Never Say Goodbye

第一教研室

Family moving

The ever-decreasing number of large families in some countries like Britain and America is related to an increase in the migration of population. In the past decades, people in Britain have moved from Scotland and the north of England to the Southeast, Southwest, East and Central England.

Family moving

In America, about 40,000,000 people are moving to another place every year, which means that a family moves every five or six years. Young people leave their hometowns and go to the big cities for better jobs and living environments.

Family moving

Now things are changing, more and more people are moving to live in the suburbs of big cities. Big cities are becoming more crowded and polluted, with a higher rate of crime, less friendly neighborhoods and insufficient public recreational facilities. Meanwhile, in the countryside or small towns with a slower pace of life, people can enjoy a more harmonious and comfortable life, and have easy access to the facilities available in big cities.

An episode about “saying goodbye”

It happened on the morning of a summer day in November, 2002 in Bondi, a small and beautiful town in Sydney, Australia. I was on a two-day visit to Dr. Vale Horniman, who used to teach me English LITERATURE IN Central China Normal University in Wuhan. Having just been to the town church, we were walking in the quiet street when we met across a lady in her eighties, an old acquaintance of Miss Horniman.

After the conventional introduction and mutual greetings, I politely said “see you” as we were leaving her. “No, no, no!” said Miss Horniman instantaneously, “You won’t see her! Say goodbye!” was it a humor? Or a philosophical truth? Anyway, that was the first time I began to reflect on the actual meaning of saying “Goodbye!”

Ways of saying goodbye

goodbye/bye • see you • later/catch you later/around ( see again soon, for young) • so long ( do not meet again for long time)• have a nice day/good weekend/great time etc • have a good one( good wish) • take care • take it easy (for friends, family member) • nice to meet you/nice meeting you (for friends met for the first time)

How do you say “goodbye” ？ so long; 语气客气，耽误你很长时间了

goodbye; 最普通，不见的时候希望你一切安好bye-bye 是它的略称，也最常用， for children

Catch you later ， see you tomorrow ( 很快见面）

Farewell 告别，永别，告别演唱会和送别会

Farewell ： old-fashioned the action of saying goodbye ； farewell party /dinner /drink etc a party or dinner that you have because someone is leaving a job, city

A Farewell to Arms ： (1929) a novel by Ernest Hemingwayabout the romantic relationship between a US man who is working as an ambulance driver and an English nurse in Italy during World War I

How do you say goodbye ？ 约会分手时，他 ( 她 ) 会： 　　 A 、 目送你离开。 　　 B 、头也不回的走了。 　　 C 、 看着你的眼睛道别。 　　 D 、 频频回首兼挥手。 　　 E 、 握手道别。

选 A ：目送你离开的人，是个非常体贴，善解人意的人，虽然在意对方，不过却不会勉强对方，对于爱人或朋友的要求都会竭尽全力办妥。 选 B ：分手后头也不回的人为人比较乐天，不拘小节。乍看之下这种人颇为冷淡，但在紧张关头他 ( 她 ) 一定全力保护对方，是个重视家庭的人。

选 C ：看着你的眼睛说再见，通常都是因为心里有话想说却说不出口，或是心中有疑惑。这时正是你发挥男 ( 女 ) 朋友责任的时候，否则，后果可能不堪设想。 选 D ：他 ( 她 ) 一再回头和挥手，表示他 ( 她 ) 很想你，当他 ( 她 ) 这样做时，亦希望你会这样做，属于礼尚往来的人。 选 E ：如果握手说再见是个少有的举动，但哪一天分手他 ( 她 ) 却这样做，表示他 ( 她 ) 那天过得非常愉快，充实。另外，亦表示对方有性方面的欲望。

Never say goodbye Hayley Westenra

If I could take this moment foreverTurn the pages of my mindTo another place and timeWe would never say goodbye

If I could find the words I would speak themThen I wouldn't be tongue-tiedWhen I looked into your eyesWe would never say goodbye

If I could stop the moon ever risingDay would not become the nightAnd we'd never say goodbyeI wish that our dreams were frozenThen our hearts would not be brokenWhen we let each other go...

