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NO-‐DRAMA DISCIPLINE The Whole-‐Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and
Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. Bantam Hardcover / On Sale September 23, 2014
Advance Praise for NO DRAMA DISCIPLINE “Using simple and clear explanations, practical advice, and cartoons that make the “how-‐
to” guidance come alive, this book is a rich resource for families trying to navigate meltdowns and misunderstandings. It explains how neurobiology drives children’s infuriating and puzzling behavior and will help parents make their way through the trenches of a typical day with grace, mutual respect and a good helping of delight.”
―Wendy Mogel, Ph.D., author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and The Blessing of a B-‐
"Frustrated parents often ask me why the disciplinary techniques they are using with their children aren't working, or are even making things worse. I have not always known what to say, because I was not always sure that I understood what was going wrong. Now I know. NO DRAMA DISCIPLINE unlocks the secrets of discipline: what works and what doesn’t and why—and what to do when you are pulling your hair out. Simply put, Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson’s insights and techniques will make you a better parent. I know that I will be using the concepts from this extraordinarily helpful book for years to
come." ―Michael Thompson, Ph.D, co-‐author of Raising Cain and It's a Boy!
"Wow! This book grabbed me from the very first page and did not let go. Siegel and Bryson explain extremely well why punishment is a dead-‐end strategy. Then they describe what to do instead. By making the latest breakthroughs in brain science accessible to any
parent, they show why empathy and connection are the royal road to cooperation, discipline, and family harmony." ―Lawrence J. Cohen, author of The Opposite of Worry and Playful Parenting
"What a relief! Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson take the difficulty out of discipline, for parents or anyone who has to help kids behave. NO-‐DRAMA DISCIPLINE offers a research-‐based, common-‐sense approach that any grown up will be happy to use, and any kid will
benefit from." ―Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence _____________________________________
Some of the most challenging circumstances that we experience as parents–when a child is having a meltdown or throwing a tantrum—are also paramount moments in the formation of their brains. Explaining the fascinating link between a child’s neurological development and the way a parent reacts to their behavior (or misbehavior), NO-‐DRAMA DISCIPLINE: The Whole-‐Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind (Bantam Hardcover; September 23, 2014), provides an effective, compassionate roadmap for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears. In NO-‐DRAMA DISCIPLINE, the pioneering experts behind the bestselling Whole-‐Brain Child will challenge your notion of what discipline is, its practicality when it comes to child rearing, and how we can best implement it going forward. Many, if not most common discipline approaches actually intensify misbehavior rather than correcting it. “No-‐drama” doesn’t mean permissiveness, nor does it mean dictatorial control. Recalling the true meaning of the “D” word (to instruct, not to punish), Daniel J. Siegel, M.D and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. show how to connect with a child, redirect emotions, and turn a meltdown into an opportunity for positive neurological development and learning. Complete with candid parenting stories that bring the authors’ suggestions to life, NO-‐DRAMA DISCIPLINE shows how to work with a child’s developing mind, peacefully resolve conflicts, and strengthen resilience for everyone in the family.
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Daniel and Tina debunk classic myths on discipline, which they could discuss further in an interview:
• Discipline is all about getting kids to do the right thing: Actually, effective discipline means that we’re not only stopping a bad behavior or promoting a good one, but that we’re also teaching skills and nurturing the connections in our children's brains that will help them make better decisions and handle themselves well in the future.
• The focus of discipline should be on a child’s behavior: Actually, it should be on the WHY behind the behavior, and on the relationship between parent and child. Behavior is often a symptom. Getting at the emotions or needs behind the behavior is often the most important thing for the parent to focus on.
• A time-‐out is the most loving and peaceful way to discipline a child: Actually, it’s usually ineffective. Offering time to calm down is extremely important, but a time-‐out often intensifies the conflict, with the separation from the parent causing even more reactivity. In fact, it’s during these reactive times that kids need their parents the most. Giving a time-‐out means a parent misses an opportunity to connect and talk to the child and teach about better decision-‐making.
• It’s essential to discipline immediately following misbehavior: Actually, since the whole purpose of discipline is to teach, we must wait until our child is in a frame of mind to learn. We do that by connecting with them emotionally, and soothing them to help them become less reactive, and more receptive. Then, once they are calm and receptive, we can discipline effectively.
• Consistency is crucial: Actually, while consistency is of course important, it can quickly move into rigidity, which brings its own set of problems. Not only are kids capable of understanding varying degrees of context and complexity, it’s good for them to experience nuanced circumstances. Complete with candid parenting stories and playful illustrations that bring the authors’ suggestions to life, NO-‐DRAMA DISCIPLINE shows how to work with a child’s developing mind, peacefully resolve conflicts, and strengthen resilience for everyone in the family.
ABOUT THE AUTHORS DANIEL J. SIEGEL, M.D., is clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, the founding co-‐director of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center, and executive director of the Mindsight institute. A graduate of Harvard Medical School, Dr. Siegel is the author of several books, including the New York Times bestseller, Brainstorm, together with the bestsellers Mindsight, Parenting from the Inside Out (with Mary Hartzell) and The Whole-‐Brain Child (with Tina Payne Bryson). Also the author of the internationally acclaimed professional texts The Mindful Brain and The Developing Mind, Dr. Siegel keynotes conferences and conducts workshops worldwide. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife. TINA PAYNE BRYSON, PH.D. is the co-‐author (with Daniel Siegel) of the best-‐selling The Whole-‐Brain Child, which has been translated into eighteen languages. She is a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist, the Director of Parenting for the Mindsight Institute, and the Child Development Specialist at Saint Mark’s School in Altadena, CA. She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world. Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, and she lives near Los Angeles with her husband and three children.
NO-‐DRAMA DISCIPLINE
The Whole-‐Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind By Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and Tina Payne Bryson, PhD.
Bantam Books Hardcover • 978-‐0-‐345-‐54804-‐7 • On Sale September 23, 2014 • $26.00 • 288 pages