Never Say Goodbye

张小娴• 忘掉岁月，忘掉痛苦• 　　我们永不，永不，说再见• 　　人生总有无法不说再见的时候，我们的人生，不

正是不停地说再见吗？• 　　生命短暂，能够说再见，还有机会再见，已经是

多么的幸运？• 　　有时候，我们不是不想说再见，而是不敢。已经

习惯了，已经投资了自己的青春，一旦离开了，不知道以后会变成怎样。然而，人要勇于说再见，才有幸福的可能。

• 　　但愿我们都有说再见的智慧和勇气。当我不想说再见，只是因为我还在乎；而快乐，还是比痛苦多出了很多倍。

When will you say goodbye ？• Lover‘s departure• Friends’ leaving• Family’s passing away• Being away from hometown• Your past/history

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Ways of saying goodbye

• goodbye/bye • see you • later/catch you later/around ( see again soon, for young) • so long ( do not meet again for long time)• have a nice day/good weekend/great time etc • have a good one( good wish) • take care • take it easy (for friends, family member) • nice to meet you/nice meeting you (for friends met for the first time)

How do you say “goodbye” ？• so long; 语气客气，耽误你很长时间了

goodbye; 最普通，不见的时候希望你一切安好bye-bye 是它的略称，也最常用， for children

• Catch you later ， see you tomorrow ( 很快见面）

Farewell 告别，永别，告别演唱会和送别会

• Farewell ： old-fashioned the action of saying goodbye ； farewell party /dinner /drink etc a party or dinner that you have because someone is leaving a job, city

• A Farewell to Arms ： (1929) a novel by Ernest Hemingway about the romantic relationship between a US man who is working as an ambulance driver and an English nurse in Italy during World War I

How do you say goodbye ？• 约会分手时，他 ( 她 ) 会：• 　　 A 、 目送你离开。• 　　 B 、头也不回的走了。• 　　 C 、 看着你的眼睛道别。• 　　 D 、 频频回首兼挥手。• 　　 E 、 握手道别。

• 选 A ：目送你离开的人，是个非常体贴，善解人意的人，虽然在意对方，不过却不会勉强对方，对于爱人或朋友的要求都会竭尽全力办妥。

• 选 B ：分手后头也不回的人为人比较乐天，不拘小节。乍看之下这种人颇为冷淡，但在紧张关头他 ( 她 ) 一定全力保护对方，是个重视家庭的人。

• 选 C ：看着你的眼睛说再见，通常都是因为心里有话想说却说不出口，或是心中有疑惑。这时正是你发挥男 ( 女 ) 朋友责任的时候，否则，后果可能不堪设想。

• 选 D ：他 ( 她 ) 一再回头和挥手，表示他 ( 她 )很想你，当他 ( 她 ) 这样做时，亦希望你会这样做，属于礼尚往来的人。

• 选 E ：如果握手说再见是个少有的举动，但哪一天分手他 ( 她 ) 却这样做，表示他 ( 她 ) 那天过得非常愉快，充实。另外，亦表示对方有性方面的欲望。

Inspiration

• Life is full of turns where we need to say goodbye, and goodbye is always a sad word. But do you still remember our first “hello”, and the beautiful moments that we shared together?

• Let the fruits of joys grow during the departure, my friends, till the next time we meet.

People in our lives

• Some people come into our lives and quickly go,

• Some people move our souls to dance.• They awaken us to new understanding

with the passing whispering of their wisdom.

• Some people make the sky more beautiful to gaze upon.

• They stay in our lives for a while, leave footprints in our hearts, and we are never , ever the same.

• It is not easy to live life sometimes.• And face the world with a smile

when you’re crying inside.• It takes a lot of courage to reach

down inside yourself.• Hold on to that strength that’s still

there.

• And know that tomorrow is a new day---with new possibilities.

• But if you can just hold on long enough to see this through,

• You’ll come out a new person---stronger

• With more understanding and with a new pride in yourself.

Never say goodbye Hayley Westenra

• If I could take this moment foreverTurn the pages of my mindTo another place and timeWe would never say goodbye

If I could find the words I would speak themThen I wouldn't be tongue-tiedWhen I looked into your eyesWe would never say goodbye

• If I could stop the moon ever risingDay would not become the nightAnd we'd never say goodbyeI wish that our dreams were frozenThen our hearts would not be brokenWhen we let each other go...

