til death do us part, 1/29/17
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The Vow of MarriageI, _______________, take thee,
_______________, to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold,
from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in
sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, ’til death do us part,
according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge myself to you.
Keys in a Christ centered marriage
What is God’s opinion on getting married?
I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about
the Lord’s affairs – how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world – how he
can please his wife – and his interests are divided.
An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both
body and spirit.
But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world – how she can
please her husband.
I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the
Lord.1 Corinthians 7:32-35
Keys in a Christ centered marriage
What is God’s opinion on getting married?
Does it matter who I marry?
Keys in a Christ centered marriage
What is God’s opinion on getting married?
Does it matter who I marry?
Our roles in marriage
Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another.
Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support
for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership,
wives should likewise submit to their husbands.
Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church – a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love
makes the church whole.
His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant
with holiness.
And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor –
since they’re already “one” in marriage.
No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body.
And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery,
and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the
church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to
honor her husband.Ephesians 5:21-33
Role of the Husband
Place God first, his wife second
Role of the Husband
Place God first, his wife second
Leave his father/mother and join his wife
Role of the Husband
Place God first, his wife second
Leave his father/mother and join his wife
Lead his family by example, centered on Christ
Role of the Husband
Place God first, his wife second
Leave his father/mother and join his wife
Lead his family by example, centered on Christ
Love and cherish his wife as Christ loves usHis words evoke her beauty
His desire to bring the best out of her
Role of the Wife
Place God first, her husband second
Role of the Wife
Place God first, her husband second
Leave her father/mother and join her husband
Role of the Wife
Place God first, her husband second
Leave her father/mother and join her husband
Love her husband as Christ loves us
Role of the Wife
Place God first, her husband second
Leave her father/mother and join her husband
Love her husband as Christ loves us
Understand and support her husband
Role of the Wife
Place God first, her husband second
Leave her father/mother and join her husband
Love her husband as Christ loves us
Understand and support her husband
Respect her husband’s leadership
What NOT to do
Try to find my value from my spouse
My wife/husband can not validate meMy wife/husband can not fulfill me
What NOT to do
Try to find my value from my spouse
Try to fix my spouse
What NOT to do
Try to find my value from my spouse
Try to fix my spouse
Take my eyes off Christ and center on my spouse
Leads to negativity, criticism, divide, eventually a broken relationship
Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Intentional time away
Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Intentional time away
Commit to not go to bed angry
Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Intentional time away
Commit to not go to bed angry
Realize differences – thank God for them
Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Intentional time away
Commit to not go to bed angry
Realize differences – thank God for them
Spend time in prayer together/for each other
Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Intentional time away
Commit to not go to bed angry
Realize differences – thank God for them
Spend time in prayer together/for each other
Live in constant communication with our Heavenly Father, desiring continual growth
Surrendering “ME” to Him is the only way to an “US” in Him