Why You Must Grow Up! Francis E. MADOJEMU

Why You Must Grow Up!

• 2 Peter 3:18

• 18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.

•“There’s a difference between knowing t h e p a t h a n d walking the path” – Morpheus, The Matrix

Why do we have such disparity between people.

•There are certain things even in Christianity that nobody can do for you!

• We really do not know how we are going to react in certain circumstances because there is a lot of theory in our heads.

Decisions!

Teach ing and preachings bring us to a point of decision - John Maxwell

T h e r e i s a b i g difference between training and teaching. 

Romans 12

• Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind

• B e t r a n s f o r m e d b y renewing & retraining your mind

• Be changed by training 

• We are not going to change if we don't change our minds

STORY ABOUT THE WOMAN WITH 2 KIDS

• It's your husband fault but who suffers?

• The Children and the Wife

• What should you work on? 

• Him or yourself 

• Get your act together 

TRUTH

•The person that needs to change is you!

• Yo u h a v e b l a m e d y o u r husband, father, mother, employer, RICH UNCLE ETC for everything that happened to you.

• And to prove to the world you are right you allowed that h u s b a n d s b e h a v i o r t o determine the destiny of your children and the way your life had turned out.

THAT'S NOT RIGHT!

•Yet it should be in spite of ll your husbands nonentity your life and he life of your children is great and successful 

• My boss did not like me but....

• My uncle could not help me but..

• My husband left me but...

• Mrs Adeboye of Jesus Embassy

BUT!!!!

•We h a v e t h i s inerrant capacity t o b l a m e everybody else except our selves 

• Most of our lives 

• For example because my father did not help me I am useless.

BUT!!!!

• We have this great capacity to find a reason to jus t i f y where we are and put t h e b l a m e o n somebody else.

• In other words we believe somebody else is responsible for where we are now!

YOU!

•The person who is responsible for where you are now is the person you see in the mirror everyday!

• 2 Samuel 12:7

• 7 And Nathan said to David, Thou art the man. Thus saith the Lord God of Israel, I anointed thee king over Israel, and I delivered thee out of the hand of Saul;

OPRAH'S FAVORITE GUEST

• What of if at any stage of her dreams she stopped and gave up.

• She then chose to blame her father and husband 

• What of she said I have children now my dream is not possible

OPRAH'S FAVORITE GUEST

• If she gave up she would have stopped not only herself but the 4,000 other people who would have benefitted from the dream

• She would never have attracted $1.5 Million US dollars & probably may never have earned it in her lifetime, (400 Million Naira)

WHAT ABOUT YOU?

• Have you stopped?

• A n d h a v e y o u allowed what others did to stop you?

• How many are not doing what they are supposed to because of what others did or did not do?

WHAT ABOUT YOU?

• I t h u r t s w h e n someone steps or hurts you but don't let what others do determine your actions

• J e s u s n e v e r reacted He acted not like David did sometimes!

THINK THINGS THROUGH!

• Have you sat down long enough to think things through!

• Can your situation b e w o r s e t h a n Tererai's?

• T h e S p h e r e o f Concern vs. The Sphere of Influence

THINK THINGS THROUGH!

• What a re you g o i n g t h o u g h that others have n o t g o n e through?

• W h a t d o y o u n e e d t h a t someone here doesn't have?

COMMON TO MAN!

• 1 Corinthians 10:13

• 1 3 T h e re h a t h n o temptation taken you b u t s u c h a s i s common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

Marianne Williamson

• Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 

• Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. 

• It's our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. 

• We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? 

• Actually, who are you not to be? 

• You are a child of God. 

Marianne Williamson• Your playing small does not serve the world. 

• There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. 

• We are all meant to shine, as children do. 

• We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. 

• It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. 

• And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 

• As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

EVAN ALMIGHTY

• God: Let me ask you something. 

• If someone prays for patience, you think God gives them patience?

• Or does he give them the opportunity to be patient?

• If he prayed for courage, d o e s G o d g i v e h i m courage, or does he give him opportunities to be courageous? 

EVAN ALMIGHTY

• If someone prayed for the family to be closer, do you think God zaps them with warm fuzzy feelings, or does he give them opportunities to love each other?

• We know scriptures so much but those who came from Moses Lake marvel at how much we know yet they do more! 

LIFE & Choices Quotes

•  Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made. ~ Dr Wayne Dyer

• ~ Life is a series of choices that are made in the present moment. ~ Darren Main

• ~ Life is change. Growth is opt iona l . Choose wisely. ~    Karen Kaiser Clark

LIFE & Choices Quotes

• ~ I t 's choice - not c h a n c e - t h a t d e t e r m i n e s y o u r destiny. ~  Jean Nidetch

• ~ Life is a sum of all your choices. ~  Albert Camus

• TERERAI IS A SUM T O T A L O F H E R CHOICES NOT HER FATHER OR HUSBAND,

TIME TO REFLECT

• If you keep blaming others 

• I t ' s n o t w h a t happens to you that defeats you it's how you respond and your attitude 

• It's time to take responsibility 

Reality vs Theory

• It's not marriage it's the purpose of marriage that we need to get right!

• Excuses are lies we tell ourselves 1st service

GOD DOES NOT ANSWER YOUR PRAYERS

• He answers His Prayers

• That we may come unto the knowledge of the truth!

• 1 Timothy 2:3-4

• 3 For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour; 4 Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth.

GOD DOES NOT ANSWER YOUR PRAYERS

• Purpose of the prayer is meant for us to come to the knowledge of the truth

• Maturity of the t r u t h a n d responsible not crusades

THE KNOWLEDGE OF THE TRUTH

• U n t i l w e c o m e t o t h e knowledge of the truth about our life then we are ready to change.