• If I could steal this moment foreverPaint a picture-perfect smileSo our story stayed aliveWe would never say goodbye

Learning objectives

• grasp the author’s purpose of writing and make clear the structure of the whole passage through an intensive reading of Text 1 Never Say Goodbye.

• comprehend the topic sentences in Text 1 thoroughly and be able to paraphrase them.

• get a list of new words and structures and use them freely in conversation and writing.

• be aware of the cross-cultural differences in the social behavior of Giving Gifts.

Pre-reading question

• Have you family ever moved from one place to another? If you have, how did you feel when you were going to be away from the old house for good?

• Have you ever attended a funeral of someone you knew very well? If you have, what were you thinking when you saw him for the last time?

How do we say goodbye to a terminal patient family?

HOSPICE CARE 临终关怀• 第一，允许他去世。第二，保证在他死后，他会过

得很好，没有必要为他担心。• 坐在他们所爱的人床边，以最深切、最诚恳的柔和

语气说：「我就在这里陪你，我爱你。你将要过世，死亡是正常的事。我希望你可以留下来陪我，但我不要你再受更多苦。我们相处的日子已经够了，我将会永远珍惜。现在请不要再执著生命，放下，我完全诚恳地允许你去世。你并不孤独，现在乃至永远。你拥有我全部的爱。」

Text Analysis

• Part I (para1-4) The problem the author was confronted with.

• Part II (para5-13)Grandpa illustrates the meaning of “never say goodbye”.

• Part III (para14-20)The author’s understanding of “never say goodbye”.

Part One: (Paragraphs 1-4)

• Main idea: • bringing up the problem the author w

as confronted with: it is hard to overcome the sadness as the moment of parting drew near. So he turned to his grandpa for help.

Para one

• It introduces the background and serves as the beginning of the story. Through this para. We get to know sth. about the author and his problem.

• Why was the author seized with the anguish of moving from his home?

•

Questions for thought

• Because it was the only home that the author had ever known. His whole life, brief as it was, had been spent in that old house, gracefully touched with the laughter and tears of four generations. That was why he was feeling extremely reluctant and bitterly sad to move away from his old home.

• What do you know about the author’s home mentioned in the beginning?

• The author’s home was a large old house, in which four generations had lived in harmony and experienced both happiness and sadness.

Language points• confront: be faced with and have to d

eal with• confront sb. with sb./sth. • A soldier often has to confront danger

and death.• confront reality 正视现实•我的家与他的家对门。• My house confronts his.

be confronted with:   面临

• 1. 她面对罪证供认不讳 .• When confronted with the evidence of

her guilt, she confessed. • 2. 这种新的制度一开始将会面临很大困难。• The new system will be confronted wit

h great difficulties at the start.

• 他为这次面试中可能面对的问题准备好了答案。

• He has prepared answers to the questions that he expects to confront during the interview.

“confront” vs. “face”• 都含“面对”的意思。• confront”: 指“遇到”、“面对”、“使 ... 对立”， 正式用语， 如：

She confronted the vital question of being bankrupt. 她面临要破产的重大问题。

• face: 指“正视”、“面对”、“不想逃避”， 属口语体， Let's face the facts instead of evading them. 让我们面对现实， 不要逃避。

2 anguish

• mental or physical suffering caused by extreme pain or worry:

• the anguish of not knowing what had happened to her

• an anguished cry for help• N. written form

• in anguish• 1. The child was badly hurt and was in

anguish all the evening. 2. Nothing can take away the anguish o

f losing a child.• 什麽都不能解除失去孩子的巨大悲痛 .• mental anguish 心理苦闷

3 brief as it was

• brief as it was : although it lasted a short time

• as: although: though• P 8. Ex III• Rewrite the following sentences• Though he was poor,…• Although I was very tired,…

4 gracefully

• 1 moving in a smooth and attractive way, or having an attractive shape or form:

• Her movements were graceful and elegant.• 2 behaving in a polite and pleasant

way:• Her father was a quiet man with graceful

manners.• —gracefully adverb:• She rose gracefully to her feet.• —gracefulness noun [uncountable]

Beauty

•5 Touched with the laughter and tears of four generations:

• touched with the happiness and bitterness of four generations. The sentence implies that “…the house which had seen and/witnessed the joys and sorrows of the four generations of my family.

– touch: have an effect on one’s feelings; to cause one to feel pity, sympathy, etc.

E.g. His sad story so touched us that we nearly cried.

