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    Psycho-CalibrationBy Ryan Reed

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    Table Of Contents

    Introduction

    Before You Begin

    1.Creating Your Psycho-Calibration Place2.Preparing For Your First Psycho-Calibration Session:

    Making The Decision That Will Change Your Life

    The Four Steps To Psycho-Calibration

    3.Sit4.Bring Out Your Pain5. Identify Yourself As The Observer6.Love7.Your Daily 7-Minute Restoration Session Summarized,

    And How To Overcome Common Difficulties In Your

    Practice

    Improving All Areas Of Your Life

    8.The Rest Of Your Day: Recollection And Reinforcement.9.Real-World Applications For Psycho-Calibration10. Failures, Disappointments, And Secrets

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    Introduction

    A Better Life Begins Now

    Congratulations!

    You have purchased the no-nonsense, practical, and powerful Psycho-Calibration

    technique that has helped many people just like you to start feelingindescribable joy in

    their lives.

    Lets get started immediately.

    How The Program WorksEach day, your practice will consist ofone main session (which can be done in less than

    7 minutes) and several thirty-second reminders throughout the day.

    The main session can be broken down into four steps:

    1. Sit2. Bring Out Your Pain3. Identify Yourself As The Observer4. LoveThe thirty-second reminderswhich recall the positive change made in the main session

    can be used in all circumstances, at any time. We will discuss the most common uses,

    such as stopping procrastination so you can get done what needs to be done, dealing

    better with relationships, and breaking boredom, to name a few.

    Remember, these are highly-effective techniques that can improve your life today. Unlike

    other books, which go on unnecessary tangents, this provides a serious program dealing

    with the serious issues of your life.

    Im not going to waste a single page.

    No New Age mumbo jumbo.

    No difficult philosophy to accept. (This eBook is more concerned with RESULTS.)

    No confusing, 20-step process or dense, inscrutable language.

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    One More Thing . . .

    This is not something that you can just intellectually understand and have it work. This

    is an actual technique that takes practice and determination.

    Once you get the hang of it, its really very simple. However, what we are going to do isso radical compared to the normal way we handle our mind that it may seem impossible

    at first.

    Its not.

    In fact, you can start in minutes. And if you want to skip to Chapter 3, you can learn the

    four steps of the Psycho-Calibration technique immediately and try it right now.

    However, for long-term results, I recommend reading Chapters 1 and 2 first, where you

    will prepare your Psycho-Calibration place and clearly define your commitment.

    If youre in it for the long haul, start reading the next chapter. If you just cant wait to start, or dont believe that its possible, skip to The Four

    Steps of Psycho-Calibration, starting with Chapter 3 and ending with Chapter 6,

    and try it out for yourself.

    SUMMARY OF INTRODUCTION

    Unlike other programs, Psycho-Calibration is easy, brief, and specificallyremoves your suffering at its deepest root by dealing directly with your emotions.

    Youve chosen well.

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    Before You Begin

    Chapter One Creating Your Psycho-Calibration Place

    The Importance Of Setting How To Create The Personal,

    Permanent Psycho-Calibration Space That WillStartYou On

    Your New Life

    If you enjoy reading, Im guessing you can read a book pretty much anywhere.

    You can read a book on the subway. You can read exhausted in bed, right before you fall

    asleep.

    You can read in a crowded, noisy room. You can even read while doing simple tasks,

    such as doing the laundry.

    The same is true with Psycho-Calibration. One of the great things about Psycho-

    Calibration is that you can calibrate ANYWHERE. You dont need to carry anything

    with you or be in any sort of special position.

    However, just as some environments make it easier to read, Psycho-Calibration is easierin the right setting. Factors that determine the right setting include: the settings

    atmosphere, whether you are alone or with others, and what kinds of associations you

    have with the place.

    Since you are not an expert on Psycho-Calibration, you need an environment where

    you can learn, where your skills can develop, and you arent distracted.

    Later, you will be able to use your Psycho-Calibration skill in all locations even at wild

    parties. And, once we get to that point, I will guide you through exactly how to do so.

    But for now

    Its Time To Create Your Space.

    Take special care with this. Remember: This is the first and most important step.

    Your Psycho-Calibration space should mean something.

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    This will be the area where youll escape to, your little private island.

    Joy and relaxation await you in this place. You shouldnt do everything in this place,

    such as do your taxes, but you will want to calibrate, and Psycho-Calibration is going to

    feel wonderful.

    In choosing your special place for Psycho-Calibration, follow these three rules:

    1.Choose a place youve never been to.Just as I have a strong association with readingat a library, you must have a strong

    association withPsycho-Calibration at yourPsycho-Calibration space.

    That is why it is important to choose a place free of strong associations.

    For instance, some might assume that it would be a good idea for you to calibrate on your

    bed. Your bedroom, they would guess, is a comfortable, quiet, and non-threatening place.

    However, you spend so much of your time in your bedroom already: Im guessing several

    hours each day. You already have years of associations with your bedroom, the main

    association being sleep.

    Sitting on your bed will most likely make you sleepy, not ready to calibrate!

    We want the main association the ONLY association in your space to be PSYCHO-

    CALIBRATION.

    So the best bet would be for you to pick an entirely new place. You have NO

    associations with a brand new place, and therefore, since all you will be doing there is

    calibrating, it will become distinctly your Psycho-Calibration place.

    If you chose a place that is not new, make it new. Redecorate, reorganize. Have fun with

    it!

    EXTRA TIP:

    To add to the associative power of your Psycho-Calibration place, it is a good idea, if you can, to stock

    your place with Psycho-Calibration-related materials, such as printouts of this eBook.

    You want your place to be aboutPsycho-Calibration entirely so that you will do nothing butcalibrate while

    you are here.

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    2.Your place should be comfortable and convenient.This is going to be a place you will visit everyday. Call this your Psycho-Calibration

    home base.

    You want your Psycho-Calibration place to be located near you: just a short drive or

    walk.

    Make sure, as well, that your place is comfortable for sitting. Carpet is better to sit on

    than tile. Even better than a carpet is a cushion, like a pillow or beanbag chair.

    3.The LESS distractions, the BETTER.High or low temperatures, wind, noise, uncomfortable seatingall of these

    distractions can hamper your Psycho-Calibration.

    So make sure your place has a consistentlycomfortable temperature. Make sure it is a

    quiet place.

    Above all, chose a place where you will be alone and unable to be contacted.

    Other peopleare the worst distraction. With other people in the room, youll want to

    talk with them. Your mind will wander and begin thinking about them. Youll becomeself-conscious.

    Even if you are joined by others who are calibrating, such as a Psycho-Calibration group,

    solitude will provide the best initial results.

    Later, we will discuss ways of preserving yoursolitary time even in todays information

    culture, when every minute may await an email, phone call, or text message.

    4 Great Places To Practice

    1. Meditation or prayer rooms in your health club, campus, or community aregreat for Psycho-Calibration. To find such rooms, search online or in the yellow-

    pages. Ask around. These rooms are sometimes free and often have mats, books,

    and classes.

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    2. Reinvent a room you dont use very often, such as a study, into your Psycho-Calibration room. Line it with pillows, cover it with peaceful posters. The key is

    to make this room new so that you can associate this new room ONLY with

    Psycho-Calibration.

    3. If you have a large enough closet, put blankets over the floor and take the clotheshangers down. The closet becomes a small, secluded room perfect for Psycho-

    Calibration.