• Until we face the reality of the truth of our lives and face the things we have been blaming for where you are now

• Choices not based on what other people do to us but based on our values 

AGAINST GOD NOT MAN

• Psalms 119:11

• 11 Thy word have I hid in mine heart,  that I might not sin against thee.

• Notice not that I may not sin against my wife brother father or friend but against God!

• Acts 9:4

• 4 And he fell to the earth, and heard a voice saying unto him, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me?

Psalm 61: Lead me to the rock that is higher than I.

• 1 Hear my cry, O God; attend unto my prayer. 2 From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I. 3 For thou hast been a shelter for me, and a strong tower from the enemy. 4 I will abide in thy tabernacle for ever: I will trust in the covert of thy wings. Selah.

John 5:1-16

•1 After this there was a feast of the Jews; and Jesus went up to Jerusalem. 2 Now there is at Jerusalem by the sheep market a pool, which is called in the Hebrew tongue Bethesda, having five porches. 3 In these lay a great multitude of impotent folk, of blind, halt, withered, waiting for the moving of the water. 4 For an angel went down at a certain season into the pool, and troubled the water: whosoever then first after the troubling of the water stepped in was made whole of whatsoever disease he had.

John 5:1-16

• 5 And a certain man was there, which had an infirmity thirty and eight years. 6 When Jesus saw him lie, and knew that he had been now a long time in that case, he saith unto him, Wilt thou be made whole? 7 The impotent man answered him, Sir, I have no man, when the water is troubled, to put me into the pool: but while I am coming, another steppeth down before me. 8 Jesus saith unto him, Rise, take up thy bed, and walk. 9 And immediately the man was made whole, and took up his bed, and walked: and on the same day was the sabbath

WOULD YOU BE MADE WHOLE?

• My brother, my uncle , the Church, the economy etc

• Would you be made whole?

• That's the question, not what is stopping you from being whole or w h a t a r e t h e challenges you are are facing!

• Would You Be Made Whole?

• No more excuses!

NO MORE EXCUSES

• no one to help me, to carry me into the water.....

• 5 porches full of sick people yet God sent Jesus to him or now To YOU!

• Jesus knew the mans situation as He does yours and He is asking you & I 

• 38 years of waiting and blaming some one else

NOtice IMMEDIATELY!

• God does not need anybody's approve to help you 

• God does not need any man to bless you

• "the Man who made me whole"

• God did not fix his excuses to help 

• God does not need a better nation or city or people to help, bless or make us whole

• We must grow up!

John 5:1-16

• 10 The Jews therefore said unto him that was cured, It is the sabbath day: it is not lawful for thee to carry thy bed. 11 He answered them, He that made me whole, the same said unto me, Take up thy bed, and walk. 12 Then asked they him, What man is that which said unto thee, Take up thy bed, and walk? 13 And he that was healed wist not who it was: for Jesus had conveyed himself away, a multitude being in that place. 14 Afterward Jesus findeth him in the temple, and said unto him, Behold, thou art made whole: sin no more, lest a worse thing come unto thee. 15 The man departed, and told the Jews that it was Jesus, which had made him whole. 16 And therefore did the Jews persecute Jesus, and sought to slay him, because he had done these things on the sabbath day

THE MAN AT THE POOL

• 14 Afterward Jesus findeth him in the temple, and said unto him, Behold, thou art made whole: sin no more, lest a worse thing come unto thee.

• What Sin? Just a thought, 

• Could be the in that caused him to be ill in the first place 38 years ago OR It old also be the sin that kept him there blaming and   complaining about not having help for the 38 years since

TERERAI TRENT

•Te r e r a i T r e n t didn't allow that sin that someone else did stop her f r o m m o v i n g forward and using it as an excuse for not becoming all she could be.

WHO ARE YOU BLAMING

• Jonathan Goodluck, y o u r f a m i l y , t h e Church, or  Me 

• This affects the whole country as we must always find someone to blame

• I HAVE A PROBLEM

• WE HAVE A PROBLEM

LORD OPEN OUR EYES

• AS A NATION & As a PEOPLE

• THE SOLUTION TO THIS COUNTRY's PROBLEM HAS TO COME FROM US INSPIRED BY GOD

• WE MUST CHALLENGE THE STATUS QUO 

• LET'S TELL GOD WE ARE READY TO MOVE FORWARD

Be Responsible!

• We must accept responsibility and identify with it.

• We are looking to heaven for help and not man

• W e w o u l d s t o p b laming peop le , complaining and murmuring 

Be Responsible!

• G o d k n o w s what you need in your life 

• G o d a l w a y s uses what you Have not what y o u d o n o t have!

1 Thessalonians 3:10-13

• 10 night and day p r a y i n g exceedingly that we may see your face and perfect what is  lacking in your faith? 11 Now may our God and Father Himself, and our Lord Jesus Christ, direct our way to you.

Imagine the Impact!

• Psalm 121, A Song of degrees.

• 1 I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help. 2 My help cometh from the Lord, which made heaven and earth. 3 He will not suffer thy foot to be moved: he that keepeth thee will not slumber. 4 Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep. 5 The Lord is thy keeper: the Lord is thy shade upon thy right hand. 6 The sun shall not smite thee by day, nor the moon by night. 7 The Lord shall preserve thee from all evil: he shall preserve thy soul. 8 The Lord shall preserve thy going out and thy coming in from this time forth, and even for evermore.