Success Built to Last:Creating a Life That Matters

Group Members:

Miguel Lopez

Jeff Neumeister

Harris Santoso

Lanka Withanage

Porras, Emery & Thompson, 2007

WMBA 560 – Ethical Leadership

Dr. Joan Marques

Spring 2011 Semester, 1st Session

Introduction

• From Built to Last to Success

Built to Last

• ―Enduring Successful People‖

or ―Builders‖

Mark Thompson

Co-Author of

Success Built to

Last

IntroductionSome Names Reflecting Sustained Success

Madeleine Albright

Lance Armstrong

John Seely Brown

Warren Buffet

Jimmy Carter

Morris Chang

Deepak Chopra

Bill Clinton

Douglas Daft

Michael Dell

Robert Dole

Peter Drucker

Sally Field

Steve Forbes

Bill Gates

Bill George

Charles Goodwin

Peter Jennings

Steve Jobs

Jack La Lanne

Ed Liddy

Yo-Yo Ma

Nelson Mandela

John McCain

Fabrizio Parini

Jane Bryant Quinn

Eric Schmidt

Charles Schwab

William Sharpe

John Thain

Barbara Walters

Jack Welch

Muhammad Yunus

Part I: Meaning—How

Successful People Stay

SuccessfulHarris Santoso

From Great to LastingRedefining Success

―Famous executives out there fundamentally gild the lily. They don’t tell you the awful truth about the pain you will face.‖

Creating a life that matters is what most everybody wants.

• Builders, as we call them, do things because they want to build a meaningful life.

• They want to create a life that matters.

For Builders, the real definition of success is a life and work that brings personal fulfillment and lasting relationships and makes a difference in the world in which they live.

• Wealth, fame, and power are not actually goals or accomplishments for most of them.

Three Essential Elements of

Success Built to Last

“it’s about the pleasure of work itself – we’ve almost

completely forgotten about that. The quality of loving the

work is one of the most important values that we can

bring to people.”

Three Simple, But Not Easy, Pieces

That Must Fit Together

• Builders don’t seek goals for their

own sake; they find something that

holds great meaning for them

first, so meaning is on top, informing

the rest of the model.

• Builders manage their thoughts in

ways that keep them on track and

then take relentless action in pursuit

of what matters to them (meaning).

• The great opportunity in life and

work is to make that target in the

center as big as possible by brining

all three circles together and

increasing the degree of overlap.

Love It or Lose ItPassions and the Quest for Meaning

Love What You Do

If you don’t lovewhat you’redoing, you’ll lose tosomeone whodoes!

For every personwho is half-heartedabout their work orrelationships, thereis someone elsewho loves whatthey’re half-heartedabout.

This person willwork harder andlonger. They willoutrun you.

Although it mightfeel smarter tohang onto an oldrole, you’ll findyour energy isdepleted and,miraculously, you’llbe the first in linefor layoffs whenthey come.

The Secret of Life

There is a good chance you feel there is something missing in life – or you are on an incessant search for meaning – until you make one simple choice.

Those uncertainties can dog you in a never-ending but noble quest until you just go out and serve

somebody.

When you are deeply immersed in the process of doing whatever you are doing, and completely lose track of time and place, you are in flow experience.

When you find you’ve forgotten social graces while doing what you love, then that is probably a clue

about your calling in life, or at least you have found one of your passions.

Rational Optimism or Irrational

Exuberance

When you suppress your passion, you are teaching yourself to become a

cynic.

You’re cynical because you

care and don’t want to risk getting hurt.

On the other hand, lovers win because they are

willing to take that risk for the right reasons.

They are openly optimistic and grateful for the circumstances

that helped make their experience

possible.

You’ve got to love what you’re doing or you can

be sure there will be someone

else who will. Falling in

love, with all the rational and

irrational exuberance that

is involved, is the only way you have a prayer of creating

success that lasts.

Portfolio of PassionsIt’s Not About Balance

Balance is Bullshit

• The idea is that there is just one passion for your life, and when you know what it is, you’ll be happy.

• It rarely works this way.

• What you really need is to balance your portfolio of passions.

• You don’t have to make a career of everything that is meaningful to you,

• but you do need to find a place for everything that is meaningful to you.

• That’s the balance that you are seeking.

Stealth Passions and the Power of

Peripheral Thinking

Peripheral thinking has the potential to connect you with a higher authority.

Many people have creative breakthroughs in prayer, or meditation,

or even playing basketball.

It might unlock a passion that is your secret talent or even an new specialty you’ve been unable or unwilling to reveal

What you’d rather be doing when the world isn’t watching and not requiring you to pay bills.

Carve out a little time each week, on the job or after work,

to experiment in some way with one of your other passions.

Why Successful People Stay

SuccessfulIntegrity to Meaning

Don’t Treat Passion Like a Trivial

Pursuit

To ask them why they’re still ―working‖

is to dismiss their passions as trivial

pursuits.

We made that mistake more than

once in our interviews. It

seemed an innocent question, but only

served to demonstrate that we

didn’t get it.

