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Acceptance & Commitment Therapy ADVANCED Workshop with Russ Harris
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Psychological Flexibility
Contact With The Present Moment
Defusion
Acceptance Values
Committed Action
Self-as-context
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Workshop Rules
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Workshop Aims n Case Conceptualisation: DSM & non-clinical n ABA: function analysis n Getting Unstuck n Overcoming ‘resistance’ n Mandated/coerced clients n Trauma & Suicidality n Addiction & Urge surfing n Barriers to acceptance n Values & ‘I don’t know’ n Self-as-context & the observing self n Compassion & Forgiveness
The Aim of ACT:
§ To maximise human potential for a rich, full and meaningful life
§ To reduce suffering and increase vitality § To increase psychological flexibility
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THE WHOLE ACT MODEL RESTS ON .....?
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Psychological Flexibility
Contact with the Present Moment
Defusion
Acceptance Values
Committed Action
Self-as-context
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Be Present
Open Up Do What Ma2ers
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Be Present
Open Up Do What Ma2ers
Psychological Flexibility
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The Resilience Formula
4 approaches to any problem situation: 1. Leave 2. Stay & change what can be changed 3. Stay & accept what can’t be changed & live
by your values 4. Stay & give up & do stuff that makes it worse
Exercise: 2 memories
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a) Client responds well b) Client responds poorly - What was that like? - What happens to your values as a coach/
therapist etc. when you get fused/avoidant?
‘Physicalising’ an emotion
Shape & size? Weight (or weightless)? Location? (E.g. at the surface, deep inside) Liquid, solid, gaseous? Colour(s)? Transparent or opaque? Temperature? Hot or cold spots? Texture of the surface? Movement, vibration or sound? Are you willing to make room for this object, in order to … NB: In ACT, acceptance is always in the service of
values/goals – otherwise, why bother?
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3 Elements of Self-compassion
(Kristin Neff) 1. Mindfulness (i.e. defusion, acceptance,
contacting the present moment) 2. Kindness 3. Common Humanity
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Qualities of an ACT Coach/Therapist
n Compassionate, radically respectful -- and (often but not always) playful
n Accepting, defused, present, and guided by values
n Willing to experience discomfort in the service of helping others
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Qualities of an ACT Coach/Therapist
n Sees people as ‘stuck’, not ‘broken’; as ‘sunsets’, not ‘maths problems’
n Stance of equality and commonality: my mountain, your mountain
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Common Coach/Therapist problems (adapted from Steve Hayes.) n Inconsistencies & mixed messages n Talking & explaining ACT, instead of doing it n Being Mr Fix-it n Being Mrs Good-listener n Being Mr Nice Guy
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Common Coach/Therapist problems n Trying to convince or 'be right’ n Taking a “one-up” position n Excessive focus on one process, while
neglecting others n A lack of understanding of the theoretical
underpinnings
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Hands As Thoughts In front of you is everything that matters: the people, places,
activities you love etc. Now get caught up in your thoughts Notice 3 things: How much are you missing out on? How disconnected and disengaged are you? How difficult is it to take action, to do the things that make your life
work? (give examples) Now slowly separate from your thoughts What’s your view of the room like now? How much easier is it to
engage and connect? How much easier is it to take action? Notice these things (i.e. hands) haven’t disappeared. If you can use
them, do so. If not, just let them sit there.
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Informed Consent
• ACT is a very active form of therapy or coaching – not just talking about problems.
• Learning skills to handle difficult thoughts and feelings more effectively, so they have less impact and influence over you
• Clarifying your ‘values’: what matters to you, what you want to stand for in life, how you want to treat yourself and others, what gives you a sense of meaning or purpose
• Taking action: to solve problems, and do things that make life better
• Like playing a guitar – needs practice both in session and between sessions.
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Informed Consent - additional
Also consider discussion of: a) Number of sessions b) Pre-empt urge to drop out c) Evidence base d) How ACT gets its name: accept what is out of
your personal control and commit to action that improves your life
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Informed Consent - additional
Also consider asking this: Can I have permission to interrupt you: so if I
see you doing something that looks like it might be making your problems worse, I can point it out, and we can address it?
And can I also do that if I see you doing something that looks like it might be really helpful or useful?
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DSM?
“The goal of validating these syndromes and discovering common etiologies has remained elusive.
Despite many proposed candidates, not one laboratory marker has been found to be specific in identifying any of the DSM defined syndromes
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DSM?
