed to

!

For yourself write down the 3 outcomes you would like to have for you.

! If you have helpers, volunteers or partners, know whats important to them

too.

4. Whats environment do you want to create?Pick 4 key words that describe what you want your event to feel like.Here some ideas:

Energetic, upbeat, enthusiastic, playful

Deep, moving, soulful

Passionate, alive, powerful AND fun

5. What is the post experience you want attendees to have?Get clear on what happens after they leave, even before the event starts.

o In your Guests words, write a statement that reflects what your Guests would

say after attending your event. I had such a blast! or I am so going to be

my own best friend or I cant wait to hang up my ME Portrait and see how

awesome I am all year long.

o And then write down 3 love based actions that you will take after the event

to keep the love flowing (ie post pictures on Facebook, send out an email)

o Take a daring act of self-love and ask three different people to help you with

your three post-event love actions


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Celebration #1- Self-Love Soiree Snapshot

The one common occurrence at self-love soirees is each person takes a

self-love promise that they keep for the entire year. This process takes

less than 20-30 minutes and it will be the one thing that will keep the

people you love choosing self-love every day for the rest of 2013.

We encourage you to build this self-love promise ceremony into your

celebration and then use any of the 7 daring adventures of love that

follow solo or in combination to create an event that will rock with BIGLOVE! Some of these adventures are teen and children friendly as and

weve indicated those with a **.

TAKE A SELF LOVE PROMISE

For the full explanation see the Chapter 3 and Chapter 14 inMadly in Love with ME,

the Daring Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend. And simply here is how it

works:

1.

Take a trip around the self-love tree. Use the taped meditation

provided by us, the print outs of the self-love tree, page 55 in the Madly

in Love with ME book to show people all the 10 branches of self-love so

they can see where they are loving themselves well and where they

need to grow their self love.

2.

Pick one branch of self-love to grow in 2013- sure we can all grow

multiple branches, but we only need pick one this year, the one our

heart wants not the one we think we should. Ask people to trust their

instinct and not overthink.

3.

Take a self-love promise that will help them keep connected to and

keep choosing this branch. See Chapter 14 which includes self-lovepromise examples.

4.

Write the branch + the promise on a card a love letter so they can

see the words

5.

Lead a self love promise ceremony ask everyone to share and be

witnessed. Ask them to share in a circle so everyone is witnessed. Or

ask them to share with a partner. Whatever feels right for your group.


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1. Express YourselfTell your guests to come dressed as their most unique, magnificent, brilliant selfthe person they are deep inside that they dont let anyone ever see. By day they mayhave fallen out of Banana Republic catalog, or they could be a poster child for UrbanOutfitters; but today, they make their own style by expressing their inside on the outside.Dare them to show a side of themselves that they normally dont, maybe not even tothemselves. Dare them to fully express parts of themselves they might have been too shy

or humble to before. Invite them to be bold, to be real and to be themselves. Ask eachperson at the party to talk about how her outside is expressing her inside today.

Tip: Make this part of your inv itation and give your guests the tip to think of 3-4 words thatreally describe them, and then pick their dress from that place.

Daring Act of Love: Have name tags at the door for people and instead of writing theirnames down, ask them to write the 3-4 words the essences that describe them. For moreon essences, see the Self Expression chapter inMadly in Love with ME.

2. Make ME Prints: Everyone Comes Out of the Closet to Shine! **Its time to play! Each person makes a full body collage of themselves a.k.a. her

ME Print--using, of course, her very own body and then after you are all done, youll putthe silhouettes on the walls, walk around, and tell each other what you see. Heres how itworks.

1. Get lots of magazines, scissors, markers and stickers.Then per person, get one gluestick and one large piece (about 5 !feet tall) of white or brown butcher paper. Youcan also do waist up if you don't want to do the whole body, but the whole body isthe best.

2. Pair the people up, and have them trace each others silhouettes on the paper,

making whatever body form they want.

3.Give everyone at least 6 magazines and spend about 45 minutes to 1 hour rippingout pictures and words from magazines that fit who they really are (and are growinginto).The challenge here is not to think, not to do it perfectly, but to follow yourintuition on what images to pull and where to put them. As people cut the pictures

out, they use the glue sticks to paste the images inside the silhouette, wherever theyfeel like it should be placed. Again, no linear thinking allowed. Just go with the flow.Note people get really into this so you will ha ve to literally tear some people awaywhen its time. Best to give people cues like You should be pasting now or About 15


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minutes left. Some people will finish early so for those more meticulous people, as you

get close to ending ask Who needs help? and have people help each other.