If I could steal this moment foreverPaint a picture-perfect smileSo our story stayed aliveWe would never say goodbye

Pre-reading question

Have you family ever moved from one place to another? If you have, how did you feel when you were going to be away from the old house for good?

Have you ever attended a funeral of someone you knew very well? If you have, what were you thinking when you saw him for the last time?

Text Analysis

Part I (para1-4) The problem the author was confronted with.

Part II (para5-13)Grandpa illustrates the meaning of “never say goodbye”.

Part III (para14-20)The author’s understanding of “never say goodbye”.

Part One: (Paragraphs 1-4)

bringing up the problem the author was confronted with: it is hard to overcome the sadness as the moment of parting drew near. So he turned to his grandpa for help.

Para one

It introduces the background and serves as the beginning of the story. Through this para. We get to know sth. about the author and his problem.

Why was the author seized with the anguish of moving from his home?

Questions for thought

Because it was the only home that the author had ever known. His whole life, brief as it was, had been spent in that old house, gracefully touched with the laughter and tears of four generations. That was why he was feeling extremely reluctant and bitterly sad to move away from his old home.

What do you know about the author’s home mentioned in the beginning?

The author’s home was a large old house, in which four generations had lived in harmony and experienced both happiness and sadness.

Language points

confront: be faced with and have to deal with confront sb. with sb./sth. A soldier often has to confront danger and de

ath. confront reality 正视现实 我的家与他的家对门。 My house confronts his.

be confronted with:   面临 1. 她面对罪证供认不讳 . When confronted with the evidence of her gui

lt, she confessed.  2. 这种新的制度一开始将会面临很大困难。 The new system will be confronted with great

difficulties at the start.  

他为这次面试中可能面对的问题准备好了答案。 He has prepared answers to the questions th

at he expects to confront during the interview.

“confront” vs. “face”

都含“面对”的意思。 confront”: 指“遇到”、“面对”、“使 ...对立”， 正式用语， 如： She confronted the vital question of being ba

nkrupt. 她面临要破产的重大问题。 face: 指“正视”、“面对”、“不想逃避”， 属口语体， Let's face the facts instead of e

vading them. 让我们面对现实， 不要逃避。

2 anguish

mental or physical suffering caused by extreme pain or worry:

the anguish of not knowing what had happened to her

an anguished cry for help N. written form

in anguish 1. The child was badly hurt and was in angui

sh all the evening. 2. Nothing can take away the anguish of losin

g a child. 什麽都不能解除失去孩子的巨大悲痛 . mental anguish 心理苦闷

3 brief as it was

brief as it was : although it lasted a short time as: although: though P 8. Ex III Rewrite the following sentences Though he was poor,… Although I was very tired,…

4 gracefully

1 moving in a smooth and attractive way, or having an attractive shape or form:

Her movements were graceful and elegant. 2 behaving in a polite and pleasant way: Her father was a quiet man with graceful manners. —gracefully adverb: She rose gracefully to her feet. —gracefulness noun [uncountable]

5 Touched with the laughter and tears of four generations:

touched with the happiness and bitterness of four generations. The sentence implies that “…the house which had seen and/witnessed the joys and sorrows of the four generations of my family.

– touch: have an effect on one’s feelings; to cause one to feel pity, sympathy, etc.

E.g. His sad story so touched us that we nearly cried.

* be touched with: have a certain amount of quality

E.g. Her hair is touched with gray.

Paragraph 2-4

When the author was shuddering and crying on the final day on which he had to move from his old home, his grandfather came up to comfort him. Not to use the word “goodbye” to friends, for it implies sadness.

Para 2-4

Q3: Why did the author shudder and shed tears when the final day came?