“Epidemiological and clinical studies have shown extremely high rates of co-morbidities among disorders, undermining the hypothesis that the syndromes represent distinct etiologies.
Furthermore, epidemiological studies have shown a high degree of short term diagnostic instability for many disorders.
With regard to treatment, lack of specificity is the rule rather than the exception.”
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DSM?
“Many, if not most, conditions and symptoms represent a somewhat arbitrarily defined pathological excess of normal behaviors and cognitive processes.
This problem has led to the criticism that the system pathologizes ordinary experiences of the human condition.”
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DSM?
“Researchers’ slavish adoption of DSM-IV definitions may have hindered research in the etiology of mental disorders”.
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DSM?
“Reification of DSM-IV entities, to the point that they are considered to be equivalent to diseases, is more likely to obscure than to elucidate research findings”.
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Where do these quotes come from?
The American Psychiatric Association planning committee, for the fifth version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual
Pages xviii & xix Kupfer, D. J., First, M. B. & Regier, D. A. (Eds.).
(2002). A research agenda for DSM-V.
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One More Quote
From same source: Pages xviii & xix ofKupfer, D. J., First, M. B. & Regier, D. A. (Eds.). (2002). A research agenda for DSM-V.
“All these limitations in the current diagnostic paradigm suggest that research exclusively focused on refining the DSM-defined syndromes may never be successful in uncovering their underlying etiologies.
For that to happen, an as yet unknown paradigm shift may need to occur.”
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Psychological Flexibility
Contact With The Present Moment
Defusion
Acceptance Values
Committed Action
Self-as-context
Fusion with past or future
Fusion with the conceptualised self
Fusion with reasons, rules, and judgments
Experiential Avoidance
Unworkable action
Remoteness from values
Psychological Rigidity
Painful Private Experience
FUSION
THREAT
EXPERIENTIAL AVOIDANCE
Paradoxical Effects
Life Costs
Painful Private Experience
THREAT
EXPERIENTIAL AVOIDANCE
Paradoxical Effects
Life Costs
Painful Private Experience
EXPERIENTIAL AVOIDANCE
Paradoxical Effects
Life Costs
Painful Private Experience
Paradoxical Effects
Life Costs
Painful Private Experience
Painful Private Experience
Plus FUSION
Plus AVOIDANCE
Plus UNWORKABLE ACTION
TRAUMA
Plus DEFUSION
Plus ACCEPTANCE
Plus WORKABLE ACTION
RESILIENCE
‘BURNOUT’
DEPRESSION
ANXIETY DISORDER
ADDICTION
ANOREXIA
SUICIDALITY
TRAUMA
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Psychological Flexibility
Contact With The Present Moment
Defusion
Acceptance Values
Committed Action
Self-as-context
Fusion with past or future
Fusion with the conceptualised self
Fusion with reasons, rules, and judgments
Experiential Avoidance
Unworkable action
Remoteness from values
Psychological Rigidity
Flashbacks
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FEELINGS
THOUGHTS SMELL
TASTE
TOUCH HEAR
SEE
PAIN MEMORY FEELING THOUGHT SENSATION URGE
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PAIN
SMELL
TASTE
TOUCH HEAR
SEE
FEELINGS
THOUGHTS
SELF-COMPASSION
VALUES & ACTION
Drop Anchor
• Something very painful has just shown up, and I want to help you handle it
• Push your feet hard into the floor • Sit forward in your chair • Push your hands hard together, • As well as this painful thought/feeling/memory, notice your
body in the chair – hands, feet, back • Also look around – notice 5 things you can see • And notice 3 or 4 things you can hear • And also notice you and I, working together • So there is a painful thought/feeling/memory here • And your body in the chair • And a room around you • And you and I working together 39
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Be Present
Open Up Do What Ma2ers
Psychological Flexibility
NIGHTMARES
Sleep Hygiene Nightmare Rehearsal
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SUICIDALITY
Kirk Strosahl’s “three I’s” Pain is perceived as: Intolerable Interminable Inescapable
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Psychological Flexibility
Contact with the Present Moment
Defusion
Acceptance Values
Committed Action
Self-as-context
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Be Present
Open Up Do What Ma2ers
ACT is based on ABA – Applied Behavioural Analysis
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ABA is a BIG model Brief look at 3 bits: 1. Appetitive control vs aversive control 2. Reinforcement versus punishment 3. The ‘3-Term Contingency’
Aversive Control Vs Appetitive Control
• Behaviour under aversive control • moving away from what you don’t want • escape/avoid an ‘aversive stimulus’
• Behaviour under appetitive control • gaining access to what you do want • approach/explore an ‘appetitive stimulus’
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Exercises in pairs
Eating chocolate, running through a forest, making love, playing with your kids, doing housework
create scenarios where these things are under: a) aversive control (avoid/escape something unwanted) b) appetitive control (access something wanted) What is the difference, experientially?
