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SOCIOEMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT IN EARLY ADULTHOOD
12ESSENTIALS OF LIFE-SPAN DEVELOPMENTJOHN W. SANTROCK
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CHAPTER OUTLINE
ā¢ Stability and change from childhood to adulthoodā¢ Love and close relationshipsā¢ Adult lifestylesā¢ Challenges in marriage, parenting, and divorceā¢ Gender, communication, and relationships
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STABILITY AND CHANGE FROM CHILDHOOD TO ADULTHOOD
ā¢ Experiences in the early adult years important in determining what the individual is like later in adulthoodā¢ Unfolding of social relationships and emotionsā¢ Attachment plays an important part in socioemotional developmentā¢ Romantic partners as a secure base to obtain comfort and security
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STABILITY AND CHANGE FROM CHILDHOOD TO ADULTHOOD
ā¢ Adult attachmentā¢ Secure attachment style: Positive view of relationships, easy to get
close to others, not overly concerned/stressed about relationshipsā¢ Avoidant attachment style: Hesitant about getting involved in
romantic relationships, tend to distance themselves from partnerā¢ Anxious attachment style: Demand closeness, less trusting, more
emotional, jealous, and possessive
ā¢ Majority of adults have secure attachment styleā¢ Prefer to have a securely attached partner
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LOVE AND CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS
ā¢ Intimacyā¢ Self-disclosure and sharing of private thoughtsā¢ Intimacy, identity, and independence demands are central to adulthood
ā¢ Eriksonās stage of Intimacy versus isolationā¢ Intimacy is finding oneself while losing oneself in another personā¢ Failure to achieve intimacy results in social isolation
ā¢ Friendshipā¢ Adulthood brings opportunities to form new friendshipsā¢ Gender differences in adult friendships
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LOVE AND CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS
ā¢ Romantic and affectionate loveā¢ Romantic love: Passionate love, or erosā¢ Strong components of sexuality and infatuationā¢ Often predominates in early part of love relationships
ā¢ Affectionate love: Companionate loveā¢ Desires to have the other person near, based on deep, caring affection
ā¢ Consummate love: Strongest form of loveā¢ Involves dimensions of passion, intimacy, and commitment
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FIGURE 12.1 - STERNBERGāS TRIANGLE OF LOVE
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ADULT LIFESTYLES
ā¢ Single adultsā¢ Dramatic rise in the percentage of single adultsā¢ Cohabitation and postponing marriage
ā¢ Common problemsā¢ Forming intimate relationships with other adultsā¢ Confronting lonelinessā¢ Finding a place in a society that is marriage-oriented
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ADULT LIFESTYLESā¢ Advantagesā¢ Time to make decisions about oneās life courseā¢ Time to develop personal resources to meet goalsā¢ Freedom to make autonomous decisions ā¢ Pursue oneās own schedule and interests ā¢ Opportunities to explore new places and new experiencesā¢ Privacy
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ADULT LIFESTYLES
ā¢ Cohabitationā¢ Living together in a sexual relationship without being marriedā¢ Seen as a precursor to marriage, ongoing lifestyle
ā¢ Common problems:ā¢ Disapproval and emotional strainā¢ Difficulty owning property jointlyā¢ Uncertain legal rights upon dissolution of relationship
ā¢ How does prior cohabitation affect marriage?ā¢ Lower marital satisfaction and higher rates of divorce
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FIGURE 12.2 - INCREASE IN COHABITATION IN THE UNITED STATES
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ADULT LIFESTYLES
ā¢ Married adultsā¢ Changing viewsā¢ Personal fulfillment goals ā inside and outside of marriageā¢ Changing norms of male-female equalityā¢ Increasingly high expectations for marriage
ā¢ Marital trendsā¢ Declining marriage rates in the U.S. in recent yearsā¢ Highest ages for first marriages in U.S. history
ā¢ In 2010, 28.7 years for men and 26.5 years for womenā¢ More marriage partners meeting onlineā¢ Marriages in adolescence more likely to end in divorceā¢ Average duration of marriage is just over 9 years