Q4: Why did his grandfather advise him not

to use the word “goodbye” to friends?

Because in the eyes of his grandfather the word “goodbye” seemed too final, too cold, for friends to use and it implied sadness or unhappiness, and also because his grandfather wanted him to think of joyful and happy events of life instead of feeling sad and miserable.

a place where people or animals can live peacefully or go to in order to be safe

The riverbanks are a haven for wildlife. St Ives, a haven for artists and hippies a haven of peace/tranquility/calm In the middle of the city, this garden is a haven of

tranquility.

shudder

to shake for a short time because you are afraid or cold, or because you think something is very unpleasant

I shudder with embarrassment whenever I think about it.

He shuddered at the thought of the conflict ahead.

well: 涌出 , 涌现 (of liquid) flow or start to flow Blood welled (out) form the cut. well out well up well forth e.g. She was so moved that her tears welled (up, f

orth, out) in her eyes.

feel a hand rest on my shoulder

feel+object+infinitive without “to” Similar words are “watch, make, Let, have,

see, hear, notice” feel+ complex object, the infinitive without “t

o” is adopted. Ex p. 8

Rest on/upon

– 1) lean on; to be supported by– 2)(esp. of a proof, argument, etc.) be based

on; be grounded on; depend on E.g. Your argument rests on a statement

that cannot be proved..

Through one’s tears:

– With tears in one’s eyes ； while shedding tears

– Through: among or between the parts or members of

E.g. I searched through my papers for the missing documents.

– 1) look steadily for a long time, esp. in great

surprise or shock E.g. He sat staring into space, thinking deeply.– 2) be very plain to see; to be obvious E.g. The lies in the report stared out at us from

every paragraph. – * stare off: stare away; to move one’s eyes

stare at 凝视 , 盯住 stare into 凝视 stare sb. in the face 盯着某人的脸看 , 迫在眉睫 stare sb. up and down 上下打量某人 stare sb. into silence 用眼睛瞪得某人哑口无言

By narrating his sad experience of the loss of

his eldest son during the war, grandpa illustrates how one can overcome the sad feeling resulting from the loss of someone dear to him by recalling not the moment of parting but the happy times spent together.

Part Two: (Paragraphs 5-13)

Questions for thought

Why did the author’s grandfather take him to see the rosebush in the front yard?

What does the rosebush symbolize?

Because grandpa wanted to tell him a true story related to the rosebush and hoped to enable him to feel with his heart how beautiful those roses were! Also bcs grandpa wanted to reveal his special associations with the roses and with his saying goodbye to his son, as well as disclose the root cause of his advice not to say goodbye to one’s relatives and friends.

How to appreciate the last sentence of Para 9?

It is not only the roses that are beautiful, Billy. Also, it is that special feeling you deeply cherish that makes them beautiful.

look into (investigate)

1. A committee was set up to look into the workers‘ grievances.   成立了一个委员会来调查工人的不满。

2. The government has set up a working party to look into the problem of drug abuse.   政府已成立工作组调查滥用毒品问题

3. They stopped to look into the window.   他们停下来看看橱窗。

– 1) speak or say very quietly so that only a perso

n close by can hear E.g. She whispered a warning to me and then di

sappeared.

– 2) (of the wind, etc) make a soft sound 飒飒地响 E.g. The leaves of the trees were whispering in t

he wind.

conspicuously [ kən'spikjuəsli ]  

conspicuous: [ kən‘spikjuəs ]  a. 显著的 ,显而易见的 very easy to notice 1. Lincoln is a conspicuous example of a poo

r boy who succeeded.林肯是一个穷苦孩子而功成名就的出色例子。 2.A traffic sign should be conspicuous.交通标志应该明显。

3.If you're walking along a badly-lit road at night you should wear conspicuous clothes.