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In each session we:
Undermine narrow, inflexible behaviour under aversive control
Model, instigate and reinforce broad, flexible behaviour under appetitive control
Note: narrow inflexible behaviour can be under appetitive control
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A – Antecedents
B – Behaviour C- Consequences
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Situation Thoughts Feelings
Immediate outcomes that either increase or decrease the behaviour
If consequences => lNCREASE in behaviour, they are ‘REINFORCING’
Something an organism does
- Public - Private
If consequences => DECREASE in behaviour, they are ‘PUNISHING’
PUNISHMENT vs REINFORCEMENT
DIFFERENTIAL REINFORCEMENT
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A – Antecedents
B – Behaviour C- Consequences (reinforcing)
Situation Thoughts Feelings
immediate outcomes that maintain the behaviour
Situation: alone in house at night, tired Thoughts & Feelings: ‘I have no friends’ ‘I wish I had a social life’ Sadness, loneliness, Anxiety, boredom Urge to smoke dope
Feeling of relief; painful thoughts, feelings, urges disappear
Costs: Addiction worsens; stays home more & social isolation increases; more feelings of loneliness and sadness
Smokes marijuana
Present Moment, Defusion, Acceptance
Values & Committed action
Workability
Something an organism does
- Public - Private
‘TRIGGERS’ ‘PAYOFFS’
DIFFERENTIAL REINFORCEMENT OF A MORE WORKABLE BEHAVIOUR
payoffs VS costs
Reinforcing Consequences (Payoffs)
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1. Escape/avoid an aversive stimulus
2. Access an appetitive stimulus
‘negative reinforcement’
‘positive reinforcement’
Functional Analysis: 3 Questions For Any Unworkable Behaviour:
B- BEHAVIOUR: What is the person doing? A- ANTECEDENTS (‘TRIGGERS’): What situations, thoughts, feelings immediately
precede the behaviour? C – CONSEQUENCES reinforcing it (‘PAYOFFS’): What immediate outcomes of the behaviour maintain
it over time?
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7 Common Reinforcing Consequences (payoffs) for Unworkable Behaviour
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1. I avoid/escape an unpleasant situation/event
2. I avoid/escape unpleasant thoughts/feelings 3. I feel good 4. I gain attention 5. I get my needs met 6. I feel like I am ‘problem solving’ 7. I feel like I am ‘making sense’ of things
WORKABILITY: payoffs VS costs
Exercise in pairs: ‘Functional Analysis’
Identify Antecedents (triggers): situation, thoughts, feelings
Identify Reinforcing consequences (payoffs) NB: This will be unique for each individual! Client 1: B – Behaviour = drug/alcohol use Client 2: B – Behaviour = social withdrawal Client 3: B – Behaviour = procrastination on a task Client 4: B – Behaviour = aggression
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Exercise in threes Client: Pick a quadrant of the bull’s eye to work on.
Identify a problematic behaviour in that quadrant. Therapist/coach 1: Identify the ‘Triggers’ (situation, thoughts, feelings) Identify the ‘Payoffs’ Therapist/coach 2: Summarise: “So in the short term, this helps you to X,Y,Z.
But in the long term, what costs does this have?” Identify the ‘Costs’ Validate: So this really takes you away from the bull’s eye Summarise briefly how ACT can help (ultra-brief version
of informed consent)
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A Common Reply To Questions About Values:
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I DON’T KNOW!
Consider the function of this behaviour
Is it a request for help, due to lack of knowledge?