    4. If you would like a space outdoors, try taking a walk for 5 minutes, and see whatyou find. Walk to somewhere thats not so familiar. Maybe youll find a

    comfortable, grassy spot next to a tree. If you live in the city, try walking to a

    public park.

    I hope you are creative and careful choosing your Psycho-Calibration space. It is

    important to genuinely enjoy the place that you choose.

    As you calibrate there, you will begin to associate Psycho-Calibration with your place.

    (So when you think Psycho-Calibration, you will think your place.)

    As I said before, this is going to be the place where your life transforms, the place where

    you will be putting the most important minutes of your life into every single day.

    Im so glad youve decided to make this first step. I know how difficult it is to commit to

    anything that will drastically improve your life. You did it.

    Youve taken the first step. Be proud of yourself, and be proud of your new space.

    CHAPTER ONE SUMMARY

    The very first step: Locate or create your own permanent Psycho-Calibrationspace.

    Your space should be easy to get to. Your place shouldseem like an entirely new place, even if it isnt. Your space should have as few distractions as possible, such as uncomfortable

    temperatures, a hard place to sit, noise, or the presence of other people.

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    Chapter Two Preparing For Your First Psycho-Calibration

    Session: Making The Decision That Will Change Your Life

    What You Need To Know Counterintuitive Truths About

    Psycho-Calibration

    Now that youve chosen your Psycho-Calibration space, you are ready to begin your

    practice.

    But first, its VERY important that you understand WHY it may be difficult your first

    time.

    Only by understanding why Psycho-Calibration is difficult can you understand how it can

    be simple!

    Psycho-Calibration Is Difficult In Only One Way

    Psycho-Calibration, like any skill, is more difficult at the beginning than at any other

    time.

    It is a skill that requires practice and patience to learn.

    Psycho-Calibration is not difficult in the same sense that complicated mathematics is

    difficult. It does not require any prerequisite knowledge or exceptional brainpower.

    It is also not difficult in the same way starting a successful business is difficult. It does

    not require luck, or intuition, oreven hard work.

    Psycho-Calibration is difficult because it requires willpower.

    This is extremely important. I will say this over and over, so that you can not be

    mistaken.

    The only determining factor in your Psycho-Calibration success is YOUR willpower.

    What Do I Mean Willpower?

    Let me give you an example:

    Imagine you are trying to never eat sugar again. For most people, including myself, this

    would be very difficult.

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    Why? It sounds easy, doesnt it?

    To succeed in that goal, simply stop purchasing food with sugar. And if you already have

    sugary foods, all you have to do is prevent yourself from moving your hand into the

    pantry and reaching for that sugary snack.

    Its not brain surgery. It doesnt involve luck.

    Just stop doing it.

    Why is that so difficult?

    The Difficulty Of Following A Decision

    One of the main reasons why it is difficult to follow a decision is because of our

    emotions. Wefeellike breaking your decision, and so we do. (We will discuss this in

    detail in Chapter 9.)

    The other main reason has to do with the way the decision is worded.

    Again, our example decision is worded as: Never eat sugar again.

    But from what we know about how the brain works, this is almost impossible to follow!

    For example:

    Try not thinking of a pink elephant.

    Chances are, you thought of a pink elephant. That may be all you are thinking about! Thisis because of the way our brains interpret language.

    We do not read a sentence and comprehend it immediately. We read each word

    separately and then make sense of the sentence as a whole.

    The way our brain reacts to our decision not to eat sugar is like this:

    Never

    (Im being scolded! your mind thinks. This isnt fun. Im being told what NOT to

    do.)

    Result: Pain

    Eat

    (Your mind thinks ofeating. The pleasures of eating. How hungry you are at that

    moment. Mmmm I could really EAT something right now! your mind thinks.)

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    Result: Hunger

    Sugar

    (Sugar, sugar, sugar, your mind thinks. Oh, I LOVE sugar. A big brownie sounds

    absolutely wonderful right now. This, especially, is where your decision falls apart.Youre going to think about sugar even more!)

    Result: Focus on Sugar

    Again

    (Oh my God, this means I can never EVER eat sugar AGAIN? you wonder, Is this a

    prison sentence? How absolute! And because of this your mind reasons, Well, since Ill

    have a lifetime of not eating sugar, I might as well enjoy this brownie now just this

    once one last time.)

    Result: Loss of Control

    Amazingly, rather than motivating you to stop eating sugar, the decision has the

    following effect:

    It makes you feel hurt, hungry, obsessing over sugar, and without a sense of control.

    NO WONDER DIETS ARE SO DIFFICULT!

    In summary:

    When considered as a whole, a decision can seem like a great idea. When considered as separate words (which is how your brain works), each word

    can evoke something that makes the decision more difficult to follow.

    How ToPhrase Your Decision To Calibrate Every Day The

    Right Way, So That You Keep Your Commitment And Start

    Seeing Results

    Psycho-Calibration is not something that you do.

    For lack of a better description, it is the absence of doing. It is a submission of thought

    and a submission of action for a better, truer way of understanding yourself and the

    world.

    Therefore, it is incorrect to decide to calibrate everyday.

    Thats right

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    Deciding To Calibrate Doesnt Work!

    Say you decide to calibrate 7 minutes a day the time Ive suggested in my program.

    Every moment, youll be thinking:

    I should be calibrating now. Oh, look, I have 7 minutes to calibrate. Okay, Im trying tocalibrate. Calibrate. Okay, now I have 6 minutes left. Time to calibrate!

    It sounds like a Zen koan, but in order to calibrate, you must notattemptto calibrate!

    So the word and the concept of Psycho-Calibration must notbe in your decision to

    follow this program!

    The program is something else entirely . . .

    Clear Your Head OfOther Relaxation Methods 7-Minute

    Psycho-Calibration Is Different!

    Heres what makes Psycho-Calibration different than meditation or relaxation.

    Lots of mediation schools teach you to think of nothing. Others teach you to move your

    awareness to a certain location, such as your feet.

    Both of these methods are counterproductive.

    Thinking of nothing is even more impossible than not thinking of a pink elephant.

    Moving your awareness to your hands, feet, neck, etc. will get you to think about yourhands, feet, neck, etc. And Im sure thats not what youre looking for.

    Sure, guided meditation might be useful for basic relaxation, but it is very limited.

    Another method Ive seen in meditation is chanting a specific syllable over and over

    (called a mantra). This is actually one of the better methods. It is the method used in the

    popular Transcendental Meditation program, which was used, and later abandoned, by

    The Beatles, among other celebrities. It currently has a $2,500 price tag and millions of

    members.

    Repeating a phrase over and over works because it distracts your mind away from

    interruptions in your practice, such as your constant stream of thoughts. The actual

    mantra does nothing. The benefit comes in, so to speak, as you are distracted and

    occupied with repeating the, often nonsensical, phrase.

    However, repeating a mantra is not the best method.

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    Chanting a mantra distracts you from some of the mental and personal benefits that you

    can only get from Psycho-Calibration, such as new insights into your life and incredible

    creativity.

    In summation, chanting a mantra, thinking of nothing, and guided meditaiton can be

    effective relaxations techniques, and they can even lead to the same benefits of Psycho-Calibration, but they are often too distracting ortoo inadequate to provide the

    transformative power that comes readily with Psycho-Calibration.