4. Ask the women to cut their silhouettes out and tape them to the wall (masking tapeplease). After the hour is up, some may ha ve a fully covered piece of paper, othersmay not, and that is okay.

5. Do a gallery walk and look at all the silhouettes. Just take them each in.

6. Play I SEE IN YOUGather in one big circle or break up into small groups, and oneby one, each person takes a turn standing in the middle with her ME PRINT. Theperson in the center then says to the group WHAT IS SEE IN ME IS and tells themwhat they see from this ME PRINT about themselves. Then for 3-5 minutes they RECEIVE

from the group as they tell them what they see in them using the words, WHAT I SEE IN

YOU IS that is, what you see when you see their silhouette (this is a real gift to eachother, don't skip it!)

Tip:This is a super powerful and fun experience and to do it really well, you want toplan on 90 minutes minimum 120 minutes is the best. For more inspiration on this, see

the Self-Expression chapter inMadly in Love with ME.

3.Love Letters to OurselvesAsk your guests to write a love letter to themselves, one of these three ways:

Remember yourself as your younger you.Pick an age like 10 or 15, 20 at the latest and write a letter to them, the person you were atthat age. Tell them about your life today about what youve learned over the yearsand the wisdom you now have tell them what you would have wanted them to know.Reflect back to them all the incarnations of the being you have been since that time, how

you have grown, and evolved (noting that it may help in your writing to remember whoyou were in your life in incrementsof 5-10 years.) Tell them about the hopes and dreamsyou still have, some of which they may ha ve had to. Make a promise to always care forthem. Let them know they are loved.

Imagine yourself as your older, wiser you. Pick an age at least 20 years older than you

are today. Write a love letter to that person, telling them all the things you love andadmire about them. Remind them why they are wise remind them of all that they have

done and seen in their life remind them of the person they ha ve chosen to be in thislifetime. Tell them about the impact they have made on your life, on the life of others andthe world. Express your love, and your devotion to their heart, spirit and body. Feel theirstrength and remind them that they are beautiful and loved because of who they are atthe core of their soul. After you read the letter back to yourself a few times, seal the letterand open it in 20 years.


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Imagine yourself as your own best friend. Write the letter to yourself as if your best friendwas writing it to you. If you were your very own best friend, what would they want you to

know what do they know you need to hear what do they want you to remember nomatter what and what do they think is just the coolest about you?

Read your letters to each other. Share what you learned. Share what it was like to writeback to your younger selves, older selves or to your own best friend.

Ha ve one person scribe while the people share, gathering all the collective wisdom andthen writing up or creating something after the event that reflects that love and wisdom.Send it out to everyone who attended and ask them to share it with their friends.

Tip: You can have your guests write these letters before they come or at your party. At theparty, be prepared with good love letter writing music, and nice paper, even if its just

colored paper. Also you can share all three ways to write the love letter and let eachguest share how they want to write it.

4.Lets Get Sensual!This is an experiment that can bring you closer to your senses and to each other. Sensuality is all about being totally in tune with our senses, all of them seeing, feeling,

hearing, touching, tasting. Usually we are so busy doing life that we don't really experienceit. The way it works is that you split into pairs, with one person blindfolded and the other

tantalizing their senses. Whether its putting a strawberry in their mouth, ringing a chimenear their ear, tickling them with a feather, or putting a piece of fruit under their nose.

Each person is given at least 10 minutes to fully experience their senses blindfolded. Its

amazing what you will see and feel if you really sink into this one. Plus it is so fun to give tothe other person. As the hostess, its up to you to make a tray of things for each pair or askpeople to bring stuff that will stimulate the senses and up their sensuality. Remember all thesenses (except see, although you will see stuff just not with your eyes.) Youll need oneperson to keep time. Afterwards, share what your experiences were like.