If so, do brief psychoeducation, give some examples of values, then do an experiential exercise
A far more common function of ‘I don’t know’:
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A – Antecedents
B – Behaviour C- Consequences (reinforcing)
Situation Thoughts Feelings
immediate outcomes that maintain the behaviour
Situation: therapy/coaching session – being asked about values Thoughts & Feelings Oh shit!’ ‘I don’t know!’ Anxiety, confusion. Urge to change the topic
Says ‘I don’t know’
Present Moment, Defusion, Acceptance
Values & Committed action
Workability
Something an organism does
- Public - Private
‘TRIGGERS’ ‘PAYOFFS’
DIFFERENTIAL REINFORCEMENT OF A MORE WORKABLE BEHAVIOUR
payoffs VS costs Costs: Fail to clarify values, Fail to set meaningful Goals Remain stuck – nothing changes
Conversation ends Feeling of relief; anxiety/confusion disappears
Validate: yes, right now, you don’t know. So would you be willing to: Sit with the question a bit longer? Do an exercise with me? Fill in a worksheet?
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Clues: Important Domains of Life
What does the client: n Complain about? n Get angry about? n Worry about? n Feel guilty about? n Fear? n Desire?
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Clues: Important Domains of Life
§ Explore pain in all its forms: what does this
pain tell you really matters? § For suicidal clients: What has stopped you
from killing yourself? § If these painful thoughts/feelings/memories
were no longer a problem, what would you do differently?
Useful Questions For Crisis/Loss
What do you want to stand for in the face of this?
10 years from now, if you were to look back at the way you dealt with this issue, what would you like to say about the way you behaved, the way you handled it, what you stood for?
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More Useful Questions
You are 80 years old, looking back on your life today; complete these sentences:
I spent too much time worrying about …. I did not spend enough time doing things such
as … If I could go back in time, what I’d do differently
is …
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Values Checklist
n Take 10 minutes
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Life Compass
n Take 10 minutes
Get People Moving: 3 Factors
1. Small change 2. Positive direction 3. Owned by the client
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On a scale of zero to ten, how likely are you to do this?
The Brief Bull’s Eye
§ A) Pick a quadrant § B) What matters to you in this part of your life? § C) Where are you now, on the dartboard? § D) What’s one tiny thing you could do in the next week to
move you towards the bull’s eye? § E) How will your mind try to talk you out of that? § F) What difficult feelings might show up? § G) Are you willing to make room for those thoughts and
feelings, in order to do this? § H) On a scale of zero to ten, how likely are you to do this?
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Mandated/Coerced Clients: 5 Steps 1. Normalise: e.g. “Most people feel upset or annoyed” 2. Validate & empathise: e.g. “Of course you feel that way! I’d feel the same!’ 3. Declare your values: e.g. “My aim is to help people have better lives” 4. Q: “What possible outcome from this would make it feel like a good use of
your time?” 5. The ‘Free Will Switch’ (adapted from Kelly Wilson) ‘Off’ = you are here for others/ waste of your time/ nothing in it for you ‘On’ = you are here for yourself/ can make free use of my resources/ something of value in it for you ‘On’ or ‘Off’, you are still in the session: it just determines if it’s a waste of your time or not. If client chooses off: either a) ‘In that case, we may as well end the session, because without your cooperation I’m powerless’ or b) ‘Okay, well let’s keep going then, but notice how keeping the switch off really makes the session drag/ sucks the life out of you/ makes this seem like a total waste of time
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Resistance To Change: 7 Factors
• Treatment mismatch • Discordant Therapeutic Relationship • Secondary Gains FEAR: • Fusion • Excessive goals • Avoidance of discomfort • Remoteness from values
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Informed consent
Pros & Cons of change
Defusion
Realistic goals
DARE
Acceptance of discomfort
Embracing Values
Embody ACT in session
Why don’t we stop it?
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Problematic In-Session Behaviour
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A – Antecedents
B – Behaviour C- Consequences (reinforcing)
Situation Thoughts Feelings
immediate outcomes that maintain the behaviour
Situation: the client is doing some form of problematic behaviour Thoughts & Feelings Anxiety ‘If I confront this, that’s rude/ will destroy rapport/ she’ll get angry or upset/ he’ll leave/ she’ll complain about me’
Therapist/coach makes no active attempt to point out, confront, address or interrupt the client’s behaviour. Instead, opts for ‘active listening’
Present Moment, Defusion, Acceptance
Values & Committed action
Workability
Something an organism does
- Public - Private
‘TRIGGERS’ ‘PAYOFFS’
WHAT’S A MORE WORKABLE BEHAVIOUR?
payoffs VS costs Costs: Client’s problematic behaviour persists Unable to do effective therapy/coaching Increasing frustration, anxiety/ boredom/ disengagement for the therapist/coach
Feeling of relief; anxiety disappears
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Psychological Flexibility
Contact With The Present Moment
Defusion
Acceptance Values
Committed Action
Self-as-context
I’m noticing something problematic here and I’d like to share it with you
I’m feeling pretty anxious about it. My heart’s racing.
