Unit 4 Taste the sweets and bitters of family life.

• Marriage is not a word….it is a sentence. (King Vidor)

• I don’t worry about terrorism. I was married for two years. (Sam Kinison)

I. Lead-in

• 三口之家，四世同堂，丁克家庭，双职工家庭• 单亲家庭，再婚家庭

I. Lead-in

• 三口之家，四世同堂，丁克家庭，双职工家庭• 单亲家庭，再婚家庭

• nuclear family, extended family, DINK (double income, no kids), dual-earner family

• single-parent family, blended family

III. Listening In

Task 1 & Task 2• childcare• caregiver (cf. wage-earner)• day care center

• home-based day care centers• highly-industrialized societies• a non-standard shift• dual-earner families

Task 1 & Task 2• Are there more nuclear families?

highly-industrialized societies, urbanization• Are there more dual-earner families?

father: the sole wage-earner, mother: the principal caregiver, male chauvinism______dual-earner family: divide the childcare evenly, one has a non-standard shift

• With both parents working, how can kids be raised? grandparent/relative, nanny/maid 保姆 /baby-sitter临时保姆 , day care center

•Many home-based day care centers have sprung up to fulfill this need.

Task 1 & Task 2• Are there more nuclear families?

highly-industrialized societies, urbanization• Are there more dual-earner families?

father: the sole wage-earner, mother: the principal caregiver, male chauvinism 大男子主义 , shy away from housework, parenting is seen as a woman’s job and a man’s hobbydual-earner family: divide the childcare evenly, one has a non-standard shift

• With both parents working, how can kids be raised? grandparent/relative, nanny/maid 保姆 /baby-sitter临时保姆 , day care centerMany home-based day care centers have sprung up to fulfill this need.

Task 3Changes• Instead of cherishing the traditional notion of filial piety, you

ng people take a new approach to a welfare society. • The _____ of supporting the elderly should ____ ____ society a

s a whole rather than …• the eroding of traditional family ____ • equate economic assistance ____ loveReasons• ag(e)ing population• a welfare society, social security, pension 养老金• nuclear families, empty nests 空巢 , dual-earner families

birth control/family planning, only childHow to support the elderly• family, nanny 保姆• community, apartments for seniors• nursing homes, old people’s homes• anti-mortgage 反按揭

Task 3Changes• Instead of cherishing the traditional notion of filial piety, you

ng people take a new approach to a welfare society. • The burden of supporting the elderly should fall on society as

a whole rather than …• the eroding of traditional family bonds• equate economic assistance with loveReasons• ag(e)ing population• a welfare society, social security, pension 养老金• nuclear families, empty nests 空巢 , dual-earner families

birth control/family planning, only childHow to support the elderly• family, nanny 保姆• community, apartments for seniors• nursing homes, old people’s homes• anti-mortgage 反按揭

• Should the burden of supporting the elderly fall on society as a whole, or on individual families?a welfare society, social security network

• What message can you get from these two songs?常回家看看时间都去哪了the eroding of traditional family bondsequate economic assistance with love

IV. Speaking OutModel 1

Model 1 Is youth wasted on the young?• have a hectic time doing …

• I’m this close to getting a promotion.• move up the ladder at work

Qs:1. Career and family, which is of more value

to you?2. When does a couple start a family (have

children) on average? When would you like to?

3. How many kids would young people/you like to have?

4. Is it tough for average households to afford to have a baby?

5. What do you think of a DINK family?

IV. Speaking OutModel 3

Model 3 Why not have both our parents here for Christmas?

• my folks’• a thick skin

• What does having a few fish do for you?

• 很久• 说得过头• 配不上你

不般配• 说真的

说实在的• 的确有道理

• for ages/an age• Don’t overstate it.

Don’t overdo it. • not good enough for

younot the match for you

• seriouslyhonestly

• That certainly makes sense. You have a great point.

Create a dialog:Who’s parents’ should the young couple go to

for the first Spring Festival after their wedding?– Boy: tradition, my folks’, first year– Girl: equality, only child– Boy: Your mom never thought I was the

match for you. – Girl: a thick skin, biased/prejudiced, a

chance to alter her impression– Boy: Why not have both our parents here?

Now your turnTask 2: survey1. Do you live in a nuclear family or an extended one? 2. Do you enjoy the company of brothers, sisters or cousins? 3. Do your parents and grandparents live in the same place/region? 4. How often do you visit or call each other? (the Spring Festival)

5. Do both of your parents work ？6. How do they divide childcare and housework?

7. Who took care of you when you were young?8. When do you become independent, financially or spiritually?

9. How would your family members show love and care to each other?

10.Do you say “I love you” to each other?

The changing picture of family life• Love match vs arranged marriages 包办婚姻 , average

age of marriage• Family size and location• Wage-earner(s)• Childcare and housework• Family planning: when, how many kids, caregiver, ex

pense• Supporting the elderly: how, expense (social security)• Divorce and single-parent families

Remarriage and blended families• Migrant workers and home-stay children

留守儿童

The shifting notions about family • Views about love, marriage and divorce• The expression of love (romance 风花雪月 vs realit

y)

• The expectation for husbands, the self-esteem of men, male chauvinism, hen-pecked 怕老婆

• The status of wives • Spinsters 剩女

• Filial piety• The relationship between mothers-in-law and dau

ghters-in-law 婆媳关系• The care and expectation for children

望子成龙、盼女成凤• Sons vs daughters (superior?) 重男轻女

VI

Task 1: Reasons for a Divorce• I’m divorcing my husband. • What are your grounds for divorce?• irresponsibility, a right to stability, fulfill his

duties, live around the poverty line• joint custody, visitation rights, financial dem

ands, support payments