    Im not saying this to boast. Im saying this from experience.

    In true Psycho-Calibration, you are striving fornothing.

    Not striving to calibrate.

    Not striving for an empty mind.

    Not striving for guiding your focus.

    Not striving to repeat a silly phrase or syllable.

    Your Decision Is As Simple As One Word

    Your decision will simply be this.

    I will sit now.

    Thats all.

    It is not a counterproductive mental command.

    It is simply staying in a physical position.

    Its not even permanent. In Chapter 7, we will discuss when you SHOULD break this

    commitment and MOVE. Trust me, exactly when to break this commitment is one of the

    most incredible innovations of Psycho-Calibration.

    Of course, you arentjustsitting theres more to it than that.

    But all that you should decide on doing is simply sitting in the designated position.Thats it!

    Once you are sitting, there is no other goal, nothing that you must strive for. Striving for

    something, even if it is repeating a simple phrase, is counterproductive to Psycho-

    Calibration.

    Once again, heres an example of a bad decision:

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    Every day, for the rest of my life, I will calibrate for 7 minutes.This is a good decision:

    I will sit now.

    CHAPTER TWO SUMMARY

    Your only decision when you enter your Psycho-Calibration space is to sit. Ifyou create any other kind of commitment, most likely it will be counterproductive

    to your Psycho-Calibration.

    The way you word your decision is one of the main factors as to whether or notyou will follow that decision.

    Forget other techniques to relax or meditate. They may confuse you andcause you to strive for something that Psycho-Calibration is not.

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    The Four Steps To Psycho-Calibration

    Chapter Three Step One: Sit

    Remember. Your decision is, I will sit now, and thats it!

    Now, its time to start following your decision

    How To Master Your Very First Psycho-Calibration Session

    Lets rundown a list of what youve done so far:

    You have chosen your Psycho-Calibration space. You have read Chapter 2 and understand that your only commitment for today is

    to sit.

    You have also cleared your mind of any Psycho-Calibration techniques you havelearned previously.

    Once you have completed these steps, congratulations! You are now ready to start.

    What To Bring, What To Leave

    If you need to stop calibrating at a certain time (say youre on your lunch break), bring an

    alarm. What I do is I set the alarm on my cellphone, although I make sure to turn the

    ringer OFF so that I dont get interrupted by calls.

    An alarm is a good idea because you do NOT want to be constantly watching your clock,

    wondering if too much time has passed. Let the alarm surprise you.

    I also suggest that you print out this section of your eBook and take it with you for

    guidance and if you need to remember what to do.

    The Importance Of Your Position

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    When you sit, it is very important that you keep your back straight.

    This is to keep you alert. Just as frowning has been proven to make people less happy,

    slouching will evoke in you feelings of lethargy. Feeling tired is a distraction from your

    practice.

    When youre sitting, I recommend your back remains straight and your head is held up

    high.

    If you are unable to sit with your back straight, or the discomfort of the position is too

    much for you to handle, try your own posture when sitting. The important thing is to

    not lie down and to stay moderately still when you are in position.

    Why Posture And Sitting Are Absolutely Crucial To Quickly

    Reaping The Benefits Of Psycho-Calibration

    It is possible to calibrate in any position.

    However, lets start by sitting down, in the position I just described.

    Sitting is easy, right? But when we sit in position, our minds come up with plenty of

    reasons to stop sitting, and this is why it seems difficult.

    This difficulty is in your mind.

    CHAPTER THREE SUMMARY

    Go into your Psycho-Calibration space without being concerned with time. (If youhave to, set an alarm and then forget about it immediately. Let the alarm surprise

    you.)

    Sit back straight, head up if you can, and commit yourself to sitting. Although you can calibrate in almost any position, sitting is best, as you can be

    distracted and overly-involved doing something else.

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    Chapter Four Step Two: Evoking Pain

    Even if you had no clue what you were doing, but you simply devoted yourself to sitting

    in position for long enough, you would eventually start seeing benefits.

    It would simply take a long, long time.

    Legend has it that by simply sitting under a tree, following no practice, having no guide,

    the Buddha discovered the secret to happiness. It took him years, however, sitting by

    himself. He had to figure everything out on his own.

    But you dont have to go at it alone! There are techniques you will use to make 100

    percent use of your time sitting, speeding up the Psycho-Calibration process

    outrageously.

    This is the rocket fuel of Psycho-Calibration.

    . . . Are you ready?

    Lets Get Real

    I assume that you really wantto deal with the issues of your life and not just hope for a

    miracle.

    A miracle isnt coming.

    In order to live a better life, you need to deal with whats really hurting you.

    Only when you understand what is holding you back will you be able to spring forward

    and start living a better life.

    How Evoking Pain Is The Shortest Path To Pleasure

    Why does pain exist?

    Pain is a messenger. Its a good thing that we have pain, because it tells us if our finger is

    lying on a hot stove or if weve hurt someone who is close to us. People who cannot feelpain fall victim to accidents and cannot relate to others.

    Pain gets us to stop doing things it thinks are harmful to us and harmful to those we care

    about. That is its only purpose. To modify our behavior.

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    The good news is, once we understand our pain by observing it rather than avoiding it,

    we can get the message, and the pain is gone!This leads us not just to the absence of

    pain, but to incredible joy.

    Lets try this right now . . .

    How To Harness The Power Of Pain

    While you are sitting, your mind will be thinking about many different parts of your life.

    But to accelerate your results, lets get right to the painful parts.

    I want you to focus on all parts of yourself that dissatisfy you, that hurt, that you are

    ashamed of.

    Start with your immediate pain. If you are uncomfortable because of the position you

    are sitting in, dont squirm away from the pain. Focus on it. Observe how it feels.

    I want you to focus upon and observe yourmental pain as well. If you currently feel

    depressed, anxious, stressed, or in physical pain, focus upon this pain.

    I want you to experience all of your pain that is hiding.

    Ways to bring out your pain:

    Think of when you were recently embarrassed.

    Think of those you have disappointed recently and recall the situation.

    Think about something you keep putting off, or an obligation youve failed towithhold.

    Think about some lousy luck youve had recently, or some money youve lostneedlessly

    Think about worries for the future: financial worries, relationship worries, healthworries.

    Think of your pain as a noise, and I want you to turn it up!

    It is very important for you to turn up you pain, because we naturally repress pain and

    therefore do not deal with it completely.

    Ways to turn up your pain:

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    Accept your pain, and focus upon it. What is it trying to tell you? If your pain has an image associated with it, make it larger, crisper, and more

    detailed.

    If this pain has a sound associated with it, make it louder. Visualize the pain actually growing, inflating, filling the room, or imagine that

    you are diving into it. Make the feeling tangible and real.

    Now, below Ive included a general hierarchy of pain.

    At the top is pain you are presently aware of. Near the bottom is pain that you are only

    subconsciously aware of.

    When you resolve the pain of one level, move down to the next level.

    First Level: Your Current Pain

    Weak Pain: The mere discomfort of the sitting itself. Feeling tired or bored.

    Strong Pain: Overwhelming anguish, overwhelming physical pain, depression, and a

    strong desperation to rid yourself of this pain.

    Second Level: Recent Issues You Are Currently Ignoring

    Weak Pain: Minor insecurities, slip-ups, failures, grumbles and worries about daily life.