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ADULT LIFESTYLESā¢ Marital trendsā¢ Declining marriage rates in the U.S. in recent yearsā¢ Highest ages for first marriages in U.S. history
ā¢ In 2010, 28.7 years for men and 26.5 years for womenā¢ More marriage partners meeting onlineā¢ Marriages in adolescence more likely to end in divorceā¢ Average duration of marriage is just over 9 years
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ADULT LIFESTYLESā¢ Benefits of a good marriageā¢ Happily married people live longer, healthier lives
ā¢ Enhanced longevity of men more so than womenā¢ Feel less physical and emotional stress
ā¢ Fewer physical ailments and psychological problems
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FIGURE 12.3 - PERCENTAGE OF MARRIED PERSONS AGE 18 AND OLDER WITH āVERY HAPPYā MARRIAGES
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ADULT LIFESTYLES
ā¢ Divorced adultsā¢ U.S. has one of the highest divorce rates in the worldā¢ Declining numbers in recent decades
ā¢ Factors leading to divorce:ā¢ Youthful marriageā¢ Low educational levelā¢ Low income levelā¢ No religious affiliationā¢ Having divorced parentsā¢ Having a baby before marriage
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ADULT LIFESTYLESā¢ Partner characteristics leading to divorce:ā¢ Alcoholismā¢ Psychological problemsā¢ Domestic violenceā¢ Infidelityā¢ Inadequate division of household labor
ā¢ Divorce typically takes place in early in marriageā¢ Between years 5-10 of marriage
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FIGURE 12.4 - THE DIVORCE RATE IN RELATION TO NUMBER OF YEARS MARRIED
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ADULT LIFESTYLES
ā¢ Remarried adultsā¢ Approximately 50% remarry within 3 years of divorceā¢ Men remarry sooner than womenā¢ Remarriage occurs sooner for partners who initiate a divorceā¢ Recent decline in remarriage rate in U.S.
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ADULT LIFESTYLES
ā¢ Gay and lesbian adultsā¢ Increasing number of legalized same-sex marriagesā¢ Similar to heterosexual relationships in love, joy, satisfactions and
conflictsā¢ Increasing number are creating families including children
ā¢ Misconceptions:ā¢ Masculine/feminine roles are relatively uncommonā¢ Preferences for long-term, committed relationships
ā¢ Special concerns for stigma, prejudice, and discrimination
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CHALLENGES IN MARRIAGE, PARENTING, AND DIVORCE
ā¢ Making marriage workā¢ 7 principles of a working marriage, including:ā¢ Establishing love mapsā¢ Nurturing fondness and admirationā¢ Turning toward each other instead of awayā¢ Letting your partner influence youā¢ Creating shared meaning
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CHALLENGES IN MARRIAGE, PARENTING, AND DIVORCE
ā¢ Becoming a parentā¢ Mixed emotions and romantic illusions about having a childā¢ Parenting requires interpersonal skills, emotional demandsā¢ Little formal education for these tasks
ā¢ Age of having children has been increasingā¢ In 2012, average age for women was 26
ā¢ U.S. women having fewer children overall
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CHALLENGES IN MARRIAGE, PARENTING, AND DIVORCE
ā¢ Advantages of having children early (in 20s):ā¢ More physical energyā¢ Fewer medical problems with pregnancy and childbirthā¢ Less built-up expectations for children
ā¢ Advantages of having children later (in 30s):ā¢ More time to consider and achieve life goalsā¢ More mature, competent parentsā¢ Better established in careers, more income for child-rearing expenses
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CHALLENGES IN MARRIAGE, PARENTING, AND DIVORCE
ā¢ Strategies for divorced adults ā¢ Thinking of divorce as a chance to grow personally, develop more positive
relationshipsā¢ Making decisions carefullyā¢ Focusing more on the future than the pastā¢ Using strengths and resources to cope with difficultiesā¢ Not expecting to be successful and happy in everything you do
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GENDER, COMMUNICATION, AND RELATIONSHIPS
ā¢ Rapport talk: Language of conversationā¢ Way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships
ā¢ Report talk: Designed to give informationā¢ Includes public speaking
ā¢ Men and women have different preferences for communicationā¢ Women prefer rapport talk, men prefer report talk