晚上在照明很差的路上行走 , 应该穿显眼的衣物 . make oneself conspicuous标新立异， 惹人注目 He was conspicuous for his bravery. 他因骁勇而出名。

It isn’t …. that 强调句型 stress pattern

It isn’t just the rose that are beautiful: It is that special place in your heart that makes them so.

That special place in your heart makes them beautiful.

It is that place in your heart that makes them beautiful.

P 9 Ex IV

Para 10-13: The telling of the story related to the rosebush. The message of the text is conveyed in Para. 13

Para 10 is a flashback. It tells us why the author’s grandpa planted those roses and what the roses symbolized.

Para 11, though short, depicts the old man’s expression of sad emotion.

Para 12 is also a flashback. It recounts the death of the old man’s first son and his response to it.

Para 13 is the most important one, for it conveys the message of the text.

Why did the grandpa plant those rose? He put those roses into the soil the day his

first son was born. It was his way of saying thank-you to God, he felt so happy and gay on the day his first son was born that he wanted to thank God for his happy fortune by planting those roses.

What kind of advice did the author’s grandfather offer in paragraph 13?

Never to give in to the sadness and the loneliness of that word goodbye. He wanted him to remember instead the joy and the happiness of those times when he first said hello to a friend.

hoarse

if you are hoarse, or if your voice is hoarse, you speak in a low rough voice, for example because your throat is sore: He was hoarse from laughing.

hoarse voice/whisper/groan etc hoarsely/hoarseness

tiny

extremely small: a tiny baby She always felt a tiny bit sad. speech/piece of writing: brief, concise,

condensed, abridged person: not very tall, little, tiny, petite time/event: brief, quick, momentary, fleeting,

ephemeral, transient, passing, short-lived legs/fingers: stumpy, stubby clothes: skimpy

give in to

to finally agree to do or accept something that you had at first opposed, especially because someone has forced or persuaded you to

对女儿再三请求到国外去深造，他最终让步了。 He finally gave in to his daughter’s repeated r

equests to further her education abroad.

lock away/up

fasten it firmly in your mind; imprint it on your mind, bear it in your mind and never forget

lock yourself away to keep yourself separate from other people by staying in your room, office etc

我们把所有的贵重物品都锁好了，然后才出去度假。

We locked all our valuables away before we went on holiday.

to put something in a safe place and lock the door, lid etc

to put someone in prison [= lock up]: I hope they lock him away for years.

…in that place in your heart where there is always sunlight and warmth, is always filled with joy and happiness.

Metaphorical, always here adjective Maybe this shows the old man was not well-

educated.

part

To cause to separate or be no longer together

He has parted from his wife. be parted (from somebody) to be prevented

from being with someone: They were hardly ever parted in thirty years

of marriage.

Para 14-20

These tell us about the illness of grandfather, about how the author bid farewell to his grandfather and how he responded to grandpa’s death.

Why did grandfather want his bed to be next to the window?

Because he wanted to see his beloved rosebush through it and bcs the sight of the rosebush would remind him of the joy and happiness of his life he had experienced and make him feel nice and good and happy.

Why was the family summoned to the old house?

What do you think of the parting between the author and his grandfather?

It was so cheerful and pleasant as if they were old friends greeting each other, which showed that his grandfather adopted an optimistic attitudes towards his own death and that the author became so strong-willed as not to give in to the sadness.

How did the author respond to his grandfather?

He remained perfectly calm and composed instead of being plunged into bitter sadness. He reached deep within him for those special feelings that had made up their friendship, Suddenly and truly, he realized that his grandfather had meant about never say goodbye.

beloved

literary or humorous loved very much by someone:

He never recovered from the death of his beloved daughter.

He's always talking about his beloved computer! beloved of/by a book beloved of children everywhere my/her etc beloved literary the person that

you love most

summon

to order someone to come to a place: Robert summoned the waiter for the bill. summon somebody to sth. /do sth. if something summons up a memory, thought,

or image, it makes you remember it or think of it