RelationshipsUnit

Self-esteem

Your self-esteem

: measure of how much you value, respect, and feel confident about yourself

High self-esteem occurs when certain emotional need are met – knowing who you are – needs are met, a person feel safe – people feel a sense of belonging – you work to achieve what is important – believing you deserve love, respect, an

attention

Risk of low Self-Esteem

Feels insecure Disrespects self

and others Vulnerable to peer

pressure Doesn’t feel

valuable

Feels depressed Fears failure Uses drugs and

alcohol Feels pessimistic Behaves

destructively

Building Self-Esteem – everyone is different

Positive self-talk – learn to take criticism Act with integrity

: doing what one knows is right Learn a Reach out to

Choose supportive friends – decide to trust rather than to worry Be assertive

: speaking up for yourself without offending others

Personal Values

Your values

: beliefs and feelings about how important someone or something is to you

Values help you choose right – based on your parents values – start to develop your own values,

as a result of personal experiences

What influences your values?

Families Religious organizations Television and media Friends Organized groups – FFA, Boy Scouts,

etc.

Rank your values

Religion Family Friends Truth Honesty Recognition Independence &

freedom Creativity

Education Work ethic Adventure Knowledge Power Money or wealth Security Beauty

Communication

What is communication?

: the exchange of information, thoughts, and feelings

3 elements Message Message Understandable

How do people communicate?

: uses spoken or written words – words trigger emotions – upbeat, downbeat, or

sarcastic - will convey a message – look at how it may

appear to someone else

How do people communicate? Cont.

: messages are sent in a visible way : using facial

expressions and movements of the head, arms, hands, and body to convey messages

– your clothing will say a lot about you

– physical appearance and personal hygiene

Barriers to Communication

Message senderDo not be

Message receiverNot Giving Interpretation of the Wandering Hearing only what Fatigue – physical or mental

Barriers to Communication cont.

Message People’s perceptions : taking from a message

only what catches a person's attention Several messages at one time : something, such as a noise

or action, that makes it hard to pay attention – verbal and nonverbal

to not convey the same message Speaker talks too long –

Learning to Communicate Effectively

Levels of communication Small Share Share Share Peak communication – high point of

Learning to Communicate Effectively cont.

Attitudes for effective communication Sense of

• – free of assumptions, criticisms, and speculations

• – blames the person you are talking to

– a person can set aside personal concerns and assume another’s point of view

Skills for Effective Communication

Appropriate time and place Straight : message receiver hears

what is said and supplies nonverbal and verbal reactions

: verbal listeners responses : restating the main

message, the listener can determine whether or not the message received was accurate

The Power of Communication

Communication is key to getting

Good communication is a skill and will to try –

you can improve

Relationships with Family

Family Relationships are Important

Families teach usHow to What being Who we Who we What feelings accepted or rejected is

like Families need time

Types of Families

: consists of family in which a mother, father, and one or more biological or adopted children live together

– biological mother or father, step-parent, and children of one or both parents Increase because of divorces

Types of Families cont.

– single parent and children Divorce or widowed Most headed by mother

: people who are outside the nuclear family but are related to Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins

Types of Families cont.

– adopting a child or giving a child up for adoption – will be a part of a new nuclear family

– temporary family while a child is waiting to be adopted

Characteristics of Health Families

Positive communication strengthens the family

unit Taught by the parents

Refraining form verbally or physically hurting

another person Honoring each other privacy

Being dedicated to recognizing and achieving

what is best for family members

Characteristics of Health Families cont

Family members encourage, strengthen,

and show compassion toward each other Building

Require much work from members of the family

Coping with Family Problems

All family members need to participate in solving a problem

Each member will benefit if the problems are resolved as soon as possible

: counseling discussions that are led by a third party to resolve conflict among the family members Can give another perspective

Relationships with Friends

Types of Peer Relationships

Friendships - peers with whom

you feel socially connected. - relationship with

a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection, but no sexual activity

Types of Peer Relationships cont.

: a small, narrow circle of friends, usually with similar backgrounds or tastes, that excludes people they view as outsiders. : a negative feelings toward

someone or something that is based not on experience but, rather, on stereotypes

: exaggerated and oversimplified belief about an entire group of people such as ethnic group, religious group, or certain gender

: exaggerated feelings of passion for another person.

Dating plays a very big part in growing processes of relationship

Types of Peer Relationships cont.

Peer Pressure

: The control and influence people your age may have over you.

: sneaky or dishonest way to control or influence others

Responding to Negative Peer Pressure

: giving up, giving in, or backing down without standing up for your own rights and needs

: overly forceful, pushy, hostile, or otherwise attacking in approach

: standing up for your own rights in firm but positive ways

Refusal Skills

: techniques and strategies that help you say no effectively when faced with something that you do not want to do or is against your valuesState your position Suggest to the behavior

being proposedBack up your words

Dating

Dating Patterns

Functions of datingLearn to evaluate Aware of demands and Learn how to get along with others

Informal group dating : more emphasis on

groups of people than on couples“Hanging out” Small to large groupsMay just get together or may plan ahead

Dating Patterns cont.

Formal Pair Dating : dating several people

at the same time with no long-term commitment to one person.

• “See each other”• May only last one date or it may continue

: dating only one person for a period of time

• “Going Out”• Share decision making, express feeling honestly,

and develop good communication patterns

Types of Love

: strong feeling of personal attachment between friends or family members; tender and compassionate affection shared between two people

Positive types : total communication

and commitment between two people.• Strive toward shared thoughts, feelings,

attitudes, ambitions hopes, and interest

Types of Love cont.

Positive love cont. : makes people feel

warm, secure, and cheerful : feelings of mutual

respect and understanding• Neither passionate and consuming nor hostile

and hurting

Types of Love cont. Negative Types

: jealous lover holds the other person so tightly that the person is cut off from other people

: vigorous, insistent, and urgent

• Center on sexual relationship : frequently raises its voice

in anger against the loved one : unfulfilled love

Types of Love cont.

Negative Types cont. : foolish extreme

attraction that does not last

Marriage

Healthy Marriage: Working Together : lifelong union

between a husband and a wife, who develop an intimate relationship

Love Commitment Compromise : state of

being emotionally connected to another person

Look Before You Leap

Examining Decision should be yours Based on love, commitment, and careful thought

Cannot be based on just physical attraction

Emotional maturity will take time Usually in middle twenties

Same level of education – have better chance

Look Before You Leap cont.

Need to have some things that are similar It is ok to have some differences

Remember this is something you will have to live

with

: exist together in harmony

What do hey want in life – job, living, etc

Look Before You Leap cont.

Convictions : something you believe strongly

and take very seriously Religion

: partners come from different religions

Family bonds are tight

Friends need not, or should not, be given up for

marriage Do not resent the amount of time with friends

Look Before You Leap cont.

Discuss children before marriage How many, and when

Interracial marriages : partners are of different

races Society is slow to accept

Different cultures, traditions, lifestyles, and even food

History men and women are in charge of different

things Now men and women equally share responsibilities

Look Before You Leap cont.

Parents have your best interest in mind Parental approval has one less hurdle to leap

Unbiased, but trained input by third party if there are

problems

Effort to get to know the other person before you marry, you can find out whether marriages is right for you

Differences have a way of surfacing

The Engagement

: announced intention of two people to marry one another

Average time Gives time to plan wedding & to make

sure they are both ready to be married

Wedding

Can be simple to very extravagant Many participate in religious

ceremonies Signing of