Some ideas: TOUCH: fabric, marbles, beads HEAR: bells, chopsticks, bag full of somethingTASTE: fruit, soft chocolate, cake SMELL: spices, flower essences, fruit)

Tip:Have low lighting, fuzzy blankets to sit on and sultry or soulful music. And have fun! For more

on senses, see the Self-Pleasure chapter in Madly in Love wi th ME/

5. You are Your Dancing Queen **Loosen up, lighten up and let your freaky full selves fly free!


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Your job as the hostess is to create a space where your guests can come and move

themselves to the music without ha ving to worry about whether they do it right or wrong,and instead can totally surrender to the sound and to themselves. This can be hard forsome, so set the parameters up front youre going to dance for XX time together, its allabout you just being you. If you want to dance, dance; if not, take a break. Let themknow its all about moving to get to know themselves. So as the DJ, youll want to pick the

music before and get it all loaded up on your iPod. Think about creating an arc, one thatstarts out slower and gets faster and then ends slower again.

Heres some ideas to get you started:

Get it Sta rted: slow moving but uplifting

Banana Boat, Harry Belafonte

Gotta Be Bold, Mary J BligeBeauty in the World: Macy Gray

Upbeat: On the upswing and crescendoIndia Arie (all her albums, and particularly the songs Strength, Courage, Wisdom; I Choose;

Private Party; Theres Hope) in fact these songs are so good, you have to ha ve them!)Jill Scott: GoldenNatasha Benefield: Unwritten

Slow and Winding Down: Bringing guest s int o themselves with beautyVan Morrison, Into the Mystic

Jennifer Berezan, Returning (It was recorded in ancient caves and is beautiful)So Much Magnificence, Miten with Deval

Tip: Check out the Self Expression chapter in theMadly in Love with MEbook which talksall about why we have a hard time letting ourselves be loose and express through dance.

And then get inspired to get your friends to let loose and open to love and laughter!


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6. Choosing ME before WE GirltalkGet Real About your LOVE LIFE

Our weight and our love lives are the two things we complain, obsess and suffer aboutthe most. What if THIS self-love day, you took a stand to say NO MORE to suffering,complaining and obsessing about at least one of those topics and had some real honest

to goodness girl friend talk and laughter?

One of the BEST and most self loving things we can do is to be honest with the otherwomen/girls in our lives especially when it comes to our love lives!Most women and girlsdid not get the handbook on how to have loving, respectful relationships, so I wrote thehandbook and its called Choosing ME Before WE. Women LOVE talking to each other

after reading this book smiles, tears, hugs, empowerment, sisterhood it all happenswhen women come together and share the stories this book gives them permission toshare and then go beyond the old story to create a NEW STORY, one of self-love!

For more information, including a great list of questions you can use to create a powerful,loving and fun conversation with the girls and women you love, go to

www.mebeforewe.com

7. Self-Love Movie Night **When women come together, shift happens. A womans power comes from sittingtogether with other women sharing from their hearts, witnessing the stories of other women

and realizing that she is not alone -- that we ALL feel so many of the same ways. For many

women and girls having that kind of intimate conversation can be a little intimidating...and even for those who have learned to love being in circles with women sharing fromthe heart, without a solid stake to tie into, the conversation can go all over the place.

In 2010, I attended Marianne Williamsons Sister Giant event and experienced the power

of sitting in a room of 500 women watching powerful images and stories of women onscreen, and then having what I call real and wise girltalk afterwards. Ive alsoexperienced this same power with 5 women in the room, especially when there aredifferent generations present. So no matter how big or small, gather the girls! Suggestedmovies, and of course as a parent, watch them first for age appropriateness.

! Self Awareness, Self Respect and Self Honor - Knowing Yourself, Our Common Herstory:

Iron-Jawed Angels with Hilary Swank! Self Empowerment, Self-Respect, Self Honor Sovereignty : Elizabeth with Cate

Blanchett! Loving Your Body Temple: The Inner Weigh!

Self Compassion and Self Empowerment:Miss Representation

! Self Care, Self Empowerment and Self-Sustainability:Killing Us Softly and Race toNowhere

! Sisterhood & Self Honesty The Ya Ya Sisterhood


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Bonus:Its a Sleepover

Well, why not? This time it doesn't have to be like in the third grade where you puttoothpaste on the girl who fell asleep first (or it could still be!). Invite your friends over tospend the night, try some of the activities above, share what you love about each other

and about yourselves. Just spend some time connecting, hanging out and having fun.Make dinner together, have breakfast in the morning. Do whatever helps you appreciatejust how much you have to lo ve about yourself and your life.

For more ideas, see Chapter 14-16 in Madly in Love with ME, the Daring

Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend

www.TheSelfLoveBook.com


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Celebration #2: The Play Day For Moms & KidsCreate a day or afternoon for moms and their kids that have bothfeeling full of love and more able to express their true, full selves

Take any of these three ideas from the Self Love Soiree ideas with some of these

suggestions and make them kid and mom friendly and of course this will

depend on the age of your children.