My mind’s telling me you’ll be upset or angry or think I’m rude
So even though I’m feeling really nervous, I’m going to tell you what I’ve noticed
But my aim in here is to help people live better lives – so if I ignore this, I’m not being true to myself and I’m doing you a disservice
Staying On Track 1
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1. Permission to start session ‘differently’ & rationale for doing so (e.g. not making progress, sessions inefficient)
2. Confirm that you are a team, working together
3. Agree to a specific domain/area to work on 4. Your mind will try hard to ‘get us off track’.
Lets see if we can notice all the tactics it uses.
Staying On Track 2
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1. Notice, name and normalise each ‘tactic’ Write them down on a piece of paper
2. Ask the client to tick a ‘tactic’ whenever it recurs
3. If client say ‘This won’t work because X,Y,Z’ then ask, ‘Shall we stop the session, because your mind says XYZ – or shall we let your mind say that and carry on?’
Staying On Track 3
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1. Return to the agenda repeatedly 2. Repeatedly draw attention to mind’s tactics;
unhook and return 3. Reinforce any workable behaviour you see –
eg point out and comment favourably on functionally positive non-verbal behaviour (e.g. eye contact, body posture), acceptance, defusion, engagement, willingness, vulnerability, commitment, connection with values etc.
1. Ask client to assess their own behaviour in session in terms of workability: ‘towards’ or ‘away’ from values (e.g. the bull’s eye)
2. Ask client to assess how their behaviour affects the therapeutic/coaching relationship
3. Permission to interrupt, and rationale for doing so
4. Rationale for learning to focus, unhook, and refocus
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Other Useful Tips
1. Keep noticing and naming habitual cognitive patterns
2. Psycho-education about automaticity versus choice: ‘I want you to have more choice about what you do – at the moment you seem to be totally controlled by your thoughts and feelings’
3. Have client take ownership of agenda
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Other Useful Tips
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A – Antecedents
B – Behaviour C- Consequences (reinforcing)
Situation Thoughts Feelings
immediate outcomes that maintain the behaviour
TAKING DRUGS
Workability = payoffs VS costs
Something an organism does
- Public - Private
‘TRIGGERS’ ‘PAYOFFS’
DIFFERENTIAL REINFORCEMENT OF A MORE WORKABLE BEHAVIOUR
Present Moment, Defusion, Acceptance
Values & Committed action
GAMBLING CHECKING EMAILS COMPULSIVE CLEANING MICRO-MANAGING WORKING LATE HAIR PULLING SHOUTING AT EMPLOYEES
TAKING DRUGS
REASON GIVING: Reasons why I can’t change/ won’t change/ shouldn’t have to change
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A – Antecedents
B – Behaviour C- Consequences (reinforcing)
Situation Thoughts Feelings
immediate outcomes that maintain the behaviour
Situation: therapy/coaching session – talking about changing behaviour Thoughts & Feelings Anxiety Feeling ‘Under pressure’ Thoughts about why I can’t change/won’t change/shouldn’t have to change
Reason-giving ‘ I can’t change/ won’t change/ shouldn’t have to change because of X,Y,Z’
Present Moment, Defusion, Acceptance
Values & Committed action
Workability
Something an organism does
- Public - Private
‘TRIGGERS’ ‘PAYOFFS’
DIFFERENTIAL REINFORCEMENT OF A MORE WORKABLE BEHAVIOUR
payoffs VS costs Costs: Problematic behaviour maintains
Conversation ends Feeling of relief; anxiety disappears pressure lifts
REASON-GIVING
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What if client identifies a tangible benefit?
What if client identifies tangible
benefits? VALIDATE IT!
Workability: Payoffs vs costs
Are there more workable ways of
getting those payoffs?
Is skills-training required?
REASON-GIVING
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What if client identifies a tangible benefit?
What if client identifies genuine
barriers? VALIDATE IT!
If resources are missing:
Change the goal! Either: get the
resources Or modify to
adapt to the lack
If the resource missing
is a skill?
TRAIN IT!
REASON-GIVING
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I can’t help it I’ve got no
control! I can’t resist it!
It happens before I know it!
REASON-GIVING
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VALIDATE! Yes, right now that’s how it is!