    Strong Pain: Recent personal tragedy, such as the death of a loved one. Strong

    insecurities, recent emotional issues.

    Third Level: Memories Buried From Your Past / Worries For Your Future

    Weak: Issues that you have already dealt with. Issues that are no longer painful. Minor

    worries for the future, such as worrying about the success of a sports team.

    Strong: Traumatic past experiences that affect your present condition. Paralyzing fearsfor the future, such as a fear that you and your loved ones will be hurt.

    Fourth Level: Your Identity

    Weak: Typical insecurities, uncertainty in your life, the desire to be better.

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    Strong: Feelings of inadequacy, feeling unworthy of being loved, feeling like a failure,

    feeling without purpose or meaning.

    Fifth Level: Your Fear of Death

    Weak: You accept the idea of death, are willing to think about it, but do not wish to diebecause you enjoy life. You are frightened only when in great immediate danger.

    Strong: You refuse to think about the fact that you are going to die. Because you will not

    think about death, although you are very frightened of it, your fear manifests in other

    ways: phobias, overreactions to non-life-threatening health risks, such as common

    germs, a desperate need for the idea of an afterlife.

    The ONLY Way To Get Rid Of Pain Is To Accept It

    Are you ready to stop suffering from all levels of pain?

    Again, think of pain as a messenger.

    More specifically, pain is a messenger we often dont want to deal with. Think of pain as

    a bill. The electric bill or an expensive credit card bill.

    Bills are lousy messages to get.We want to leave them in the mailbox.

    The smartest thing to do, of course, would be to pay the bill immediately, ship it out, and

    never see it again. The stupidest thing to do would be to not open the mailbox at all and

    let the bills pile up.

    And thats what we tend to do with our pain. We let it pile up.

    The pain remains in the mailbox of our mind, accumulated in a big pile, and because of

    this we become stressed. Stress is having the pain all there, having that pile in our minds

    at all times.

    And new pain is added to the pile, more and more pain you are ignoring, until finally it

    must be dealt with, all of it. And this is when you break down. Because the pain

    becomes too much for you to handle.

    You can prevent this from happening. You can get rid of 100 percent of your stress bydealing with all of your pain.

    Fortunately . . .

    There Is A Way To Deal With Pain Quickly, Easily, And

    Painlessly

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    Pain is gone once we understand and accept what it is trying to tell us.

    The reason why we cannot get the message, so to speak, is because we have a natural

    aversion to pain.

    Pain is an unpleasant messenger, and therefore, we choose to ignore it.

    Usually, we do not listen to our pain, but we respond: we respond with action, we

    respond by pushing our pain aside, we respond by worrying, and we respond with forced

    positive thinking.

    Least of all do we wish to sit down with our pain and let it speak out everything that it

    wants to say.

    But that is exactly what we are going to do. Because, fortunately, there is a technique that

    makes listening to painfun and completely painless! It is entirely crucial to Psycho-

    Calibration.

    We discuss this technique in the next chapter . . .

    CHAPTER FOUR SUMMARY

    Pain is a messenger. Rather than avoiding pain and letting the messagesaccumulate, it is best to actually listen to the message.

    Listening to the message of our pain is uncomfortable for us. That is why we usethe technique discussed in Chapter 5.

    Painful areas of your life can be focused on and recalled from memory. They canalso be amplified by visualization exercises and other tricks. This is to get pains

    full message finally, in its totality, as it has been previously ignored.

    There is a hierarchy of pain, all the way to the fear of death, which is the mostdeeply rooted. To be completely and utterly without stress, you can move all

    the way down through this hierarchy, recalling all of your pain and riddingyourself of it, even the fear of death.

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    Chapter Five Step Three: Identify Yourself As The Observer

    Start thinking of yourself as two selves.

    There is one self that observes and one self that thinks, feels, and reacts.

    (Unlike the content of many other programs, Psycho-Calibration does not engage in

    pseudo-philosophy or any unscientific claim of the mind. This is a general, working

    metaphor to how your mind actually operates.)

    You can test this right now by observing your current thoughts. Isnt it possible, rightnow, to observe your thoughts? Isnt it possible to observe your emotions?

    If you only had one self, and that self was comprised of your thoughts and emotions, you

    could not observe that self. The self could not observe itself; it could only add more

    thoughts and emotions.

    With only one self, you would have a brain like that of an insect, incapable of

    introspection, incapable of viewing or understanding its own behavior.

    We are human beings, and therefore, we have two selves, an impartial observing self and

    self that includes all of your thoughts and emotions.

    Your Pain Is In Your Thoughts And Emotions Not In The

    Observer

    All of your pain exists in one of these two selves: the self of your thoughts and emotions.

    Pain is, quite simply, an emotion.

    The other self, the self that observes, is painless, thoughtless, and emotionless.

    In order to deal with the pain you have recalled and focused upon, you must identify withthe observer.

    The Loving Relationship Of Your Two Selves: Just Like

    Parent And Child

    Now, bear with me as I try another analogy.

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    The relationship between your two selves, the observer and your thoughts and emotions,

    is very much like the relationship between a parent and child.

    And exactly what is true with parenting is true with how you should treat your mind.

    1.

    The child is happier if the parent gives the child attention.

    Without parental observation, a child can easily become destructive, get into trouble,

    become selfish, and ultimately hurt himself. Spend time with your kids.

    The same is true with your thoughts and emotions. If you observe your thoughts and

    emotions, they will become more pleasant and less destructive. If you leave them

    alone, they will become unhappy, irresponsible, undeveloped.

    This is one of the simplest ways to understand why Psycho-Calibration improves your

    life.

    2. Without any discipline, the child will become unhappy and often dysfunctional.An unruly child without any discipline enforced will ignore the parent, no matter how

    attentive the parent is.

    This is why I suggest sitting in position for at least 7 minutes every day. The act of

    sitting instills discipline upon your thoughts and emotions.

    When a child is unruly, a good parent sits the child down and confronts him, sternlybut acceptingly, asking Whats the problem? This is what we do in Psycho-

    Calibration, too.

    We bring up the problem immediately, the problem of pain, and we continue sitting

    until that problem is resolved.

    3. Too much discipline and the child rebels.A good parent only instills discipline to correct behavior, such as rudeness or

    violence, that will eventually make their child unhappy. Discipline should never beenforced simply to enforce discipline.

    We should not get carried away and sit still for 4 days straight. We should not

    become masochists.

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    Psycho-Calibration is based only on observing negative emotions, to get rid of them,

    and increasing positive emotions. Once the pain is gone, once you are happy, go out

    and live your life.

    4. Parents are only needed in the beginning. Then the child grows up.In a good relationship, over time the child becomes happier and healthier and will

    eventually be able to exist on his own.

    When you start having a good relationship with your self, your thoughts and emotions

    will improve, up to the point when you dont need to calibrate anymore.

    Of course, children do, out of sheer joy and love, want to visit their parents. And you

    will wantto continue to calibrate.

    Your mind will become more and more disciplined (that means greater productivity,

    greater effectiveness) and also increasingly calm and joyful.

    You will enjoy Psycho-Calibration more, and it will be easier. Your life will also be

    better even when you arent calibrating.

    5. The parent is responsible for the child. The child is not responsible for theparent, and not yet responsible for himself.

    Most people give full responsibility to their thoughts and emotions. They act on a

    thought, or they act on a feeling.