! Making ME Prints! Smaller pieces, collective art. Make a collective collage together where you

make one big person collage and then cut the collage into pieces an arm,a leg, a torso and have each child take one piece and create a ME Print

out of that piece. Then tape all the pieces together to recreate the one

silhoutte so you have a collective piece of art.

! ME Paintings get acrylic paints and canvases or watercolors or canvases.

Mom and child each create a ME Print canvas in these three steps. 1. Paint

background however they want to express themselves play music and ask

them to think of themselves 2. Put their hands in paint and put their handprint

in the middle and paint their name above it. 3. Find words and pictures in

magazines that reflect them and cut them out and then glue them to the

canvas or watercolor paper.

!

Self Love Movies! Brave use this movie to talk about Self Empowerment and Self Expression

and going for your own dreams, and how you will be different than each

other. Open up the talk to do a Daring Act of Love mom and children write

down 10 of their dreams and share them with each other.

! Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants use this movie to talk about friendships,

changing from being little girls to older girls, and share stories of treating

yourselves sacred. Use this movie to get across the idea of being sacred and

good enough exactly who you are which sometimes is different than your

friends.

!Dancing Fashion Kings and Queens! Wear Yourself and Dance Yourself let your kids wear whatever they want to

the party ask them to pick out whatever reflects the mood they are in or

whatever makes them happy and then you do the same, and shock them

a little like bring a piece of yourself out they never knew. Then at the party,

make sure to have some solid gold dancing time where you and your child

get to do a fun dance show together. Pick some music you both want to

dance to and be your freaky wild selves!


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Celebration #3:

The Playshop For Adults or TeensFor those wanting to create a start to finish experience. Great

for workshops and half-day events

The structure for this event was created by Christine Arylo and has been tested in living

rooms around America by Christine and other groups who have dared to play big!

We are sure they will work to create transformational events and are create for coaches,

teachers, advisors and parents who dare to create experiences that have the power to give

permission to people to be, love and live themselves. If you use any parts of this structure in

part or in entirety, we just ask that you give credit to where it originated, with Christine Arylo

and the Madly in Love with ME Movement.

Number of attendees: Great for groups of 5 to 50

Length: 3-6 hour afternoon experience

Focus: Self-discovery and self commitment

Location:A womans home or a private rental space. If held at a womans home, ask her to

play the role of hostess so that you can focus on leading.

Leadership: Recommend co-leaders with an assistant/hostess, although one woman with an

assistant can work too.

Add ons:After the Playshop, you can transition the event into an intimate evening soiree

where women can eat, drink and connect.

Summary: In this intimate space, you have the ability to easily create an experience that will

lead to deeper connection among the women attending and powerful breakthroughs for

each of the individual participants. The flow of this experience was designed to take the

group through an experience together, with individuals also having experiences of going

deeper within themselves, and of being seen for their beautiful, powerful and true selves.

Also designed into Playshop is time for group processing, which is essential to letting the

experience sink in.

You can also add on some kind of soiree to the end of the experience where women get to

commune over food and bubbly, it really adds to the girlfriend connection time something

paramount to self-love!


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Suggested Event Flow

Activity Goal

Welcome and Self Love Power

Opening

Host and leader set the tone for the event:

Welcoming women

Set the stake for the day,

Deliver a powerful personal and vulnerable

opening why you decided to create this event

Generate energy

and demonstrate

vulnerability

Connect the Circle Going around the circle counterclockwise, each

woman tells:

Her name

Why she came

One woman she really loves and why

Connect the

group. Lowers

defenses. Women

are seen.

Setting the Course Share the flow of the day with people. Handle logistics.Answer questions.

Ground people inthe day.

Madly in Love with ME & Self

Love

Deliver passionate talk about self-love. What it is, what

it isnt, how its shown up in your life. Use the self-love

guidebook from www.ChooseSelflove.comto inspire

and inform you. Or use the introduction and Chapter 1

fromMadly in Love with ME, the Daring Adventure to

Becoming Your Own Best Friend.

www.SelfLoveBook.com

Connect dots for

how they are &

arent loving me.