Like to change it? Requires learning some new skills
Avoidance of discomfort
Why accept pain?
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Pushing Away Paper In front of you is everything that matters: the people, places,
activities you love etc. Now push these feelings away from you, hard as you can Notice 3 things: How tiring is it? How distracting is it; how difficult is it to fully engage or connect? How difficult is it to take action, to do the things that make your life
work? (give examples) Now rest it on your lap How much less effort is that? How much easier is it to engage and
connect? How much easier is it now to take action? Notice your feelings (i.e. the paper) haven’t disappeared. But you
have a new way of responding to them, so they don’t hold you back or tie you down or stop you engaging in your life
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #1
Validate: Of course you do. Who wouldn’t? Values: If I had a magic wand and I made it disappear, then
what would you do differently? What have you given up, or missed out on, while
trying so hard to avoid or get rid of your pain? If making room for this pain, and letting it flow
through you without a struggle, could help you to … (mention key values and goals) … would you be interested in learning how to do that?
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #2
Research shows: lots of good research showing that when we use this approach symptoms reduce. But it doesn’t happen through directly attacking them – they reduce as a side-effect of doing this (push the paper demo)
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #3
Declare your own helplessness: I don’t know how to get rid of your pain. But I do know a new way of responding to it, so it has
less impact and influence over you…etc N.B. Double-check: did you get informed consent
from the client? Does the client know or remember you are working from the ACT model? If not, go through it!
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #4
Only Two Ways: As long as you only have these two ways of responding (fusion & avoidance demo with paper) it will always seem horrible/ feel overwhelming/ control your life.
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #5
Creative Hopelessness: What have you tried doing to get rid of it? How has it worked, long term? What has it cost you? What have you missed out on? The more effort you put into avoiding or getting rid of
this pain, the worse your life gets. Do you want to do more of what’s not working?
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #6
Medical metaphor: it’s like diabetes or asthma – can’t get rid of those, but learn new ways of responding to them so you can still live a rich, full and meaningful life
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #7
Hard facts: no coach or therapist or doctor, working from any model of therapy, can guarantee to get rid of unwanted thoughts and feelings. They all work the same way: new ways to handle thoughts and feelings so they have less impact and influence over you. I can’t do the impossible. But I can help you find new ways to handle etc …
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #8
Confront the illusion of control: Of course you want to get rid of it – that’s natural. But let’s have a look at how much control we actually have:
• - delete a memory • - don’t think about ice cream • - make your leg go numb • - polygraph metaphor
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #9
Defusion: so your mind says ‘I have to get rid of it’ -that’s the only solution’ So do we end the session, because your mind says ‘I have to get rid of it; there is no other solution’ - or do we let your mind say that, and carry on and try to find another way?
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #10
Self-compassion: This must be really hard for you. What are you
feeling right now? Where is that in your body? Can I get you to try something: place a hand over it, and hold it gently … etc. What’s that like?
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #11
Is the pain there now? Can I get you to try something? Push your feet into the floor … sit up straight … look around you … notice what you can see and hear … engage with me … notice that your pain is here, AND there’s a lot of other stuff here too: your body, and the room, and you and me, doing something important right now …
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #12
The things you’re doing to avoid/get rid of this pain – are they taking you closer to the bull’s eye, or further away?
If I could show you a new way of handling this pain, that would help you get closer to the bull’s eye, would that be time well spent?
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I Just Want To Get Rid of It #13
Would you be willing to try an experiment? To try doing something completely different than what you normally do when this pain shows up? Just for a few seconds, to see what it’s like?
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Urge Surfing
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Urge Surfing
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Use your breath as an anchor Notice where the urges arise, and how your body responds Watch like a curious child Breathe into and make room for whatever discomfort arises Let your mind chatter away like a radio in the background If it seems like you have to swallow, count to ten. Then make a choice: either swallow mindfully, or keep watching the urge and see what it does next Notice your relief when the urge drops, and your anxiety when it rises again
Even if your mouth is full of saliva, you can breathe through your nose
If you get lost or overwhelmed, come back to your breath, anchor yourself, then re-engage in the exercise
Notice even with the urge present, you can a) direct your attention and b) control your arms and your legs
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Psychological Flexibility
Contact with the Present Moment
Defusion
Acceptance Values
Committed Action
Self-as-context
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Be Present
Open Up Do What Ma2ers
Self-as-context
“Flexible Perspective Taking” Ability to observe and describe from a
perspective or point of view enables or facilitates many different
experiences, including theory of mind, empathy, compassion, self-compassion, acceptance, defusion, and a transcendent sense of self (often called ‘the observing self’).