    But there is nothing you can thinkand nothing you canfeelthat will drastically

    change your life. This is because trying to change your life with thoughts and

    emotions is exactly the same as if you were handing all of your responsibility

    over to a child!

    If you woke up one morning and decided that you were going to keep a flawlessly

    healthy diet for the rest of your life, I would guess that you will break your

    commitment in less than 24 hours.

    This is because the decision came from thoughts and emotions. You woke up and felt

    like making a decision. And once those thoughts and emotions are replaced with otherthoughts and emotions, the decision is broken.

    So be easy on your thoughts, easy on your emotions. Put your responsibility on being

    aware of your thoughts, aware of your emotions. Make it your responsibility to

    become the observer.

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    6. When the relationship is healthy, parents and children feel love towards eachother.

    Do you feel the emotion of love with yourself, just like you felt with your high school

    sweetheart or now with your children?

    Well, you should. And you can.

    Such a level of constant happiness is absolutely obtainable. It is simply the healthiest

    psychological state possible.

    When you feel a sense of active love, you are succeeding in your Psycho-Calibration

    practice. (More on love in the next chapter!)

    How To Give Authority To The Observer And Start Changing

    Your Life

    Again, your problem is a lack of observation for your thoughts and emotions, which are

    controlling your life. You must give authority back to the observer by identifying

    yourself as the observer.

    Everyday we identify ourselves as our thoughts and emotions, but very rarely do we think

    of ourselves as the observation of these thoughts and emotions. This is quite the

    imbalance.

    This is not something you can just understand intellectually. This must be put into

    practice as you sit in your position and are focused upon pain.

    The easiest way to identify yourself as the observer is to focus on your pain, then focus

    on the distance between yourself and your pain.

    As you observe pain, think of it in an entirely separate place, as if floating next to your

    face, or even across the room.

    You can also ponder upon a question, like: How could this pain be both a part of me and

    be observed by me?

    (Of course, the answer is, it cannot. To be able to observe something means that you areseparate from it. Without a mirror, my eyes cannot see themselves. My eyes, however,

    can see a dog walking in the park, as the dog is separate from my eyes. In the same way,

    it is proved that we are separate from our thoughts and emotions because we can observe

    them.)

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    CHAPTER FIVE SUMMARY

    You have two selves: your thoughts and emotions and that which observes yourthoughts and emotions. Because pain is an emotion, the observational self is

    painless. Identifying yourself as this self is the secret to Psycho-Calibration

    bringing you joy and pain relief.

    To identify yourself as the observer of your thoughts and emotions, focus uponthe distance between your pain and your actual self. It is not actually affecting

    you, is it? You are watching pain, listening to pain, all the while without pain.

    A great analogy for the Psycho-Calibration process is one between a parent andchild. The parent is who you truly are (the observer), and the child is your

    personality, embodied by your name, the product of the parent but not the parent

    itself.

    Without discipline and an observer, the child becomes unruly, overindulgent, and

    hurts himself. The child is happier being observed by the parent, and this is why

    Psycho-Calibration makes you happier: you are happier when looked after.

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    Chapter Six Love

    Unfortunately, the word love has been used so often and so cheaply that it has all but

    lost its meaning.

    When I talk about love, Im not talking about romantic love. Im not talking about heart

    aflutter, lovey-dovey stuff.

    Love is simply feeling unitedwith something else. It is the opposite of separation and

    isolation.

    You happily give things to people that you love. You give possessions, money, time,

    patience. Thats because, its just like keeping it yourself. They are a part of you!

    Love provides us the greatest feeling of all feelings in the human experience. In a way,

    we become larger with love, since love unites us with parts of the world.

    The feeling of love is the feeling of gratitude. It is one of the greatest feelings in all of

    human experience.

    How To Love . . . In 10 Sentences

    Love is a mystery.

    But it can be defined, and it can be taught.

    As I said before, love is the desire to become one with something. What we love

    whether its music, people, paintings, or foodwe are grateful to have as a part of our

    lives.

    So during your Psycho-Calibration session, after you have observed your pain, startallowing everything to be a part of your life. Let everything in, and feel grateful!

    Even strangers passing by on the street, even people who have hurt you before . . . even

    objects in the room! Love everything by letting it have significance in your life.

    How To Love Yourself (Even If You Screw Up Big Time)

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    You have heard the phrase unconditional love, I assume. You need to unconditionally

    love yourself.

    This is the purest form of love and can only be done by identifying yourself as the

    observer. Your thoughts and emotions create conditions constantly, but the observer is

    unconditional.

    Again, think of the relationship between a parent and child. The best parents understand

    that their children are inherently good, even when they do something that is bad. The best

    parents always love their children and are aware enough to understand the meaning of

    their behavior and accept it for what it is.

    If a child cries, it is because the child is upset, not because the child is bad. Likewise,

    you are not bad if you do things that make you upset! Love yourself!

    Observe your failures and inadequacies (and the failures and inadequacies of the world

    around you) as a parent would view the inadequacies of his or her child.

    Turning The Love Up

    The feeling of love is an emotion and therefore is created by the self that is composed

    of thought and emotion, not the observer. The observerinspires the feeling of love just

    as a parent inspires love in his or her children.

    To put it more simply, the feeling of love will come naturally from practice if you

    identify yourself with the observer.

    Think of love as your thoughts and emotions saying thank you for the observer.

    And since love is actively produced from your thoughts and emotions, you can work to

    increase love just as you previously turned up or magnified your pain.

    If you see a picture in your mind when you are feel love, increase the size of thepicture.

    If you hear a sound, turn up the volume of that sound. Pretend that the love inside you is a puddle that keeps growing. Any kind of

    mental exercise, no matter how silly, will work. The goal is simply for you to be

    active about loving.

    CHAPTER SIX SUMMARY

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    After you have resolved pain, begin to actively love. This happens by observingand accepting everything inside and out and by turning up that feeling with

    your emotions, just as you turned up your pain earlier.

    True love is unconditional and must beproduced actively. It is not going to fall onyour lap. You must accept your mistakes and character faults, and this can bedone by observing them.

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    Chapter Seven Your Daily 7-Minute Restoration Session

    Summarized, And How To Overcome Common Difficulties In

    Your Practice

    The four steps need not to be in a rigid placement but should be repeated through yourPsycho-Calibration session.

    Again, here are the steps, including more detail as to when they can be used:

    1. SitYour whole session you should be sitting in posture. (Although please read

    the tip below for an exception.)

    2. Bring Out Your PainThis is to accelerate the process. It is the most powerful technique.

    3. Identify Yourself As The ObserverThis should be done as often as possible. All benefits arise from this step. It

    should be done especially after youve brought out your pain, since you dont

    want to suffer needlessly from it.

    4. Actively LoveThis keeps the Psycho-Calibration process going and allows you to build

    momentum. With love, you are move involved in the worldyour life is

    larger, so to speakand so you have more to work with.

    Along with these steps, lets add a few invaluable tips and tricks that will help your first

    session to go smoothly.

    A Tip For Sitting

    An important question: When should you break posture?

    You should break posture as soon as you are distracted by your desire to break your

    posture.

    Essentially, when you start wanting to break posture, and you are not observing this

    want but emotionally reacting to it and thinking about it, you should break posture

    immediately!

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    But when you break posture, only break it enough to become comfortable again. I tend

    to move my spine around and stretch, sometimes standing up.