ME Prints

Visualization

Creation

Collage Walk

(allow at least 1.5 hours for

entire process with visualization

and clean up includes break

time)

Women create a self-collage using a full-sized

silhouette of their body. Full description in the

appendix. General flow is:

Visualization to connect them to themselves In pairs, lay on big piece of butcher paper, get

their silhouette traced by another woman

Take paper, go get magazines, scissors, glue stick

and find a space on the floor.

Rip out pictures and words that resonate, remind

them of the woman they truly are

Paste pictures and words on silhouette

Clean Up

Put final silhouette up on the wall

Women walk around and view collages

Intimately

connect women

with themselves,

who theyuniquely are

I See ME. I See You.

Me Print group exercise.

Group discussion that gives women the chance to

share themselves and let us reflect back to them what

we see. It works like this:

Woman gets her collage and stands at front of

room

Says I see in me and says what she sees

Group reflects back I see in you and says free

flow out loud what they see

About 3-5 minutes a person

Have 5-10 minute group discussion at the end

asking, What did you learn? What was it like to be

Every woman is

deeply seen for

who she truly is

powerful!!


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deeply seen?

Depending on your timing and the number of people,you may need to break people into groups of 3 or 4 to

do this and then come back to the group for

processing.

BREAK The I see me, I see you exercise is potent so taking a

break to let the energy dissipate is important.

Madly in Love with ME -

Collective Art Piece via Self

Love Brainstorm Using the Tree

of Self Love

Lead the group through a heartsharing and

heartstorming session using the Tree of Self Love for

your event you may print out copies of the self love

tree as long as they include the copyright and the

website www.ChooseSelfLove.comwith credit to

Christine Arylo as the creator of the Self Love Tree.

Share the tree and play the taped meditation taking

women through the self love tree.

After complete with meditation, take women in to a

conversation about three questions --

1. How they DO love themselves which

branches of self love are they really prospering

in?

2. How they DONT which branches are

withering and in need of attention.

3. The truth of what keeps them from choosing self

love in these way?

Then to take this to an actionable place, ask the

women

4. What would a Best Friend tell them that will

allow them to give themselves permission to

choose self love in these ways? And have them

say the actual statements out loud. At the front

of the room, you then create a mural of ideas

on a sheet of butcher paper that captures

these ideas so the group is co-creating a visual

representation they can see. What you end up

with is a bunch of statements Best Friend LoveMantras - that empower women to love

themselves super cool and empowering!

Make self love

real.

Self Love Commitment:

CHOOSE one branch of self love

for 2013 + make a self love

promise for the year

Ask women to write a love letter to themselves

including:

1. The ONE self love branch they will grow this year

2. The ONE SELF LOVE PROMISE they will take this

Give tools to

succeed after

they leave


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Self Love Support: Oracle Cards

year to keep growing that branch.

3. What BEST FRIEND LOVE MANTRA may be from

the list you created together do they need tokeep in their back pocket to give themselves

permission to keep this promise.

For more on self love promises, see chapter 14 in Madly

in Love with ME and more on Love Mantras, see page

15.

Do some coaching/explaining that self love vows are

always loving, do not include #s or the word every day

or every any time period. They are not goals. Or things

to use to berate yourself later. They love you forward.

Support each woman to pick the best words.

When they turn in the letter (which you will mail to them

30 days later) have a deck of oracle cards they can

pick from could be Fairy, Native American, Goddess,

Angel, Superheroine, cards with the question, What

will support me to stay connected to this self love

promise.

End: Self-Love Ceremony Form a circle with all the women, Each woman shares

her self love promise. Saying out loud, I promise

.INSERT PROMISE I CHOOSE SELF LOVE!

Seal the deal and

give support.


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FROM START TO FINISH

TIMELINE TO KEEP YOU ON TRACK

Action

Time From

Party

Your Date

Pick Date Now

Send Invitations email, mail or social

networks

20-30 days

Create your team this is not about youdoing it alone!

20 days

Create the flow for your day 15 days

Get Inspired Attend the Love Launch call

and Buzz calls (or listen to recordings) andSelf Love Concert

Jan 12th

Jan 30thFeb 6th

Feb 13th

Send reminder 10 to 7 days

Get your supplies art supplies, party favors,Madly in Love with ME super party pack

7 days

Get your food 2 daysSend Reminder Day Before looking

forward to seeing you

1 day

Relax and Replenish The night andday before i

mean it!

PARTY TIME

Replenish Day After ME DAY!

Post Communications 2-7 days afterevent

Mail Love Letters or send follow upinspirational communication

30 days


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