* be touched with: have a certain amount of quality

E.g. Her hair is touched with gray.

Old house

Paragraph 2-4

• When the author was shuddering and crying on the final day on which he had to move from his old home, his grandfather came up to comfort him. Not to use the word “goodbye” to friends, for it implies sadness.

Para 2-4

• Q3: Why did the author shudder and shed tears when the final day came?

• • Q4: Why did his grandfather advise

him not to use the word “goodbye” to friends?

• Because in the eyes of his grandfather the word “goodbye” seemed too final, too cold, for friends to use and it implied sadness or unhappiness, and also because his grandfather wanted him to think of joyful and happy events of life instead of feeling sad and miserable.

haven

• a place where people or animals can live peacefully or go to in order to be safe

• The riverbanks are a haven for wildlife.• St Ives, a haven for artists and hippies• a haven of peace/tranquility/calm• In the middle of the city, this garden is a

haven of tranquility.

porch

shudder

• to shake for a short time because you are afraid or cold, or because you think something is very unpleasant

• I shudder with embarrassment whenever I think about it.

• He shuddered at the thought ofthe conflict ahead.

• well: 涌出 , 涌现• (of liquid) flow or start to flow• Blood welled (out) form the cut.• well out• well up• well forth• e.g. She was so moved that her tears welle

d (up, forth, out) in her eyes.

feel a hand rest on my shoulder

• feel+object+infinitive without “to” • Similar words are “watch, make, Le

t, have, see, hear, notice”• feel+ complex object, the infinitive w

ithout “to” is adopted. • Ex p. 8

• Rest on/upon

– 1) lean on; to be supported by– 2)(esp. of a proof, argument,

etc.) be based on; be grounded on; depend on

E.g. Your argument rests on a statement that cannot be proved..

• Through one’s tears:

– With tears in one’s eyes ； while shedding tears

– Through: among or between the parts or members of

E.g. I searched through my papers for the missing documents.

• Stare– 1) look steadily for a long time, esp.

in great surprise or shock E.g. He sat staring into space,

thinking deeply.– 2) be very plain to see; to be

obvious E.g. The lies in the report stared out

at us from every paragraph. – * stare off: stare away; to move

one’s eyes

• stare at 凝视 ,盯住• stare into 凝视• stare sb. in the face 盯着某人的脸看 , 迫在眉睫• stare sb. up and down 上下打量某人• stare sb. into silence 用眼睛瞪得某人哑口无言

stare

• By narrating his sad experience of the loss of his eldest son during the war, grandpa illustrates how one can overcome the sad feeling resulting from the loss of someone dear to him by recalling not the moment of parting but the happy times spent together.

Part Two: (Paragraphs 5-13)

Questions for thought

Why did the author’s grandfather take him to see the rosebush in the front yard?

• What does the rosebush symbolize?

• Because grandpa wanted to tell him a true story related to the rosebush and hoped to enable him to feel with his heart how beautiful those roses were! Also bcs grandpa wanted to reveal his special associations with the roses and with his saying goodbye to his son, as well as disclose the root cause of his advice not to say goodbye to one’s relatives and friends.

• How to appreciate the last sentence of Para 9?

• It is not only the roses that are beautiful, Billy. Also, it is that special feeling you deeply cherish that makes them beautiful.

look into (investigate)1. A committee was set up to look into the wo

rkers‘ grievances. 成立了一个委员会来调查工人的不满。

2. The government has set up a working party to look into the problem of drug abuse. 政府已成立工作组调查滥用毒品问题

3. They stopped to look into the window. 他们停下来看看橱窗。

• Whisper: – 1) speak or say very quietly so that only

a person close by can hear E.g. She whispered a warning to me and

then disappeared.

– 2) (of the wind, etc) make a soft sound 飒飒地响

E.g. The leaves of the trees were whispering in the wind.

conspicuously [ kən'spikjuəsli ]  • conspicuous: [ k n‘spikju s ] a. ə ə 显著

的 ,显而易见的 very easy to notice• 1. Lincoln is a conspicuous example of

a poor boy who succeeded.•林肯是一个穷苦孩子而功成名就的出色例子。

• 2.A traffic sign should be conspicuous.•交通标志应该明显。

• 3.If you're walking along a badly-lit road at night you should wear conspicuous clothes.

•晚上在照明很差的路上行走 , 应该穿显眼的衣物 .