    After youve broken posture, think about why you had to break your posture and the pain

    or discomfort that you previously felt.

    It will now be very easy to observe this discomfort rather than participate in it, since it is

    not currently bothering you. Once youve observed your discomfort, return to your

    position and continue calibrating. You will now be able to sit for longer.

    A Tip To Help You Identify Yourself As The Observer

    This is perhaps the most difficult step, as we all identify ourselves naturally with our

    thoughts and emotions.

    A helpful way to identify ourselves with the observer is to love what you are trying to

    observe.

    The emotion of love is the only emotion that works because love implies separateness (it

    the feeling of two separate things uniting) but is selfless, as is the observer. Other

    emotions, such as anger, participate with the mind.

    Love does not participate with the mind; it observes the mind. The observer is selfless,

    therefore, it only causes love.

    How To Solve 5 Other Common Difficulties

    1. If your pain is too much for you, and you are simply too overwhelmed to identifyyourself as the observer of your pain, then focus for a moment not on your pain but

    on something simple and natural, such as your breath.

    Just as we break posture whenever maintaining it becomes distracting, we break our

    focus from pain whenever it becomes distracting.

    2. Other people talking can be the worst distraction and will most likely bother yourpractice. The best way of dealing with noise is to love the source of that noise. Reach

    out to them with your heart, so to speak. Believe that they, too, are a human being and

    are like you. Love is observational by nature, and so you will be able to get the jobdone that way.

    3. The incessant clamor of other responsibilities can ruin a practice. Thinking you havebetter things to do is a lousy thought and should be observed just like pain.

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    In fact, it is perfectly common to have negative thoughts towards Psycho-Calibration

    and the Psycho-Calibration process. Treat these negative thoughts the same way you

    treat negative emotion. Turn it up and observe it.

    4. Tiredness will show itself if you arent getting enough sleep or exercising. Many first-timers to Psycho-Calibration lie down and fall asleep!

    The best way to deal with this is to start taking better care of yourself before you

    calibrate. But while calibrating, evoking pain (Step 2) will often do the trick. When

    you worry about something, its difficult to fall asleep, isnt it?

    5. Social stigma. It sounds silly, but some people might think its weird that you want tocalibrate!

    The way to remedy this is also just a good idea in general: Dont talk about Psycho-

    Calibration and your Psycho-Calibration experiences. This is not a steadfast rule,

    but a general one that can often be a good idea.

    Psycho-Calibration is about observing rather than thinking. When we talk about

    Psycho-Calibration, we think about it, and we get emotional reactions from its

    inclusion in our social lives. Let people find this new transformation in your life

    mysterious. Let them guess. Dont tell everyone that youre calibrating now and have

    become a new person.

    Now That You Know It All, Have An Extraordinary First

    Session!

    Now that you understand the four steps, you can start. Go to your Psycho-Calibration

    place.

    Remember, your only commitment is to sit. You can use any of the other three steps at

    any time, and as I mentioned before, it is best to break the first step a little than become

    consumed with the desire to stand up.

    I recommend doing this once a day, as we tend to forget what weve learned the previous

    day after waking up from a night of sleep.

    After you successfully perform a Psycho-Calibration session (and youll know its

    successful if youre feeling good!) you can recall that experience throughout the day.

    How to recollect your Psycho-Calibration bliss even in the most stressful situations is the

    subject of the next part of this eBook.

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    Improving All Areas Of Your Life

    Chapter Eight The Rest Of Your Day: Recollection And

    ReinforcementYoure not going to calibrate all day.

    I assume you want to live your life, and you want the benefits of Psycho-Calibration for

    the entire day.

    Thats why, after your daily session, you are going to recall the feeling of that session

    throughout the day.

    In order to do this, we use something called anchoring.

    The Power Of Anchoring

    Anchoring is the creation of associative links. Anchoring is very powerful.

    Think of Pavlovs famous dogs, who had the ringing of a bell anchored to eating food.

    You need an anchor so that during the day, when you cannot calibrate, you can recall the

    anchor insteadand get all the benefits of Psycho-Calibration.

    YourPsycho-Calibration position is already an anchor. If you return to its position, you

    will quickly return the Psycho-Calibration mind state, without doing a thing!

    But you cannot always sit in position. You need a second anchor for when you are

    moving and for when Psycho-Calibration is inappropriate.

    You can use anything, so long as you do it while you calibrate. Here are some

    suggestions:

    Observe your breathing. This is a good relaxation method and can be doneanywhere.

    Play a song or album that puts you into the Psycho-Calibration mood. Stare at your hand and fingers. Stare into a mirror.Actually, the best anchor is pain itself. Whenever you feel pain, try identifying yourself

    as the observer of your pain. Have pain be your best reminder to use some of the

    techniques youve learned.

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    Whenever you feel any kind of painanxiety, discomfort, boredom, angeractivate

    another anchor, such as sitting down or focusing on your breathing. The more times you

    do this, the stronger the anchors become and the less you suffer from pain.

    You should recall your Psycho-Calibration via anchors ANY TIME you are in pain. Of

    course, specific instances in the real world deserve to be discussed in more detail . . .

    Thats why, in the next chapter, Ive included more than 10 different areas of your life in

    which Psycho-Calibration can specifically improve.

    Chapter Nine Real World Applications For Psycho-Calibration

    Psycho-Calibration is meaningless if it cant provide you with practical benefits.

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    The following is a list of a few areas in your life that Psycho-Calibration can help with.

    Let this be your secret weapon.

    If you are having special difficulty with one area in your life, I would suggest deciding to

    sit in position until you feel good about it, then, as you execute, recall your Psycho-

    Calibration joy so that you dont get stressed and quit.

    Happiness, and therefore success, is the goal for all of these areas. You can only succeed

    if you are happy, since suffering is a failure.

    Healthy Diet, Healthy Life

    It is well-known why the French, who enjoy high-fat foods even more than those in the

    United States, remain thin and relatively healthy, while the U.S. is in an obesity

    epidemic.

    Their attitudes towards the process of eatingare simply different. They prefer long

    dinners, smaller portions but several different courses, and savoring food. In the United

    States, it is standard to eat one enormous course quickly, stuffing the food in

    indiscriminately, often while doing something else at the same time, such as watching

    TV.

    Psycho-Calibration can be an outstandingly effective tool in having a better diet because

    itfocuses you on the process of eating.

    1. Observe the pain of your hunger. If, when you observe your hunger, it stopsbothering yougood! Eat only when you are genuinely hungry.

    2. Only eat. Dont watch TV. Dont read the newspaper. Focus on every movementof your fork, on the taste of every bite.

    3. Be grateful for the fact that you are eating. If you are grateful for the fact thatyou are able to eat at all, you will enjoy more foods, including healthy food.

    Now, in order to turn this practice into a diet, I recommend calibrating before going to the

    grocery store so that you arent controlled by your emotions when youre there. Buy only

    healthy, nutritious food. If you dont know whats healthy or nutritious, search the

    internet or purchase a book on diet and health.

    When you begin your diet, you are going to have occasional and overwhelming cravings

    for innutritious food. When these occur, I recommend immediate Psycho-Calibration to

    deal with the craving. Treat the craving just as you would treat any other pain.

    How To Stop Procrastinating

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    Procrastination ultimately comes from pain. We procrastinate because it is painful to do

    what it is we need to do.