There is no destination for them.

Their passions create meaning in their lives that is nothing short of

lifelong obsession from which they seek no escape.

One Value That Builders Have in

Common

Remarkable Builders

• Each of them is pursuing an underdog, against-all-odds story—beating a path away from the big monopolies of fundamentalism.

• They want to deliver what they think is a better way for regular people and the rest of the world.

• They believe that values are like individual creative expression and happiness in our lives to which we should all aspire, no matter how impractical, or dangerous that may seem.

Part II: ThoughtStyles—

Extreme Makeovers Start

In Your HeadMiguel Lopez

―Well , let’s settle it. The first

ThoughtStyle for success

that lasts is this: Success is

not externally dependent.‖

The Silent ScreamWhy It’s So Damn Hard to Do What Matters

What is the Silent Scream?

What are the

issues?

Friends &

Family

Positiveoutcomes

Self doubt

Four Good Reasons to Give Up Right

Now, Before You Do Something

Really Stupid

• Trap #1: It’s Not Considered a Worthy Career

• Trap #2: Bright Shiny Objects for Our Driveways, Resumes, and Ring Fingers

• Trap #3: The Seduction of Competence

• Trap #4: The ―Tyranny of the OR‖

These four traps undermine your ability to respond to the silent scream:

The Cause Has CharismaYou Don’t Have to Be Charismatic to Be

Successful

• Leaders They Interviewed

• Their Cause

• Norma Hotaling– ―In order for you to do what matters in a way

that you are healthy, you can’t pretend or deaden out like a machine – to steel yourself doesn’t work. You have to feel everything and use it.‖

Key Concepts to Achieve

Success

• The courage to Move Forward– Dr. Francine Patterson

• When the Cause Has Charisma, Shrinking Violets Bloom in Public– Personality

– Jen-sen Huang, Nvidia CEO

Key Concepts to Achieve

SuccessContinued

• Trust Your Passion Enough to Become an Expert at It– Condoleezza Rice

• Whatever You Are, Be a Great One

• It Starts with You, But Ultimately, It’s Not About You

Key Concepts to Achieve

SuccessContinued

• The World Would Be a Darker Place Without You– ―When you can come to the point where you

accept yourself for who you are ―warts and all‖ and you can embrace what you love , for better or for worse, you have a better chance of finding lasting success.‖

• Self-Esteem Is Highly Overrated– It is about the quality of work

– Mistakes are going to occur

Part II: ThoughtStyles—

Extreme Makeovers Start In

Your Head

Lanka Withanage

The Tripping Point

• The Monk & ―The Splat!‖

• Great leaders are really great at

failure

• ―1 % inspiration and 99 %

perspiration‖ – Thomas Edison

In Front of Adversity

• Face adversities

• Acknowledge them

• Fix what can be fixed

• Manage hardships

• Humor makes its easier

to accept who you are

• Few people positive

attitudes

• Negative Emotion to

Constructive Action

• Defeat or Struggles <

Ultimate goal

• Cherish the goal not the

misery

Yoda the Philosopher

• ―Do or do not. There is no try‖ – George Lucas

• The point of doing rather

than trying is to make no

mistake about your intentions

• Your effort must be an

intentional one – Filled with sincerity and

emotional commitment

Feelings Come Last?

• Everything is personal!

• You can’t change what you don’t

acknowledge – Carl Lewis

• Analyze what happened for the

Next Race

• It’s a Marathon, not a sprint

The Good Kind of Addictions

• Perfectionism & Persistence

• The Right Addictions

• Clinging to the Addiction

• Example: Jack Canfield – Chicken

Soup

• Every experience teaches

something

• Failure dissect problem = Doomed

to repeat

• Success and Failure = Feedback

• Gift and Warning

The Good Kind of AddictionsContinued

• Losing a battle gives way to better

ideas, what matters, what works

and what doesn’t

• Outside the box

• Importance of the Main goal over

one success or failure

The Good Kind of AddictionsContinued

Identify Your Weaknesses

• Don’t Deny Your Flaws

• Manage it, Include it, Cope with it

• Don’t let it stop you

• Example: ―Chuck‖ Charles Schwab

Part III: ActionStyles—

Turning Passion Into Action

Jeff A. Neumeister

Earning Your LuckPreparing for Serendipity by Using Big Hair

Audacious Goals (―BHAGs‖)

• Requisite ―Unreasonable Confidence‖

• Direction vs. Roadmap

• Goals Instilled With Meaning

• Serendipity via BHAGs

VS

Naked ConversationsHarvesting Contention

• Controlled Burn

• Set Ground Rules

• Playing the Conductor

• Don’t Be Right, Be Effective

Creating AlignmentThe Environment Always Wins

• Relationships Matter

• ―Don’t believe in words—only

believe in behaviors‖

• Align to Things with Meaning

Words = Actions = Intentions

Ethics

• Success Built to Last

• John McCain

• Personal &

Organizational

• Underlying Ethical

Foundation

Putting the Abstract into PracticeConclusion

Meaning

ActionThought