handling difficult people
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Difficult people can range from mildly irritating to the totally impossible to deal with. Here are some handy tips to handle them.TRANSCRIPT
Handling Difficult PeopleEky Sri Handayani
Difficult people can range from mildly irritating to the totally impossible to deal with.
Typical Types
• Clinging, need to be taken care of constantly.• Controlling, have to be right all the time. Their
desire to critize is endless. • Competitive, have to win all the time. They
won’t stop until they win.
Difficult People at Work
• Talk constantly and never listen (clinging type).
• Fail to keep commitments (clinging type). • Must always have the last word (competitive
type). • Criticize anything that they did not create
(controlling). Is that you?
How to handle them
• Clinging type, give them more responsibilities, instead of helping them to do the task, show them how to do it all by themselves. Leave them alone.
• Controlling, be strong and stand up for yourself. Show them you can do good jobs. Don’t be intimidated.
• Competitive, let them win and they will stop being competitive and being generous instead.
• Do you have your own tricks to handle impossible people?
One on one with an agresive person
1. Keep your cool – count to 102. Fly like an eagle – you can’t fly like an eagle if you hang
out with turkeys3. Shift from being reactive to pro active – put ourselves in
the difficult individual’s shoes4. Pick your battles - fight the battles that are truly worth
fighting or stay away5. Separate the person from the issue – soft on the person
but strong on the issue6. Be opposite of them and master the art of
communication
• Are you a difficult person?
Let’s find out...
Creating A Good Working Relationship
According to the Gallup Organization, people who have a good friend at work are seven times more likely to be satisfied and
engaged in their jobs
Characteristics of Good, Healthy Working Relationships
• Trust• Mutual Respect• Mindfulness• Welcoming Diversity• Open Communication
The ability to build and leverage a network of relationships was the best predictor of success –
Ken Blanchard
5 Mistakes in Building Working Relationship
• Taking before giving• Being an opportunistic relationship builder• Seeing relationship building as playing office
politics• Insincere, act as if good relationships can make
up for a lack of knowledge and skills• Limiting relationship circle, only develop
relationships only with people who are similar to them or who belong in their peer group
Benefit of Maintaining A Good Working Relationship
• Work is more enjoyable• Reduce Stress• Become more productive; encourage
innovation and creativity• More work satisfaction
• Everybody can have fun at work. Why not???
A peacok in in the land of penguins...
in the courtesy of youtube...
So let’s maintain a happy working office!