    Psycho-Calibration is absolutely the best way to deal with procrastination, since Psycho-

    Calibration is the best way to deal with pain. Observe the painful feeling preventing you

    from doing your work, as you now know how to observe pain.

    Your attention should be on your emotions, not your decisions. A decision to work means

    nothing. You will ultimately follow whatever decision your emotional state wants.

    Another consideration: While you work, you will get ideas of other things to do, and

    these ideas will at first seem good. Play a game of internet solitaire, you may think, it

    will get me relaxed and ready to work.

    These thoughts are coming from pain, but we do not realize it. Turn up these ideas, as

    in, listen to your mind completely as it is suggesting it. Do not push away distractions:

    listen to them entirely and observe them. Doing this, they will eventually go away.

    A final suggestion: While you are working, try to send out youractive love, like weve

    learned in Step 4. Many people love their work. Work is not inherently unpleasant. We

    simply do not love all work, just as we do not love all peopleand this can be improved.

    By taking the initiative to love everything, including your work, your life will be much

    happier.

    I guarantee, with active love, you can enjoy doing pretty much anything.

    You need to observe the pain, first, and then, when it no longer hurts, send out your love.

    How To Wake Up Happily In The Morning

    Most people think alarm clocks are a terrible way to wake up. To them, they make a loud,

    obnoxious sound, and the snooze button should be smacked violently and as often as

    possible.

    But alarm clocks serve a useful function. If you hate your alarm clock so much, why do

    you have one? Why did you buy one?

    The first thing you should try thinking of should be: Thank you for waking me up.Although I am tired, I wanted to be woken up.

    This may sound stupid, but simply having gratitude for your alarm clock increases love

    and happiness and makes the entire morning better.

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    Now, I recommend that as soon as you can, you should sit up, in position, on your bed

    and calibrate until you are well awake, observing your feeling of being tired as you

    observe pain. Once you are mentally well-awake, you can sit up and begin your morning.

    How To Keep Your Cool When Others Arent

    We only mind that a person is mean or inconsiderate to us if it hurts. If it doesnt hurt, we

    laugh or are simply astonished.

    Rather than the behavior of the other person, it is your pain that is important here, and it

    should be your pain that is the focus.

    First and foremost, turn up the pain that you feel because of the persons mean

    behavior. Then, identify yourself as the observer of this pain, not the pains recipient.

    After this, you should feel better, but you may still judge the other person, and this will

    continue to bother you. Although the person was mean to you, I still recommend actively

    loving the person.

    We should not love only people who act flawlessly around us. We should even love

    people who act unpleasantly, and this is much easier to do if the unpleasant behavior

    stops hurting you.

    Loving people who are mean is difficult. I suggest trying this:

    Think about the pain the person must be feeling that would motivate him or her into

    meanness. All anger and rudeness comes from pain. Completely happy people have not a

    single complaint and do not wish harm on anyone.

    Focusing on the other persons pain, once youve resolved your own, allows you to love,

    and love allows for immense happiness.

    Sex, Attraction, And Sexual Tension

    If youre single, good news! In the Psycho-Calibration mind state, you are relaxed and

    confident, and therefore people want to be around you, including potential mates.

    But Psycho-Calibration will do more than get responses. It may change, for the better,your outlook on sex.

    Because sex is pleasurable, sex is often used to deal with pain. The only problem with

    this is that, like drugs, it is a temporary fix. If you are in pain, please, calibrate instead.

    It will be much more successful and the sex, if you choose to engage in it, will be better,

    too.

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    Psycho-Calibration moves your mind fromjudging others and looking for a way out of

    pain to loving others and being painless.

    Judging and using people is exactly what sex should NOT be about. Both men and

    women do this, and both in the courtship stage and in the bedroom itself.

    Before you go on a date, and before you make that move, I suggest getting rid of your

    pain through Psycho-Calibration. Trust me. If you have to wait a few days because your

    head isnt right, calibrate.

    Once a sexual relationship (and this could be anything from just-more-than-friends to

    marriage) is founded on mutual interest rather than looking for a way out of pain, its

    time for the magic.

    Sexual activity of any sort is very exciting and pleasurable, but at the same time, it is full

    of pain and anxiety. We can become self-conscious of our bodies, self-conscious of our

    approach, self-conscious of our abilities. This is where love comes in.

    Many people are scared of the idea of loving someone they arent married to, or at least,

    heavily committed to. This is wrong thinking. Remember, the ultimate goal is to love

    everything.

    A good rule of thumb is to love before engaging in any physical, sexual activity. This is

    not the same as abstinence until marriage. This is the idea of genuinely caring about the

    other person before you enter into the emotionally intense territory of sex. Again,

    otherwise, sex is just to feel good, and there are better ways to do this.

    If you desperately want a romantic partner, you should not calibrate in order to get one.

    You should calibrate until you are happy with being single.

    The bizarre thing is, once you do that, chances are you will be much more attractive.

    Making Money With Psycho-Calibration

    The first step is to be grateful with what you have.

    Pain prevents us from earning more money. Observation of that pain and being

    grateful through love eliminates the pain.

    Before you do anything, be grateful for whatever is in your bank account, be grateful for

    your job if you have one, be grateful for your financial situation regardless of what it is.

    If you are fed and have decent shelter, you are doing better than millions upon millions of

    people in this world.

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    Being grateful with what you have makes the concept of earning more money more fun.

    It becomes a bonus rather than something you must do.

    Some people will say the opposite, that you have to be desperate to succeed, but I

    disagree. Desperate people often are committed, which is also necessary, but it also has to

    be fun for you. No one is led to the very top of any field by pain.

    Pain also prevents us from earning money because it prevents us from taking risks,

    even ingenious risks, which all the top-earners have done.

    (Let me take a moment to distinguish a difference here between pain and dissatisfaction.

    Pain is unproductive to making more money and should be observed through Psycho-

    Calibration.Dissatisfaction is the perfectly healthy feeling that drives creativity and

    progress.)

    If you have many deeply rooted issues with money, devotee a Psycho-Calibration session

    or more to dealing with this.

    Once you are no longer in pains with your financial state, it can be enjoyable and feasible

    to make more money. That will be your decision. Like the decision to create art, or the

    decision to master a game, the decision to make money is a worthy pursuit.

    Making money should be based on a friendly dissatisfaction, a desire to achieve.

    To summarize everything: Making money requires creativity, dedication, and risk-

    taking.

    I will discuss all three.

    Improve Creativity

    Creativity is not a decision. Many people forget this.

    Many people think they just need to come up with a million-dollar idea and watch the

    money roll in. Many people believe that great authors, for instance, simply come up with

    what they want to write and write it down. Creative people, they believe, come up with

    good ideas.

    Creativity is actually less about ideas and more about congruency in execution.

    There are many good ideas out there. But there are very few people that will congruently

    execute a good idea so that it becomes real.

    In other words, creativity is the ability to come up with everything needed to make

    something new come together.

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    This is why Psycho-Calibration is very beneficial to creativity. What hurts creativity

    are ideas that are not congruent to what you are creating. These ideas are usually based

    on emotional reactions. And Psycho-Calibration gets rid of this.

    Psycho-Calibration observes the true nature of thoughts and emotions and therefore

    weeds out inappropriate ideas.

