you'll see it when you believe it!

You’ll See It When You Believe It!

Presented by Rob Straby, M.A.

www.Straby.com

Through the Looking Glass “I can’t believe that!” said Alice. “Can’t you?” the Queen said in a pitying tone. “Try

again: draw a long breath, and shut your eyes.” Alice laughed. “There’s no use trying,” she said.

“One can’t believe impossible things.” “I dare say you haven’t had much practice,” said the

Queen. “When I was your age, I always did if for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”

Lewis Carroll

Learning Outcomes: To understand the

nature of beliefs and how they affect human behaviour

To experiment with an approach for reframing a limiting belief

Agenda: Beliefs Bingo Understanding beliefs Identifying your

limiting beliefs Strategy session Re-viewing your beliefs Questions & answers

Guidelines:

•Please be sure to make

yourself comfortable

•Ask questions, give

feedback

•Have fun learning!

Understanding Beliefs

What are your thoughts and feelings about the ‘Beliefs Bingo’ exercise?

Understanding Beliefs“Mental models are the images, assumptions, and stories, which we carry in our minds of ourselves, other people, institutions and their aspect of the world. Like a pane of glass framing and subtly distorting our visions, mental models determine what we see. Human beings cannot navigate through the complex environments of our world without cognitive “mental maps”; and these mental maps, by definition, are flawed in some way”

Peter Senge

Understanding Career BeliefsSupporting:“I like to write.”“I am a excellent musician.”I know I can find or create work I like.

Limiting:“No one would hire a person like me.”“There are no jobs out there.”“There are no opportunities for the work I like.”

Beliefs Can Affect: Choosing trades, college or university programs Finding an appropriate work role Rebounding after a job loss Dealing with job burnout Negotiating for a promotion Getting along with a boss and coworkers

Changing Our Minds

3 steps to challenging troublesome beliefs:

1.Identifying the troublesome belief, 2.Considering alternative ways of viewing the problem, and 3.Taking action incompatible with the troublesome belief.

Krumboltz

Identify Your Limiting Beliefs Find a partner, take

turns counselling each other

Share about some hopes or dreams you have about something you would like to do but don’t think is realistic

The counsellor is to listen for potentially limiting beliefs

Listen for phrases like:

1. I want to… but…

2. I can’t… because…

3. If it weren’t for…I would…

4. Being realistic, I…

5. I have to… because…

Debriefing Partner Exercise

What types of issues came up during your dialogue?

What questions do you have about eliciting beliefs?

Story Time…

Breathing Technique

Please sit with your lower back against the chair, your feet flat on the floor, and your arms and hands open.

Relax, close your eyes, and take three long, deep breaths.

Please Share Your Perceptions

Take a moment to collect your thoughts and reflect upon your experience

Find a partner and share your perceptions

Review Your Beliefs1. Change “but” to “and”

2. Change “can’t” to “won’t”

3. Substitute what you might be thinking, feeling, expecting, or doing that is interfering with solving the problem

4. Change “have” to “choose”

5. Write “my” followed by whatever fits

Act or Let Go Look for new

information Get support Confront a key person State my needs clearly Ask myself what I am

doing that is a problem Examine my own

commitment Change my behaviour

Ask if the situation is the way it is for a reason

Ask what I can learn from the situation

Listen more to others Practice serenity Identify what good can

come from this

Contract With Yourself1. I will change the way I view the situation

by doing the following…

2. I will change my emotional response / reaction by…

3. I will change my behaviour by doing the following…

Question & Answers How is this similar to

what you already know?

Where else have you seen different approaches that are effective?

What do you need to clarify?

Thank you!!!

Rob Straby

rob@straby.com

www.Straby.com