• make oneself conspicuous•标新立异， 惹人注目• He was conspicuous for his bravery.• 他因骁勇而出名。

It isn’t …. that 强调句型 stress pattern

• It isn’t just the rose that are beautiful: It is that special place in your heart that makes them so.

• That special place in your heart makes them beautiful.

• It is that place in your heart that makes them beautiful.

• P 9 Ex IV

Para 10-13: The telling of the story related to the rosebush. The message of the text is conveyed in Para. 13

• Para 10 is a flashback. It tells us why the author’s grandpa planted those roses and what the roses symbolized.

• Para 11, though short, depicts the old man’s expression of sad emotion.

• Para 12 is also a flashback. It recounts the death of the old man’s first son and his response to it.

• Para 13 is the most important one, for it conveys the message of the text.

• Why did the grandpa plant those rose?

• He put those roses into the soil the day his first son was born. It was his way of saying thank-you to God, he felt so happy and gay on the day his first son was born that he wanted to thank God for his happy fortune by planting those roses.

• What kind of advice did the author’s grandfather offer in paragraph 13?

• Never to give in to the sadness and the loneliness of that word goodbye. He wanted him to remember instead the joy and the happiness of those times when he first said hello to a friend.

hoarse

• if you are hoarse, or if your voice is hoarse, you speak in a low rough voice, for example because your throat is sore: He was hoarse from laughing.

• hoarse voice/whisper/groan etc• hoarsely/hoarseness

evil• someone who is evil deliberately

does very cruel things to harm other people

• something that is evil is morally wrong because it harms people

• very unpleasant: an evil smell• We must conquer the twin evils of

disease and poverty.• The greed for money is the root of

all the evils.

tiny

• extremely small: a tiny baby• She always felt a tiny bit sad.• speech/piece of writing: brief, concise, c

ondensed, abridged• person: not very tall, little, tiny, petite• time/event: brief, quick, momentary, fl

eeting, ephemeral, transient, passing, short-lived

• legs/fingers: stumpy, stubby• clothes: skimpy

give in to

• to finally agree to do or accept something that you had at first opposed, especially because someone has forced or persuaded you to

• 对女儿再三请求到国外去深造，他最终让步了。• He finally gave in to his daughter’s r

epeated requests to further her education abroad.

lock away/up

• fasten it firmly in your mind; imprint it on your mind, bear it in your mind and never forget

• lock yourself away to keep yourself separate from other people by staying in your room, office etc

• 我们把所有的贵重物品都锁好了，然后才出去度假。

• We locked all our valuables away before we went on holiday.

• to put something in a safe place and lock the door, lid etc

• to put someone in prison [= lock up]:

• I hope they lock him away for years.

• …in that place in your heart where there is always sunlight and warmth, is always filled with joy and happiness.

• Metaphorical, always here adjective

• Maybe this shows the old man was not well-educated.

part

• To cause to separate or be no longer together

• He has parted from his wife.• be parted (from somebody) to

be prevented from being with someone:

• They were hardly ever parted in thirty years of marriage.

虽然咱们分手了，但是我希望咱们依然是好朋友，像以前一样互相关心，互相帮助。

Although we have parted from each other, I hope that we will remain good friends and that we will care for and help each other just as we did in the past.

Para 14-20

• These tell us about the illness of grandfather, about how the author bid farewell to his grandfather and how he responded to grandpa’s death.

• Why did grandfather want his bed to be next to the window?

• Because he wanted to see his beloved rosebush through it and bcs the sight of the rosebush would remind him of the joy and happiness of his life he had experienced and make him feel nice and good and happy.

• Why was the family summoned to the old house?

• What do you think of the parting between the author and his grandfather?

• It was so cheerful and pleasant as if they were old friends greeting each other, which showed that his grandfather adopted an optimistic attitudes towards his own death and that the author became so strong-willed as not to give in to the sadness.

How did the author respond to his grandfather?

• He remained perfectly calm and composed instead of being plunged into bitter sadness. He reached deep within him for those special feelings that had made up their friendship, Suddenly and truly, he realized that his grandfather had meant about never say goodbye.

beloved

• literary or humorous loved very much by someone:

• He never recovered from the death of his beloved daughter.

• He's always talking about his beloved computer!

• beloved of/by• a book beloved of children everywhere• my/her etc beloved literary the perso

n that you love most

summon

• to order someone to come to a place:• Robert summoned the waiter for the

bill.• summon somebody to sth. /do sth.• if something summons up a memory,

thought, or image, it makes you remember it or think of it