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And now ….
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“I” “You”
“Here” “There” “Now”
“Then”
“What are you doing here?” “What am I doing here?” “ What were you doing there?” “What was I doing there?” “What are you doing now?” “What am I doing now?” “What were you doing then?” “What was I doing then?” The only constants?
I Here Now
THEN
NOW
YOU
I
HERE
THERE
Perspective Taking Skills
Slide Courtesy of Steve Hayes
Self-as-Context
The ‘locus’ of consciousness: everything is noticed from a perspective of ‘I, here, now’
Slide Courtesy of Steve Hayes
‘Flexible Perspective Taking’
CONTACTING THE PRESENT MOMENT I, here, now noIce WHAT I see, hear, touch, taste, smell, think, feel, do
DEFUSION I, here, now noIce my thoughts and see them as words and pictures
ACCEPTANCE I, here, now noIce my thoughts and feelings and allow them to be as they are TRANSCENDENT SELF
or OBSERVING SELF I, here, now noIce THAT I am conInuous, unchanging, disInct from, & more than WHAT I see, hear, touch, taste, smell, think, feel, do
VALUES I, here, now noIce what is important and meaningful to me and put it into words
COMMITTED ACTION I, here, now noIce my acIons and take control of them
EMPATHY I, here, now noIce what someone else is feeling and feel it too
COMPASSION I, here, now noIce suffering and respond with kindness
SELF-‐AS-‐PROCESS I, here, now noIce THAT I see, hear, touch, taste, smell, think, feel, do
Notice X
• Contact with the Present Moment = notice WHAT you see, hear, touch, taste, smell, think, feel, do
• Self-as-process = notice THAT you are seeing, hearing, touching, tasting, smelling, thinking, feeling, doing … and noticing
• Observing self (transcendent self) = notice THAT ‘part’ of you which is continuous, unchanging, distinct from, and more than WHAT you see, hear, touch, taste, smell, think, feel and do
• Self-as-context = flexibly noticing from a perspective of I, here, now
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The ‘Observing Self’: why bother?
1. Aids defusion – especially from the conceptualised self
2. Aids acceptance, willingness, and formal exposure: a ‘safe place’ inside you
3. Important aspect of spirituality 4. For survivors: a part of you was unharmed
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NB: 1 & 2 are easily achieved through defusion & acceptance skills without need for explicit ‘observing self’ exercises.
Observing Self
Two Simple interventions: • Notice X - and be aware you’re noticing • Stage show metaphor
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• Notice your breath (10 seconds pause) • Be aware you’re noticing (10 seconds pause) • Notice what you’re thinking ... • Be aware you’re noticing ... • Notice what you can hear .... • Be aware you’re noticing .... • Notice what your mind is telling you ... • Be aware you’re noticing .... • Notice what you can feel in your feet .... • Be aware you’re noticing .... • Notice what thoughts you’re having .... • Be aware you’re noticing ... • So there’s a part of you that notices everything • Optional: Life is like a stage show … and on that stage are all your
thoughts and feelings and everything you can see, hear, touch, taste and smell … and there’s a part of you that
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Dilemmas # 1: The Hard Facts
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1. There is no simple answer. If one choice was clearly much better then you wouldn’t have a dilemma!
2. So we probably won’t solve it in today’s session! 3. No matter what choice you make, anxiety and
doubt is certain. 4. There is actually no way not to choose.
Dilemmas #2: The Practicalities
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1. Each morning: acknowledge today’s choice. 2. Each morning: What do I want to stand for in
the face of this? Live those values 3. Through the day: ‘name the story’, get present 4. Spend 5-10 mins each day MINDFULLY
focusing on pros and cons of each choice – using a pen & paper, or computer
5. Self-compassion; this situation may go on for a long time
Anger
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Anger Management? Aggression Management!
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A – Antecedents
B – Behaviour C- Consequences (reinforcing)
Situation Thoughts Feelings
immediate outcomes that maintain the behaviour
Workability = payoffs VS costs
Something an organism does
- Public - Private
‘TRIGGERS’ ‘PAYOFFS’
DIFFERENTIAL REINFORCEMENT OF A MORE WORKABLE BEHAVIOUR
Present Moment, Defusion, Acceptance
Values & Committed action
AGRESSION
Forgiveness
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