Leħen Familji Nsara Ottubru 2014 ● Ħarġa Nru 22 Kummissjoni Familja Naxxar

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Merħba Ħbieb! Bejn il-5 u d-19 ta’ Ottubru, isqfijiet minn madwar id-dinja ser jiltaqgħu għas-Sinodu Straordinarju

dwar ‘L-isfidi pastorali tal-familja fil-kuntest tal-evanġeliżazzjoni’. Dan ser ikun mument qawwi

għall-Knisja kollha u għaldaqstant kull Nisrani hu msejjaħ biex jissieħeb u jagħti sehmu. Peress li fuq

kollox din il-laqgħa ser tkun mument ta’ talb, il-Papa Franġisku qed iħeġġeġ biex nhar il-Ħadd 28

ta’ Settembru 2014, l-Insara tad-dinja kollha jingħaqdu f’qalb waħda u ruħ waħda fit-talb bi

tħejjija għal dan is-Sinodu.

Talba lill-Familja Mqaddsa tal-Papa Franġisku għas-Sinodu 2014-2015:

Ġesu’, Marija u Ġużeppi,

fikom aħna nikkontemplaw

is-sbuħija tal-imħabba vera,

lejkom aħna nduru b’fiduċja.

Familja Mqaddsa ta’ Nazzaret,

agħmel ukoll mill-familji tagħna

postijiet ta’ għaqda u ċenakoli ta’ talb,

skejjel awtentiċi tal-Vanġelu

u Knejjes żgħar tad-dar.

Familja Mqaddsa ta’ Nazzaret,

ħalli qatt aktar ma ngħaddu minn

esperjenzi ta’ vjolenza, ta’ egħluq u ta’

firda fil-familji: ħalli kull min kien miġrugħ

jew imfixxkel iġarrab malajr il-faraġ u l-

fejqan.

Familja Mqaddsa ta’ Nazzaret,

ħalli s-Sinodu tal-Isqfijiet li ġej

jixgħel mill-ġdid f’kulħadd

l-għarfien tal-karattru tal-familja

qaddis u li ma jitkissirx,

is-sbuħija tiegħu fil-proġett ta’ Alla.

Ġesu’, Marija u Ġużeppi,

isimgħu, u wieġbu din it-talba tagħna.

Amen.

Is-Sesswalità lingwaġġ ta’ Mħabba Huwa fatt magħruf li l-bniedem ma jistax jgħix

mingħajr imħabba. Billi l-bniedem ma jgħixx

mingħajr imħabba, hu għandu bżonn ta’

lingwaġġ biex jesprimi din l-imħabba. Wieħed

minn dawn il-lingwaġġi huwa s-sesswalità.

Għalkemm l-imħabba mhux bilfors tesprimi ruħha

f’attività sesswali, ebda mġiba sesswali ma tkun

ġenwina jekk il-mutur warajha ma tkunx l-

imħabba. Fil-fatt, kemm fl-istupru, fil-prostituzzjoni

u fil-pedofelija ma hemm ebda ħjiel tal-imħabba.

Kemm ir-relazzjonijiet sesswali barra minn posthom

u kemm l-imġiba sesswali perversa huma ħżiena

propju għaliex ikunu battala mill-imħabba vera.

Għalhekk ir-raġel u l-mara jkunu jħobbu lil xulxin

mhux għaliex ikun hemm intimità sesswali

bejniethom, imma bejniethom ikun hemm intimità

sesswali għaliex ikunu jinħabbu.

F’dan il-kwadru, l-att taż-żwieġ hu dak il-mument

li jesprimi l-laqgħa l-aktar profonda li jkun hemm

fil-qalb tal-miżżewġin. Ir-raġel u l-mara li jinħabbu,

ikunu fi djalogu kontinwu u jaslu f’mument fejn

bis-sesswalità huma jistqarru lil xulxin: jien ningħata

kollni kemm jien lilek, jew jien nilqa’ lilek f’ħajti

mingħajr ebda kundizzjoni!

Iżda dan il-lingwaġġ tal-imħabba jista’ jkun

jirrifletti l-verità jew il-falzità. Dan il-lingwaġġ isir

gidba meta s-sentimenti li jikkomunika ma jkunux

ġenwini. Koppja li tfittex li tingħaqad biss

fiżikament mhux f’kuntest ta’ mħabba, tkun

tibbanalizza s-sesswalità u tneżżagħha mit-tifsira

ġenwina tagħha. Għalhekk il-ġesti tar-relazzjoni

sesswali, li jirrappreżentaw l-aqwa espressjoni tal-

intimità fiżika bejn ir-raġel u l-mara, ma jistgħux

ma jkunux lingwaġġ li bih il-koppja tingħata lil

xulxin.

Estratt minn ITTRA PASTORALI tal-E.T. Mons. Mario Grech Isqof ta’

Għawdex “L-IMĦABBA SABIĦA (Il-Vanġelu tas-Sesswalità)”

A Forgotten Secret to Raising Catholic

Children in a Secular Culture

The family dinner can be the key to

immunizing ourselves against the anti-family

culture that surrounds us. This regular

meeting conveys that no matter what

happens, your family will be there at the end

of the day, to love you and remind you of

what really matters. When parents make it a

priority to be home for dinner, the kids know

that the family is important!

Even though everyone is tired at this time of

day, we should remember that it is not just

about the food. We need to put some

personality into it! This ritual is the building

block for knowing each other well, showing

care and consistency, and giving kids a

concrete expectation for unity and fidelity.

Family dinners are also a great time to teach

basic manners. That means no interrupting,

no monopolizing the conversation and

having the self-control to listen. Poor

manners put kids at a real disadvantage in

the adult world. Kids should take turns, say

“please” and “thank you” and refrain from

eating until grace is said.

Help kids make sense of what they have

seen and heard

Dinner conversations can be pretty chaotic

when kids are young, but as they get older,

the art of conversation has to be

developed. This is a time to talk about the

issues of the day, movies, politics, how

people treat each other at school and how

to interpret what is going on. This helps kids

make sense of what they have seen and

heard. This is also a time to develop a

charitable sense of humour and remind

each other to avoid gossip. Discuss what is

going on in their lives and yours in terms of

the values you are teaching.

each other to avoid gossip. Discuss what is

going on in their lives and yours in terms of

the values you are teaching.

After school or work meetings and sport

practices are routinely scheduled at the

same time that families used to gather

together over a family meal. Strong families

do not just accidentally happen while

everyone is minding their own business. We

must fight the temptation to “do

everything” while sacrificing family life as

the most central and satisfying aspect of our

lives.

Many young adults today do not really

respect and know their parents

This is because they did not take the time to

look at each other, know each other, share

each other’s burdens, and challenge each

other. Let them hear your struggles and

know your stories. They really want to hear

about your childhood, your triumphs and

failures, the characters in your family. This will

connect them to you and your values. Tell

them of the heroic everyday sacrifices that

have gone before. Let them know that they

are part of a bigger picture that made

them who they are. Seeing themselves in

the larger context of the flawed, eccentric

but still loveable family tree will give them

the courage to risk failure.

The family dinner is a key constant that

creates and strengthens family culture. It is a

time of sharing, listening, forgiveness and

laughing. It provides the warmth and

perspective to drown out the shallow pop

culture.

Adapted from an article by Marie Bellet available at

http://dads.org/articles

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Apply this to your marriage:

"Whoever desires to love life and see good

days, let him keep his tongue from evil and

his lips from speaking deceit; let him turn

away from evil and do good; let him seek

peace and pursue it." (1 Peter 3:10-11)