    For example, if I wish to write a novel about a bitter father/son relationship, if I get the

    impulse midway to change my mind and write about traveling back in time to see

    Napoleon, is that because it was my vision all along? Or was it because I was getting

    frustrated that day with what I was writing? When you deal with your pain in Psycho-

    Calibration, work becomes play again, and you wont come up with desperate ideas and

    dreams that will distract you. In my case, the novel would be written without hesitation,

    whatever it turned out to be. It would all be play.

    I suggest doing a small amount of calibrating to get rid of pain before you even startcoming up with ideas. Pain leads to bad ideas and stifles the playful mood creativity

    needs.

    Dont try planning what you are going to create, just observe your mind, whatever it is

    youre thinking. Ideas will come to you. You need to have faith in this!

    You will not consciously construct the next big idea, but it may very well come to you.

    Keeping Commitments And Upholding Responsibilities: The

    Maturation Of Psycho-Calibration

    Many people are afraid of commitmentsespecially in relationshipsbecause they are

    afraid of investing their time in something that could fail. They are afraid of future pain.

    I suggest that you focus on observing your present pain first. Happy people are more

    optimistic about the future. And how could you keep a commitment if, all the while, you

    were worried that it would fail?

    Commitments are usually abandoned rather than broken. Psycho-Calibration can help

    prevent this.

    Try calibrating once where you recall all of the commitments, responsibilities, and

    promises youve made with people. This could be a great burden if you really calibrate,

    so youll have to really make sure to identify yourself as the observer of this burden

    rather than have it actually burden you. As the observer, all of these commitments will

    come into a new light.

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    I do not believe that you can simply decide to follow all of your responsibilities and

    commitments. You can, however, through Psycho-Calibration observe that they exist and

    observe the pain and burden that they cause, thereby getting rid of the pain, as truly

    observing pain ends it.

    And commitments without pain are happily taken. There is a pleasure in fulfillingcommitment.

    Shatter Your Fear And Start Taking Smart Risks

    Fear is simply the drive to avoid pain. When pain is gone, of course, fear is gone too.

    Thats why Psycho-Calibration is an essential tool to removing fear, since it removes

    your pain.

    And you really should get rid of your fear!

    Fear prevents us from doing anything bold, anything with risk. Anything that is great

    was once risky, from a new idea to a loving relationship.

    If you can live agreatlife, why not?

    Only fear is preventing you.

    To get rid of the fear and the underlying pain, turn up the fear and identify yourself as

    the observer. Let your fear go wild! Let it come up with every ridiculous idea you can

    think of!

    If youre afraid of taking a new job, for instance, let your fear go from: Maybe I wont

    like it to Maybe Ill become homeless and live on the street and my spouse will divorce

    me and Ill get bitten by fleas every day!

    The more extreme your fear is taken, the better. We want to see all of what is causing our

    pain so we can observe it. Once we observe pain, remember, it no longer bothers us.

    After you feel painless, you are ready to make a decision. The decision should just come

    to you.

    It wont always be the riskiest decision, but it will be the right one, without fear.

    Never Feel Bored Again

    Calibrate whenever you are bored. Being bored is a great time to calibrate.

    Boredom implies that you are wasting time. Boredom is the feeling that you are not really

    living life, and that is the greatest waste of all.

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    In fact, if you always calibrated when you were bored, your life would transform

    incredibly! You would even grow to like feeling bored, as it would be a happy reminder

    to start calibrating.

    Boredom is another form of pain and should be treated as such. Observe your boredom

    and all of its aspects. What does it feel like? Can we magnify the feeling? Boredom isobserved but not felt. It is inspected, looked over, wondered at, although indifferently.

    Love is the ultimate boredom killer, and so it is especially this step that does boredom in.

    When you are in love with someone, you can do absolutely nothing together and be

    happy. The same is true with being by yourself and loving.

    How To Become More Loving And Patient With Your

    Children

    Psycho-Calibration will make you more loving and patient with your children.

    Too often parents shout at their kids for misbehaving, which is usually just the child

    talking loudly or running around. This is especially the case in public, when parents can

    be especially expecting a certain behavior in their child.

    Too often the parent is focused on the childs behaviorand not the parents own emotion.

    The next time your child upsets you, turn that pain up inside you and observe it.

    Is a loud voice really that bad? Why do you want to shout at your child?

    If you love your child and you do not shelter him or her because of your fear that he orshe will be hurt, your child will be healthy and happy. This is more important than

    instilling discipline.

    Of course, if your child is hurting you or others, let the child know that you are hurting

    others. You should be firm. Simply telling your child that they are hurting someone will

    most of the time due the trick. If it doesnt, use more authority, but never lash out against

    your child.

    If you do lash out against your child, you must deal with this. I suggest Psycho-

    Calibration to really come to terms with what you did and why.

    Chapter 10 Failures, Disappointments, And Secrets

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    What If Psycho-Calibration Just Doesnt Work For Me? I

    Try And Try . . . But It Doesnt Work!

    Ive been there. Its frustrating.

    Maybe youve seen little glimmers of it working, but you just cant get the big results.

    Thats rough.

    Most likely, however, it is not that Psycho-Calibration doesnt work for you. Its just that

    you havent figured it out yet.

    And thats fine. Psycho-Calibration is tricky, and once you do get it, youll have an

    added appreciation for Psycho-Calibration.

    Here are common failures that occur and how to resolve them:

    1. I just cant sit in the position for very long.As was mentioned in Chapter 7, whenever you have a distracting desire to get out

    of position that you simply cannot observe passively, you should obey that desire

    and get out of position.

    However, when you do this, only break your position enough to appease the

    thought. What I do is, I stand up for a bit and stretch my spine.

    Once the pain of sitting in position goes away, you can return in position and

    continue your session. Do this as many times as you need.

    Stop calibrating once you feel happy and painless. It will happen. Even if it takes

    over an hour, it will happen. You need to really commit to it if its your first time.

    The first time is always the hardest, because you dont have that feeling of joy to

    recall.

    2. My pain is too great. I cant observe it at all. I just become depressed.Your brain chemistry plays a big part in your Psycho-Calibration practice. If you

    are chemically depressed, Psycho-Calibration is much more difficult.

    I suggest, if you are having trouble with your practice, to do something that will

    change your brain chemistry.

    Eat if you havent done so. Exercise works miracles, too. Exercising before

    Psycho-Calibration is a great idea. Make sure you get plenty of sleep, too.

    3. I have no idea how to observe my thoughts without thinking about them.

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    This means you are thinking too much. Observation becomes a very real

    phenomenon that you are immediately aware of once your thoughts are focused

    enough to observe. In our daily lives, we dont observe our thoughts because we

    simply have too many!

    I would suggest focusing on something simple, like your breath, for a while todecrease the amount of thoughts. While this happens, just try imagining that you

    are outside of your thoughts, that you are actually looking at themwow, look

    theres a thought, theres an emotion!

    4. I have no idea how to love myself. I dont like myself, at least parts ofmyself.

    As I said before, true love is unconditional.

    Just as a parent does not have to like his or her child to love the child, you do not

    have to like all of the actions that you have done to love yourself.

    A simple way to love yourself is to believe in the analogy I have been using and

    to just think of your thoughts, emotions, and actions as coming from a child!

    We believe children are innocent and inherently good, even if they do evil. Why

    shouldnt we assume the same for adults? At least, assume the same for yourself.

    Treat yourself as if you are nave and need attention.